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True love never dies.

True Love

True love is a sacred flame
That burns eternally,
And none can dim its special glow
Or change its destiny.
True love speaks in tender tones
And hears with gentle ear,
True love gives with open heart
And true love conquers fear.
True love makes no harsh demands
It neither rules nor binds,
And true love holds with gentle hands
The hearts that it entwines.

~Helen Steiner Rice

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A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and he handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on.

After his mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:

For cutting the grass: $5.00

For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00

For going to the store for you: .50

Baby-sitting my brother while you went shopping: .25

Taking out the garbage: $1.00

For getting a good report card: $5.00

For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00

Total owed: $14.75

Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he'd written on, and this is what she wrote:

For the nine months I nurtured you here
while you were growing inside me there:
No Charge.

For all the nights that I've sat up with you,
doctored and nursed and prayed for you:
No Charge.

For all the trying times, and all the tears
that you've caused through the years:
No Charge.

For all the nights that were filled with dread,
and for the worries I knew were ahead:
No Charge.

For the toys, food, clothes,
and even wiping your runny nose:
No Charge.

When you add it up, the cost of my love is:
No Charge, Son.

When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, "Mom, I sure do love you".

And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: "PAID IN FULL"


~ Author Unknown

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In life, we all need a first aid kit in containing :1 a pair of glass2. 1 elastic3. 1 sticking plaster4. 1 pencil5. 1 eraser6. some soft linen threat7. 1 chocolate kiss8. 1 tea bagWhy do we need all this ? What for ?1. The pair of glass, to see and to appreciate the qualities people around us have2. The elastic, to be sure not to forget to be flexible when people and things aroundus are not as we have wished they would be3. The sticking plaster, to cure the hurted feelings, ours and others.4. The pencil, to write down all the good things that happen to us everyday (theyare plenty if you really think about)5. The eraser, to remind us that we all do mistakes and that most of the time wecan erase them6. Some soft linen thread, to tie to our heart people we love and who we mayforget in our daily life7. A chocolate sweet kiss to remind us we all need cuddle, kiss, sweet words.8. And finally, the tea bag so that at the end of the day we can relax and have somerest while thinking…Maybe for the world you are just one among others, but for one you may be the world…..Keep at hand this little first aid kit just in case of need .
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ButterflyA man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us.We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly!I did not write this story but i don't know where it comes from as i received it in from a frienda while go.
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Ingredients1 squint of love2 generous portions of honesty2 well rounded scoops of respect1 cup of sincerity1 cup of dialogue1 cup of trust1 cup of honesty1 cup of attention5 tablespoons of kindness5 tablespoons of complicity2 full teaspoons of sense of humourUnlimited sweet words, kisses and hugs,Instructions : very easy to do1. Take a big bowl and mix all together the first two ingredients2. Add little by little the next 7 ingredients and let their flavors developp to the fullest3. Sprinkle a little complicity4. A few pinches of sense of humour5. Put all the ingredients in a heart shape pan and glaze all with some kindness then, let itcook as long as you want, the longer is the better and don’t rest on your laurels, neverforget to re-add a pinch of every ingredients once in a while6.To make your recipe richest, and depending on the people, you can add the unlimitedingredients as much as you want.7. Serve with a huge smileThe abuse of this recipe is recommended for you to keep a good health.
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What we do for others counts most in life.We should learn to understand firstand to be understood second.We should never underestimate the power of a touch,a smile, a kind word, a listening ear,an honest compliment, or the smallest act ofcaring ,all of which have the potentialto turn a life around....Life ends when we stop Dreaming,Hope ends when we stop believing,Love ends when we stop caring,Friendship ends when we stop sharing....We should be genuinely interested in people.If we try, we can like (almost) everybody, andEverybody will like us.....When we find a dream inside our heartWe should never let it goFor dreams are the tiny seeds fromWhich beautiful tomorrows growWishing you a beautiful futurfull of love.
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As you travel through life there are always those timesWhen decisions just have to be made,When the choices are hard, and solutions seem scarce,And the rain seems to soak your parade.There are some situations where all you can doIs simply let go and move on,Gather your courage and choose a directionThat carries you toward a new dawn.So pack up your troubles and take a step forward —The process of change can be tough,But think about all the excitement aheadIf YOU can be stalwart enough!There might be adventures you never imaginedJust waiting around the next bend,And wishes and dreams just about to come trueIn ways you can't yet comprehend!Perhaps you'll find friendships that spring from new thingsAs you challenge your status quo,And learn there are so many options in life,And so many ways you can grow!Perhaps you'll go places you never expectedAnd see things that you've never seen,Or travel to fabulous, faraway worldsAnd wonderful spots in between!Perhaps you'll find warmth and affection and caringAnd somebody special who's thereTo help you stay centered and listen with interestTo stories and feelings you share.Perhaps you'll find comfort in knowing your friendsAre supportive of all that you do,And believe that whatever decisions you make,They'll be the right choices for you.So keep putting one foot in front of the other,And taking your life day by day ...There's a brighter tomorrow that's just down the road —Don't look back! You're not going that way!~© Mary Engelbreit
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Online friends...

There's a land where I go, when I need to share,That's not on a map, yet exists everywhere;Lots of names without faces, a curious place,A virtual creation that's called — cyberspace.There are all sorts of people with cute little handles,Like Jasmine and Sandman and Rosebud and Jangles;Some can be snobs, though most are great fun,And some of them just want to talk with someone.Both good and bad, they all play a role,And each one's unique, but part of the whole;We chat and we laugh and often we sigh,We 'hug' and sometimes we cry.We can't be heard and we can't be seen,Still we can 'talk' right there on that screen;But, all in all, the most curious partIs the power this has to open our hearts.We share with a stranger stuff we've concealedFrom our closest of friends , things we never reveal !Our deepest regrets and most troubling fears,The scars in our life which bring us to tears.What gives them the power to reach into meAnd show me the truths that I never see ?How do they manage to open my eyesAnd make me confess the pain and the lies?This must have been planned by Spirit above,Few places on earth can bring so much love;When I need some direction I know I can findThose angels from heaven just waiting online.~Author Unknown (Adaptation)
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Love and forgiveness

Sometimes it takes adverse conditionsfor people to reach out to one anotherSometimes it takes bad luckfor people to understand their goals betterSometimes it takes a stormfor people to appreciate the calmSometimes it takes being hurtfor people to be more sensitive to feelingsSometimes it takes doubtfor people to trust one anotherSometimes it takes seclusionfor people to find out who they really areSometimes it takes disillusionmentfor people to become informedSometimes it takes feeling nothingfor people to feel everythingSometimes it takes our emotions and feelingsto be completely penetratedfor people to open up to loveSometimes it takes a lot of heart "intelligence"for two people to forgive each others
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Stress Reducers

Pray.Go to bed on time.Get up early so you can start the day unrushed.Say "No" to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.Delegate tasks to "capable others."Simplify and unclutter your life. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.Pace yourself.Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.Take one day at a time.Separate worries from concerns.If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you to do and let go of the anxiety.If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases.Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, etc.K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut.) This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.Do something for the Kid in You everyday.Get enough exercise.Eat right.Get organized so everything has its place.Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.Write thoughts and inspirations down.Everyday, find time to be alone.Having problems? Talk to God on the spot.Try to nip small problems in the bud.Don't wait until its time to go to bed to try and pray.Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good "Thank you, Lord!"Laugh.Laugh some more!Take your work seriously, but not yourself.Develop a forgiving attitude (just realize that most people are doing the best they can).Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).Sit on your ego.Talk less; listen more.Slow down.Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before.Stress is the number one killer in the world today.(Remember how you felt the last time you were stressed?)Reducing stress in your life should become a major priority. Your life depends on it.~ author unknown ~
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A little boy asked his mother, "Why are you crying?""Because I'm a woman," she told him."I don't understand," he said.His Mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will."Later the little boy asked his father,"Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?""All women cry for no reason," was all his dad could say.The little boy grew up and became a man,still wondering why women cry.Finally he put in a call to God.When God answered, he asked,"God, why do women cry so easily?"God said:"When I made the woman she had to be special.I made her shoulders strong enoughto carry the weight of the world,yet gentle enough to give comfort.I gave her an inner strengthto endure childbirthand the rejectionthat many times comes from her children.I gave her a hardnessthat allows her to keep goingwhen everyone else gives up,and take care of her familythrough sickness and fatigue without complaining.I gave her the sensitivity to love her childrenunder any and all circumstances,even when her child has hurt her very badly.I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faultsand fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.I gave her wisdom to knowthat a good husband never hurts his wife,but sometimes tests her strengthsand her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.And finally, I gave her a tear to shed.This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed.""You see my son," said God,"the beauty of a woman is notin the clothes she wears,the figure that she carries,or the way she combs her hair.The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes,because that is the doorway to her heart- the place where love resides."
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Two men, both very ill, shared the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit in his bed for an hour a day to drain the fluids from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man couldn’t get up and had to spend all his time flat on his back.They both talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, where they had been on vacation. But their best time was every afternoon when the man in the bed next to the window could sit , he would describe to his roommate all the things he could see by the window.The man in the other bed was so happy to hear his neighbour describing him about the outside world and it’s colours, . The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Lovers walked arm in arm among colourful flowers. Tall old oak trees graced the landscape, and a nice view of the city could be seen far off. As the man by the window described all this in detail, the man on the other side of the room closed his eyes and imagined the picturesque scene.One nice afternoon the man by the window described a parade going through the park. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could imagine it in his mind's eye as his friend by the window portrayed it in descriptive words. Unexpectedly, a thought entered his head: Why should he have all the fun of seeing everything while I never have the chance to see anything? It didn't seem fair. As the thought was going his way, the man felt unconfortable at first, but as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy turned into resentment and soon turned him angry and soon found himself unable to sleep. All he was thinking of was : “I should be by that window” and that thought now controlled his life.Late one night, as he was laying, staring at the ceiling, the man by the window started to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other patient watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window tried to catch the button to call for help. Watching from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have called the nurse for help. Very soon, the coughing and choking stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only a deep silence in the room.The following morning, the nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the dead body of the man by the window, she was sad and called the hospital attendant to take it away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make accept his request and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.As soon as he was lying close to the window, he slowly and painfully propped himself up on his elbows to take his first look. Finally, he was going to enjoy the view and to see the landscape all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed and all he could faced was a blank wall !!!Moral of the story:The pursuit of happiness is a matter of choice...it is a positive attitude we consciously choose to express. It is not a gift that gets delivered to our cradle when we are born nor does it come through the window.
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How many ways can you rewrite, expand, reorder, reword these ten boring sentences ?1. The sky is blueExample:Blue skies like these make my day.There isn't a cloud in the sky.It's a clear day.You won't get a finer day than today.The sky is as blue as the sea.Have you ever seen such a blue sky?What a fine day!2 I am sick.I don’t feel good, i think i am ill.Most of the time, when i am sick, i can do nothing !To be sick is a waste of time and money !Sickness as cancer is devastating as it takes the patient so much energy to go through,if he/she ever doesWhen sick, people should always keep a positive attitude as it’s the best way to cure.3 I have school tomorrowThe day after today i have to go to schoolNext day, holidays are over and i must go to schoolTomorow, i am supposed to go to school even if i don’t feel like it !To go to school is a great opportunity not all the children in the world have.Teachers at school must be courageous, as, nowadays, to manage kids and to teachthem something is, for me, one of the hardest job in the world.4 My room is smallMy room is not largeMy room is so small that beside my bed, i have hardly no space enough for otherfurnituresMy bedroom is so tiny that it’s always a mess as there is no place enough to straighteneverything i have.I would prefer to have a larger room, it would be more confortable for me.To heat a small room is cheaper than to heat a bigger one.5 Andrea is busyAndrea has not free time now and can’t come with us to the movie theaterAndrea would be happier if he didn’t have so many things to do.For Andrea, to be always so busy is tiring, he kills himself at work !Andrea wishes he could have more spare time, it would give him more opportunities tomake sports.Andrea’s job keeps him busy fifteen hours a day.6 There is nothing to doIt’s quite boring to have nothing to do ! It gives us the feeling the day will never end.Doctors said there is nothing else to do about her illness, than to accept it.To be angry because of the bad weather won’t help, as there is nothing we can do tochange it.If we can not change a fact that bothers us, we should accept it.If there is nothing to do for you today, you should take the children to the playground7 It’s cold in this houseThe heat is too low in this house, we should turn the heater system on.No wonder we catch the flew in such a freezing house.This house is not warm enough, we should open the curtains so the sun can comethrough the windows and warm it up.I would really appreciate to have a few more degrees in this house.In this house, I have the feeling i am a white bear at the North Pole8 I don’t want to be lateI have a meeting and i’d better be on time.My mother always used to tell us that to be on time is the main polite way to showrespect to people who wait for us.I have to go as i don’t want my friend to wait for me.I have to run as my appointment is in fourty minutes and i must drive through the citycenter.9 I am hungryI am starving, i should quickly find something to eat.Would be nice if i could feed my hungry mouth !Long time i haven’t eaten something, i am so hungry i could eat a horse.Isn’t a shame ? I feel hungry even if i ate one hour ago !Looking at you fixing dinner makes me feel hungry.10 It’s WendesdayToday is the third day of the week, two more to go and it will be the weekend.Yesterday was Tuesday, can you guess what day is today ?Usually, in my country, children never go to school on Wendesday Afternoon.Still 3 days to go before Sunday.Today is Ash Wendesday for Christians, soon it will be Easter.
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Dear Manuela,Here are my answers. I am sorry being late but your questions challenge me really. But I loved them especially first question so I wanted to make a comprehensive writing. I hope you'll find it useful. Thank you again for this interview.God Bless You. Selma1. How is it to live in one of the biggest city in Europe that 15 000 000people call home, a place where oriental and occidental cultures meet .As turkish, can you feel this special atmospher ?I would like to answer your first question as telling with some history notes. Everything which is wondered into this article.I made a research into the trusted source before writing path. Just for a little brush up our memory to recollect quickly.Meeting East and West is at the same geography;I- Religious Conflict and Separating Istanbul and RomeDuring the risening Christian and its accepting in Roman Empire, the regional conflicts have been occured and consequently churchs were separated . Afterwards Roman and İstanbul was broken off entirely at 1051. Following religious leaving The Crusades looted in Istanbul and this separation turned into the hate.Since establishing the first churches by St- Paul in Antakya, Efes, Iskenderiye, going along with Mission of St.Paul in these place, Recognizing as a first counsil of the church which had been held in İznik, in addition determining Christians Living and the rules of the churches and elimination of “Countless Bible” except only four of them by İznik Council , Following Efes at AD.425 and Kadıköy (İstanbul) at 451, in conclusion;The Assembly of this Three Council is no doubt that it can be said that Ottoman Empire was located for both a set of religions and assemblies were together, as well as those situation had never been occured before in history. Here is the Ottoman had taken over this inheritance in the middle of 5 century.II- Conquest of IstanbulFollowing İstanbul had been taken by Fatih Sultan Mehmet, Sultan of the Ottoman Empire who was a Roman caesar, respected patriarchates, notably one of whom is Orthodoks Rum and had subordinated them to the empire.III- Anatolian Civilizations and Being into Turkish.Hittite, Lydia, such like a set of etc. Chronologically, Persian, Alexander The Great Empire, Roman Empire, Byzantine and Turkish.III-Foundation of Ottoman EmpireThree factor had determined the period of coming into existence of Ottoman Feudalism at 13.century. First , Turkoman’s immigration to Anatolia from Middle Asia and foundation of Seljuk Empire, second Invasion of Mongol, at the end Anatolian’s Location was on the world trade ways. In Anatolia, Begining of Turkoman’s operations towards to Mongol and Byzantium had resulted in when Ottoman had been established. (1299-1922)For much beter understanding of mix cultures ; we‘ed beter see at the “Census of İstanbul at 1477”Muslims 8951Christians 3151Jewish 1647OtherTotal 14803Ottoman State was Muslim and had been built up as “Enhanced Government”. Borderland had been extended from Europe, Mesopotamia and the Caucasus, North Africa and to the great part of the middle east. After 1. world war Ottoman Empire had become dead tried, finally it was canceled and established “republic of Türkiye” by Mustafa Kemal Atatürk. (1920-23)2. As you know, i love your city and i am there 2-3 times a year. I havethe feeling things changed a little in the last 6 years. For example, first time i was there, 6 years ago, i didn’t see, in the streets, womencompletly covered in black, last May, i saw them in many different places.What do you think has caused this change and how do feel about this ?Yes you are right. I am deeply sorry to see them everywhere in İstanbul. I can explain this case like that: Everythings is depent on power of global economic and it’s structure. Unfortunately politics philosophy and it’s benefits resulted in as islamic movements. Turkey having been debating its issues and passing most difficult corridor recently.The principle theme are Human Rights, Reviewing of Constitution,Talking about an organization “Ergenekon”, Making reforms on the laws, Improving diplomatic relations, Keeping position in th middle east., adoption EU criterias,3. If you had friends coming to Istanbul for just one day and you wantedthem to experience the real Istanbul where would you take them ?Historical peninsula is most important area For example ; The oldest acropolis has been found under Topkapı palace, in historical peninsula,Also You must see archelogy museum, Basilica Cistern, Hagia Sophia, Mosques., Kapalışarşı, Mısırçarşısı, Sultanahmet meydanı ve camisi.Bosphorus and more...4. As you know , there is a polemic about Turkey being part of Eu.Personaly, i think it would be good to have your country included inUnited Europe. Can you give me your opinion about this ? And why doyou feel this way ?Actually, it will be good but it’s impossible. As far as I am concerned religions role play in being granted membership. But, Eu criteria is important to catch the standardization.5. Have you had the opportunity to talk about this topic with peoplearound you and what do you think the majority of turkish people thinkabout this ?Intelligentsia thinks about this membership won’t be acceptable by EU around me.6. The Turkish city of Istanbul has a 60% chance of suffering a largeearthquake within the next 30 years, scientists believe. Selma, do youthink that, as turkish authorities know this, they have a plan in case ofearthquake, do they practice earthquake drills so everybody is ready toface it ?Of course there are some preparations ; making law for construction industry is under the conrol and approves to only making buildings safe, there are set of rules & writings on web pages of related institutions however they are all theoric level.Unfortunately, I can’t feel all them are in the course of life.I wish to thank Selma for this challenging interview about her country. She really invested herself in answering my questions and she made it very interesting.
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The mystery of belgian Ufo.

) Between 1989-90, Belgium became very well known around the world for its flap of triangle shaped UFOs and other sightings, starting in the dutch part of the county and later, touching the entire little countryDuring the specific evening of 29 November 1989, in a small area of Eastern Belgium, 16 km away from my hometown, about 140 UFO sightings were reported. Hundreds of people, among them, policemen, and army soldiers, saw a majestic triangular craft with a scale of approximately 35 meters, powerful bright spot red, white and green lights, moving very slowly without making any significant noise but, in several cases, accelerating to very high speeds within 2 seconds.The following days and months, many more sightings were reported. The UFO wave lasted more than one year during which a Belgian UFO organization investigated on more than 650 cases and recorded more than 400 hours of audio witness reports. On one occasion, a policeman who had his camera could catch the triangular shape and four lights beams of the unknown object .The most astonishing is that, for the first time in years, all the testimonies about this UFO Belgian wave were corroborating.The Belgian Air Force tried to identify the alleged “invaders” and, and on three occasions, launched F 16 army aircraft. On one occasion, two F 16 registered rapid changes in speed and altitude which were well outside of the performance of existing aircraft.A long study has been made of those mysterious "TriangleUFOs" by the belgian Airforce in cooperation with the Sobeps, but nothing definitive has come out of it, public opinion in Western Europe is still divided between the UFO angle, and secret military planes. It is a fact that most of triangles cases happen over Belgium territory, and there does not seem to be any explanation to this either.Those “strange objects” have been seen , from time to time, in many other countries around the world.Do you believe in Ufo or do you rather thing those phenomenons have a rational explanation as helium huge balloon, secrets army crafts or even lazers ?Don’t you think it’s a little presumptuous of us to think we could be the only alive “creatures” (not to say humans being) in our universe ?
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Have you ever heard about one of John Gray’s famous book :”Men are from March, women are from Venus" ?This well known couple counselor and seminar american leader provides a unique and practical way for men and women to communicate and relate better by admitting the differences between them.He is foccusing on the differences between men and women as if both were from a different planet and he shows how men and women react differently in conversation and how their relationships are affected He encourages readers to accept the other gender's particular way of expressing love,and helps men and women to learn how to fulfill each other's emotional needs.It didn’t take long before his book became a bestseller and now, they made it a play at the theater. To see it was a pure joy as the situations on the scene were so realistic and so funny that we all could find some similarities with our daily situations. Unexpectedly the theater was full of men and i was very surprised to see we all were able to laugh from situations that make us angry in our couple’s life.According to Mr gray, men are goal oriented while women are relationship oriented, so men always keep trying to achieve their goals and to succeed in live, they need Trust,acceptance and encouragement.However women consider their relationship with family and friends more important than anything else so they require,care, understanding and respect.Let me give you a little exemple of the most common missunderstanding. (according to Mr Gray)Woman : ohh, honey , i had such a hard day at work. I made a mistake with and i had to apologize to a client.Man : oh darling, next time you better concentrate more on your work and try to be more details focusedWoman : is that what you are telling me right now ?All she needs is to have someone listen and understand, not give advice. So the following reaction would have been better !Man :Oh darling everyvbody makes mistakes, that’s ok, come here and let me give you a hug .Woman : thank you honey i am feeling a lot betterAn other difference between men and women is their way to releave stress.When men have problems they’re usualy go into their caves, not talking but only conentrating on the problem itself and they do not come out of the cave unless they solved the problems or spend enough time to think about it.On the opposite, a woman shares everything so she thinks he doesn’t love her anymore so she tries to make him talk which only send him deeper in the cave! So all a woman has to do, it just wait until he comes out and act with him as nothing has never happened before.However in women case it’s just the opposite, we talk when we have troubles or when we feel “blue”. So we releave our stress by talking with people. So men just listen to our story and not while listening and try to be supportive.So conflicts come up from time to time dues to a lack of understanding of the opposite sex. But according to Gray, if we try to understand our differnces we can satisfy ourselves and our partner betterMen are motivated when they feel needed. When they feel trusted and appreciated it gives them power and they have more to give.Women are motivated when they feel cherished. When they feel cared for and respected they are fulfill and have more to give as well.Doesn’t it make sense ? What do you think ?
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