“Dad, may I hang out with my friend?” begged Rasha.
“No, you can’t!” her father answered.
She asked, “Why?”
“You stay home!”, said her Dad firmly without any explanations.
This 16 years old girl still wanted to persuade her parents “Mom, please let me hang out with my friend!”
“No, dear, you’d better stay home!” her beautiful mom replied.
“C’mon, Dad….! It will not be long”
She started to feel annoyed and argue with her parents. “I will just go for a while, why should I just stay home? It’s not fair. My friends often hang out everywhere every day, but why I may not. I do nothing at home, it’s boring”
Suddenly, a sharp knife flew passing beside her left hand. It was from her father. She was shocked and cried.
After an hour, she was still full of anger. She grabbed the key, took the motorbike, and left home without any permission from parents. This smart girl was supposed to have a course at 18.00. But that time, she was hanging out with her ….. boyfriend, whom her parents never agree with.
Feeling stressed under the pressure of parents, she drank liquor or kind of (actually I don’t know what the name is, lol) and consumed drugs. It was her boyfriend who made her like that. She came home at night without any words and slept. None of people in her house knows.
Well, don’t say it is in Islamic country. I think in all countries, liquor is banned for use under 17 years old or students. Drugs, is banned everywhere for sure.
Now, could you tell me why you think this could happen? I think parents need a time for their children. It’s not only time, but also closeness between children and parents. If NOT, could you think what happen will in her future? What about another possibility in doing the next bad action due to the addiction? It is liable that there are many other children in the world who are in the same situation. Devil always want to destroy people through the weakest and the most innocent,,, children.
I’m sad to see this right before my eyes.
Thank you for reading and comment.
Best wishes,
Onee
Comments
Dear Onee, sorry for not replying yestarday. I was so busy with my work and our 'poetic battle" that is still going on, hahaha!
Well, I completely agree that schoolchildren can't be allowed to buy cigarettes or any alcohol.But why to blame teachers? I am sure, they don't teach that! And how is it possible to buy that stuff at school? Is it sold at the school cafeteria?
And let me correct you:
"parents are the first to blame".
I hope Tanya answered your question yesterday. If not, I will explain.
Teacher Danny,,
Forgive me for my very belated reply. ^^
Your comment made me speechless. : | I don't know for sure about the detail rule on ages in my country. But, for students (not college students), it is surely not permitted to consume cigarettes or beer. In case it happen at school, I'll blame the teachers. -_-
Yes, Teacher. Actually, I would say parents is the first to blame. However, friends, teachers or people around them can also help kids to be good.
This is just a complicated problem. All the parties must support the change if they want to repair their generation. Understanding. Yes, that's the answer for this. It is the duty of people around to make them understand.
Teacher, thank you so much for your correction. It is inversion in the first sentence. But I thought If there are words after subject, I cannot use inversion. What if I want plural answer? Is it wrong to say..."Who are to blame?"
Thank you once again. :)
You are welcome dear.
I feel pity for the kids who have their personal gadgets. This is the sign of big neglection I guess. I'm 21 and I still don't have my personal gadget except for PC which I use only in day time when everyone is around me and not at the night when everyone at home is sleeping. I thank my mother for creating some rules for the family.
Parent's responsibilities are very high. They can make their kids or destroy, it's totally in their hands!
Dear Onee! I am sorry for not having read your blog earlier. You touched a very actual problem of the modern society. I don't know how actual it is in the Islamic countries, but it is critical here, in the West. First, if both parents work, they don't have enough time for raising their kids and teens need even more attention than babies who need only good care. Teenagehood is the most complicated age when young are still kids but feel already adult. They need understanding, but not lecturing or training. The situations like you described often end dramatically. Now, about the age of majority. In many western countries this age is 18. In America it is 21. At the same time, our kids get driver's licenses at the age of 16 and can vote at the presidential elections and join the army at the age of 18. Doesn't it sound strange? They are permitted to elect a president and to kill, but are not permitted to buy a box of cigarettes or a can of beer. It is crazy! Such restrictions cause opposite reactions.
Dear Onee! And now, about your blog. I wonder that no one has corrected the title during a few weeks. It must be "Who is to blame?". Besides, when you use the author's words after the direct speech, there must be inversion like this:
“You stay home!”, said her Dad firmly without any __ explanations.
And I am really thankful for your touching this painful problem. Answering the question "Who is to blame?" I would say all adults, our society and first of all parents are responsible for the future generation. Thank you, dear!
Dear Setareh,
So glad to see you again. I do understand your opinion. "Thinking as we are they" is very important to learn. Parents also should give some freedom, especially for teens. However, it should be managed very well since they are kids.
Thank you so much for leaving such a precious comment. I'm glad this colorful blog could cheer you up. I think it also cheers me up. ^_^
Dear Onee, time has changed but if we stick to past and how things were in the past, we will face a lot of problems. We should try to understand our kids ; even to think like them sometimes. We should give them advice but make them feel that it's ok if they make mistakes. The point is we should be able to tolerate their opinions. They must know that we will always help them and support them. If parents insist that things should be done only their way, then they will face a lot of problems.
By the way, what a colorful post! Colors cheer me up.:)
Dear ELF Noor,
I will be waiting for your comment for sure. Just relax and take your time. ^_^
Dear Coral,
Many thanks for visiting my blog. Wow! You have another view, which we may forget. Yess. What if they don't have parents? It's society who are to blame, and finally we find government mistakes.
Why drugs are easily available?? I also wonder why. But, I think people who really want to destroy the world will think about it very well, about technique and efficient peering. While technology is developing, crime is also increasing. It is we who want to save the world should work together to fight it.
Thank you for your valuable comment once again, Coral. :)
Dear Serene,
Thanks for your attention, dear. Happy to see you, too. ^_^
I like these words "Bad company corrupts their good hearts" It's true, but a half I don't agree. If they are taught with a very well 'upbringing' by parents, they could manage it well. But, it is unlikely to happen, since they are kids and labile.
"A good parental upbringing can help their children blossom" Yesss, I absolutely agree with your statement. Who is prouder than a child who has a great parent as they guide her/him well. It is both children and parents will achieve the good yield of what parents did. Being sensible is also the result of how good parents did in parenting.
Many thanks for sharing your view point, dear Serene. :)
Dear Anah,
Somehow, I think so. Gadgets really took time of both parents and kids. You know, in my country, a kid in grade 3 is having their own android. What is this? :(( There are advantages,, gadgets is good for communication, especially in family. But somehow, they often forget the main function and forget the closeness in the family.
If no good communication between them, of course kids will follow what their heart say, their own labile will. And if parents really don't guide them well. We never know what could happen.
Parent's attention, excessive use of internet gadgets and wrong company......these are very reasonable to think of. Thank you so much for sharing your view point, Anah. :)
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