It is said that expressing your feelings is good even sometimes necessary, I think I am not a person like that at least with my relatives but now I will try to do it here, in fact this is my first blog I write (not only in Ec), maybe this help me to be honest with myself and take out the 'armor' I usually wear.So, I would like to dedicate this to my friends' daughter, Alicia. I want to thank you all the good moments my child had playing with you, the tasty cupcakes you used to make, the great birthday parties you and your mother prepared for the lot of guests you always had every January, 10th. Do you remember the last birthday cake I made for you? Haha... My son said he didn't like it because it was so pink, but you always loved Hello Kitty :) what a good time we had!Last time I saw your parents... well, you know how sad they are, now they seem other persons, even I don't know what to tell them. I am also very angry but, who to blame? the bad signpost in the street? the inexperienced driver? the dancing classes you loved? or it's only that God wanted you in heaven? If so, I can't understand why a naive seven years child is needed there. Oh my! the more I think of it the crazyer I go. Many people say that now you are an angel but it does not comfort your parents, if you could, tell God to give them the encouragement to keep on going.At least now you are making me watching my daily problems ridicilous and realize that we are given the life to enjoy the most important things and moments we have and that sometimes we don't see they are just in front of us.Forever Alicia!
First of all, thanks for your kind words.
All we know death is a fact of life, even so we are hardly ready to say good bye to our parents, uncles, elderly people in general but when this happens to a naive child near you, then you don't know what to think, how to react, even more you reconsider your faith although I know this is just a phase but for me this is somthing unnatural, no parents should watch their child dying.
having belief in God or not having such a belief is a personal issue and of course, It is a secret and we should not to tell anybody. I think that life is very horrifying If we imagine we'll be destroyed forever and there isn't another world after death. You imply a beautiful example Alicia is a star in the sky. It means that Alicia is living in another place . It shows that you don't want to accept death is the end of every thing. so you believe to an inner power . It's called soul and we say that human is spirit not body.( Many psychologists did research about praying and prove that it is very effective in improving mental health.)
When someone lost his/her beloved child the only thing that gives him/her peace is saying this sentence " One day I meet my child in Heaven "
It doesn't matter if you are a believer or not, what is important (for me) is your behavior and thoughts and just this reply is telling me very positive points about you. Your real friends and work mates are so lucky having you.
Btw, you remembered me my smaller son when I try to explain him where people go when they leave us, so he point at the stars even talk to them :)
Hope next time I'll write again will be a funnier blog, actually some net friends like you have encouraged me to do it haha...
Thanks so much Wing for your reply and your friendship.
hello, Estanis. i am so sorry to hear that . but honestly i can do nothing but pray.
once i saw a real vedio recording the final lives of three beautiful angels who were suffering cancer and dying. they said "if life can be exchanged, would you like to exchange with me"? after seeing that , i try to become a better me and do more, cherish more. life can be tough, but it is always happy to fight/ work hard/ struggle for families.
i don't believe in god, but sometimes i think it is god's arrangement for Alicia and her parents. it cannot be judged by good/ bad, right/wrong, lucky/ unlucky. maybe this is another test god's arranged for Alicia and her parents. Alicia is still alive in the heart of her beloved ones, including her parents, her relatives, you, etc. instead of angel, i believe she would be another star in the sky, always watching her beloved ones at night.
time is the best cure. maybe you can do nothing to help with your friends to get rid of the sorrow. only time can do that. and most importantly, you guys, as her beloved ones and who always love her, should live a better life, with hope, energy, smile, for Alicia and yourselves. she would not want to see your tears.
i can understand that you are not a person who like to write or speak out of your feeling, but it is not bad for you to do this. i like doing thinks this way too. we are net friends , maybe we will meet someday maybe not, but we can still share your joy and sorrow without fear of letting out. if you feel better, then it is always a good way to show your feelings.
btw, i am checking your page to share this message with you. A true friend the persons, with whom i can laugh or cry, chat or keep silence, walk or sit, wish or miss, hang out or voice call, close to me or far from me. i can always be myself in front of her/ him no matter what happens whenever , wherever.
wish you all the best, best wishes to you, your son, Alicia, her parents, and all.
As I was hugging her mother, she was begging replying "I don't deserve this". Her pain was almost palpable, and yes, in that moments I was angry with Him. Hope I can be forgiven for not understand this.
I admire your faith. God bless you.
Before I read your blog I recognized that It's about a tragedy. Another angel In heaven. We always says kids are angel and when a kid left the world people say that she / he went to heaven. hope you continue to write and write another blog about someone who is going to fill the empty place for Alicia. perhaps God gives another child to Alicia's parents as a gift. or maybe they decide to adopt a child. A little girl who lost their parents in an accident and she wait for two kind persons to take care of her.
@ Kiriku, my dear friend, I'll never forget the expression in their faces, the painful look in their eyes... No, there's nothing we can do for them, they'll have to deal with that grief for a very long time. You know I try to find out the positive side of things but it's too difficult in this case or at least too desproportionate.
Thank you for your comment and hope next time I write you will be more pleasant :)
@ Mishaikh, that's what I also want to believe my friend, thank you.
@ Anele, My mind can't understand what's the purpose of this, so I let my soul to believe there is a reason why the Almighty allow this. Thank you teacher Anele.
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First of all, thanks for your kind words.
All we know death is a fact of life, even so we are hardly ready to say good bye to our parents, uncles, elderly people in general but when this happens to a naive child near you, then you don't know what to think, how to react, even more you reconsider your faith although I know this is just a phase but for me this is somthing unnatural, no parents should watch their child dying.
Dear wing
having belief in God or not having such a belief is a personal issue and of course, It is a secret and we should not to tell anybody. I think that life is very horrifying If we imagine we'll be destroyed forever and there isn't another world after death. You imply a beautiful example Alicia is a star in the sky. It means that Alicia is living in another place . It shows that you don't want to accept death is the end of every thing. so you believe to an inner power . It's called soul and we say that human is spirit not body.( Many psychologists did research about praying and prove that it is very effective in improving mental health.)
When someone lost his/her beloved child the only thing that gives him/her peace is saying this sentence " One day I meet my child in Heaven "
What a nice and deep reply :)
It doesn't matter if you are a believer or not, what is important (for me) is your behavior and thoughts and just this reply is telling me very positive points about you. Your real friends and work mates are so lucky having you.
Btw, you remembered me my smaller son when I try to explain him where people go when they leave us, so he point at the stars even talk to them :)
Hope next time I'll write again will be a funnier blog, actually some net friends like you have encouraged me to do it haha...
Thanks so much Wing for your reply and your friendship.
hello, Estanis. i am so sorry to hear that . but honestly i can do nothing but pray.
once i saw a real vedio recording the final lives of three beautiful angels who were suffering cancer and dying. they said "if life can be exchanged, would you like to exchange with me"? after seeing that , i try to become a better me and do more, cherish more. life can be tough, but it is always happy to fight/ work hard/ struggle for families.
i don't believe in god, but sometimes i think it is god's arrangement for Alicia and her parents. it cannot be judged by good/ bad, right/wrong, lucky/ unlucky. maybe this is another test god's arranged for Alicia and her parents. Alicia is still alive in the heart of her beloved ones, including her parents, her relatives, you, etc. instead of angel, i believe she would be another star in the sky, always watching her beloved ones at night.
time is the best cure. maybe you can do nothing to help with your friends to get rid of the sorrow. only time can do that. and most importantly, you guys, as her beloved ones and who always love her, should live a better life, with hope, energy, smile, for Alicia and yourselves. she would not want to see your tears.
i can understand that you are not a person who like to write or speak out of your feeling, but it is not bad for you to do this. i like doing thinks this way too. we are net friends , maybe we will meet someday maybe not, but we can still share your joy and sorrow without fear of letting out. if you feel better, then it is always a good way to show your feelings.
btw, i am checking your page to share this message with you. A true friend the persons, with whom i can laugh or cry, chat or keep silence, walk or sit, wish or miss, hang out or voice call, close to me or far from me. i can always be myself in front of her/ him no matter what happens whenever , wherever.
wish you all the best, best wishes to you, your son, Alicia, her parents, and all.
wing
What an inspiring reply :)
I'd wish that too, she was their only child. Thank you.
As I was hugging her mother, she was begging replying "I don't deserve this". Her pain was almost palpable, and yes, in that moments I was angry with Him. Hope I can be forgiven for not understand this.
I admire your faith. God bless you.
Hi Estanis
First blog and what moving blog :(
Before I read your blog I recognized that It's about a tragedy. Another angel In heaven. We always says kids are angel and when a kid left the world people say that she / he went to heaven. hope you continue to write and write another blog about someone who is going to fill the empty place for Alicia. perhaps God gives another child to Alicia's parents as a gift. or maybe they decide to adopt a child. A little girl who lost their parents in an accident and she wait for two kind persons to take care of her.
Thank you for your comment and hope next time I write you will be more pleasant :)
@ Charie, yes, we should learn something 'positive' from this and try to correct our lifes. Thank you Charie.
@ Mishaikh, that's what I also want to believe my friend, thank you.
@ Anele, My mind can't understand what's the purpose of this, so I let my soul to believe there is a reason why the Almighty allow this. Thank you teacher Anele.
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