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  • Erm... thanks Danny, but I usually don't take in mind what people tell me to form my opinions. As you know, I'm a 'woman of science', I don't care what ppl say but what I see myself. So you and Luci are 'free to blame' of anything I do or think.

    Anyway, the question of this discussion was already solved, so let's close this 'chapter' and move on.

  • So sweet of you to think about her, Mary. I hope she's doing A-okay. It's unfortunate that I wasn't able to thank her more often when she's around. Take care!

  • Dear Mary, I see no reason for your apologizing. You just followed the call of your heart as you worried about your friend. Everything is OK. And I am happy to know that Luci's and my comments helped you take off your rose glasses and open our eyes. Thank you for being objective and sensitive!

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  • Diah, social sites can be like 'real life': some people having 'issues' with other people, that's all. We talk and solve our problems sometimes, and other times we just make this noise. But look at the bright side: the most controversial topics make people to write more so, they improve their writing skills more as well. Welcome to EC.

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  • Eva, I'm happy and relieved to know that you're Ok and nothing bad was going on with you... Just that you were 'fed up'... sigh. I never thought one day I'd reply to you as I've to do now, but I guess life is a b*tch full of surprises.

    You say you're sorry for all this 'noise' we made here. Well, Eva, I started this discussion 'cause I just saw your profile deleted and I didn't know what was going on. I was worried. If you don't want your friends to feel worried and wondering where are you, the easy thing to do is to tell them that you're Ok but not gonna show up anymore, don't you think?

    The last news I had from you was a private message wishing me a nice weekend. That's all. Nothing that made me think that you were thinkin' about deleting your profile, but on the contrary, that maybe you decided to be more active again.

    It's nice to read that you didn't forget what you 'promised' me, but you just didn't care about it. Since I met you, the only thing I've asked to do for me, as a friend, was that if one day you decided to leave EC or something like that, to please let me know; and I asked you this right after that blog you wrote when Fr@nk and Seeker left. Eva, it was so much effort for you to add some lines in that last message you sent me, after wishing me a nice weekend, to write something like: "btw, Mary, I'm gonna delete my profile so: bye-bye!"??. A simple line that could have saved us to regret many things now.

    I don't know whether you're gonna come back or to bother to read my reply here. I've also the feeling that you came back to reply Luci and Danny more than to tell to your friends, the ones who were worried about you, that you were Ok. My last advice for you, as friend, is that you should try to pay more attention to your friends than to your 'enemies'. Your precious inner peace is gonna appreciate that much more.

    And last but not least, I've to make public here my apologies to Luci and Danny. I'm sorry guys, you were right. But as I told you in my replies, I'm happy you're right 'cause that means Eva is Ok. I can't say I regret to be how I am, to feel worried and care about my friends, to defend what I think is right... to be loyal to myself, as I said to Luci: Loyal to my principles, thoughts and feelings. That's how I am, and that's why I'll always pick to be stupid over insensitive. At least I feel good with myself 'cause of this.

    I couldn't be as good 'fortune teller' as Danny and Luci to know what was going on. As I explained to Luci in a reply, my personal circumstances make me behave in a kind of overprotective way with friends who I consider to be 'oversensitive'. I've always considered Evangelina someone very sensitive and that's what made me feel 'extra-worried' about her sudden absence and mad about that first comment Danny wrote here. My bad.

    The only thing I can say now is that every decision we make in this life, no matter how small it is, it has its consequences.

    Eva, keep your apologies to me for yourself. You need them more. And don't worry about me fighting any battle for you anymore. I just 'fight battles' for myself or for those who I consider friends... But probably now I'm gonna change that too and I'll only mind my own business... and f*ck the world.

  • Bad environment on EC... and woow thanx to me :) I posted a few blogs, was mostly busy with my family, kids etc. didn't have enough time to be so active here and yeah I almost forgot that Evangelina exists.. After my blog which was reply to Eva's blog (where she called cowards those who left EC without a word and which she later deleted) I decided to ignore the things abt her (I didn't mention her in any blog nor comment).. I got one message from her and one post on my wall where she was even wondering where I am... So honestly speaking I really don't know what I did wrong here as I am the main evil according to the comments above and maybe the main reason of her decission to leave EC - to leave her friends..
    In fact I got hurt like Danny did and it wasn't for the first time.. I realized I couldn't be friend of somebody who tells me how to react and what to do or who would shut up my mouth with closed comments on her blog... that's all I can say.. btw I am sorry I really don't have time to write such novels here... So this is in short my explanation and from now on I won't say more about this all because everything has already been said...
  • This discussion makes me curious. Well, I have read some comments here and I a little bit understand about this case. I can't say anything much because I'm a new member here and don't know well about EC members' character. But as I only can say, stop the fighting each other... An ordinary human like me see this as a war that occurs due to the differences of each opinions. I think this site is created to help the members improve their English skills and share the good ideas, not to spread the hatred on each other. I'm so sorry if my words are out of the topic. But seriously, I never think about in such war before so I'm kinda surprised. Let's spread the kindness and I hope this is the first and the last war comments I ever read as long as I become EC member :)

  • Dear Mary, I have always respected your temper as I like women who can bite off a man's hand or even a head. But let me tell you I am one of those who don't visit funerals feeling like spitting into the graves. If I feel like that I refrain from visiting not to offend the relatives of the deceased. Even monsters are loved. But we are not at the funeral and we don't have to say only good or nothing. As you see, Evangelina is alive and I expected her replying.

    Dear Evangelina, your showing up on EC again just proves my point of view. It is a good idea to "disapper" so that you hear what others think about you. I will never do anything like that because I know what others will say when I pass away. They will say nothing good as I have always been a pin in their asses. But I am happy they will stop flattering and lying and will say the truth at last. I am tired of being surrounded by hypocrites, I am tired of those "sweet" comments and advices. And who told you can give me any advices especially in the imperative form? Unfortunately, all your messages were deleted together with your page but I do remember them as even the president of the university, my only one boss, never talks that way to me! It is of no matter if you are 20 or a little older. You are much younger anyway. And you are not allowed to speak in such a tone with people who are older than you. It is out of our culture. I'd like to say at once that people who speak much poorer English than you, never apply in such a way. I realize, you had good intentions worning me about some reactions of EC. But it was none of your business. And all your last comments here are the best confirmation of my rightness. I am sure, when Luci looks in the mirror, she sees a confident and proud person. I feel the same and there is no need for us to justify ourselves as we are sure of what we do and say. It is us who may feel pity on you.

    Well, I have put all dots above "i"s. The only one reasonable comment on this discussion is Rose's. We never lose our friends, we just realize we were wrong.

    I wish you all to find the better teacher than me who will say you are always right!

  • So glad to hear from you Evangelina.

    Somebody's gonna get as happy as a clam too :)
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