Nowadays, when the world is moving fast, the elderly and ways to take care of them cause some troubles to many families. In your opinion, is the elderly important to your life and what is the best way to take care of them: send them to a nursing home or live together with them under a house?
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sure if you put your parents in a nursing home , your children will do the same in future
would you like that? i guess no
We must give back to them what they have done for us when we were children
Of course not
These teachings of the Islamic religion , may allah keeps them healthy and at his mercy .
mercy yuor parents
allah bless your soul
Thanks for your comment, lamy.
Thanks for your comments Sergio. You're absolutely right. As I answered Sewar above, life is a circle of "cause & effect", so we need to watch over our actions at present otherwise the similar things would occur to us in the future.
However, I don't think people in the developed countries as you said have forgotten what the love is. I've been in Europe before and I could see that they almost are human, kind and polite people and I suppose it's similar to other developed nations.
Sometime, the discrepancies in culture makes misunderstandings with us. I don't know if you've ever listened the song "Papa" of Paul Anka? this song tells a story about a great father, a great mother and a great son in one family. I would like to extract some lyrics from it here:
"...............
When she died
Papa broke down and he cried
And all he could say was, "God, why her? Take me!"
Everyday he sat there sleeping in a rocking chair
He never went upstairs
Because she wasn't there
Then one day my Papa said,
"Son, I'm proud of how you've grown"
He said, "Go out and make it on your own.
Don't worry. I'm O.K. alone."
He said, "There are things that you must do"
He said, "There's places you must see"
And his eyes were sad as he
As he said goodbye to me
................"
As I understand, finally the son had left his father at home alone to take his own adventure of life, that was also to satisfy his father's desire. In my thought, we could not blame someone because he did something by traditional opinions in his culture?
Dear Vvquang... First of all I thank you for asking this kind of question....
It is our main duty to take care of our elder...without them we can not be here....No question whether elders are important in our life.... They are only important in all our life.... we must take care of them... we all will become elder automatically....whatever we do for them, we will get in our later stage... They should be with us only at any circumstances.... at any cost we should not send them to any old age home... they have to be treated like our assets...we need to spend more time with them... whatever they like we have to fulfill that....
This is my small opinion... selvakumar
Thanks for your comment here, Selvakumar. Certainly we are responsible to take care our parents when they get old someday. However, I would like to know your opinion about the case that you have not enough condition to care them. For example, you have to stay away from home for business...
Hi my friend, really it is a nice topic, it touches our humanity. Actually I believe that our later years can become our treasure years, and we can all become elders, so,the way we treat our elders now is the way we will be treated when we become older. To be honest with you my friend, I treat the elders in my life with the utmost love and respect, for I know that they are a wise and wonderful source of knowledge, experience, and truth. I am not agree with whom like to put the elders in nursing house, yes the elders may have a good health and caring treatment but it will be lifeless and loveless, which I consider it as a kind of ungrateful for their efforts in our life. Above all, we shouldn't forget the elders' role in our children life. Really, they are a great teachers and a great source to our children, especially, at manners, cultures and customs which define our identity between others. In the other words, our elders are our treasured legacy which we have preserve it through generations.
Finally, I love and respect the elders in my life.
I get your point, Sewar. We need to take care our parents when they get old not only because it's our obligation, but also it's a human action that a person need to pursuit to ensure that there will be always heritage of humanity, morality for our next generation on this earth. Imagine that the elderly would have not be taken care improperly by us. As a result, we would also be abandoned by the next generations. Life likes a "cause & effect" circle, an action at present would lead to an result at another time..
Honestly, some eldery can't do much, and somehow can be such a burden, and bothering with their disabilities, but it is still our duty as their offspring to take the responsibility in taking care of them, as best as we can.
I hope I won't be such a burden for my child and offspring later.
Great to hear about your grandmother, Stephen. Hopefully, she can stay healthy to live with you in years to come. I would have a 94 year old grandmother but I had to say good bye her forever in a summer day last year.
To me, may be sometime I might face with problems while living with my grandparents due to the discrepancies of the so-called "age-view" because we was born and grew up at different times of history, but to be lived with them always was my privilege. Thanks for your nice discussion.
Sure, suku, similar to my country. In Vietnam, when people get old they normally stay at home with their family and take care grandchildren while their offspring works to support family. I think model of three generations living together is a typical pattern of oriental families where each member would plays a specific role to make this unit smoothly operate.
However, as you know, our life is moving very fast now. In urban area, for example, people must stay out all day and timeless to take care their parents. As a result, a conflict arising when the elderly would like to live at home with offspring while such children are often stay away. How to deal with this reality, suku?
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