Well, for rather long I have been confused and till now I can not make up my mind about to be fashionable and wearing make up! Honestly speaking, by this time, I heard many real stories about women, actually they all are working women who are not careful and conscious/less careful and conscious about their dress up and their look and finally they get sufferings in their personal life! Yes, I heard or some of them told me, their only focus was their better education when they were students then career/job, their families. They thought their inner quality was enough to have a happy life as they were educated, they had good job, they were caring for their love ones. But, one day unfortunately they had found another thing was going on....they found their men were involved in another relationship! later they thought their carelessness about their life, fashion, make up... had played a role. But, is it true?
On the other hand, we also heard people's inner quality and beauty is the key thing. Moreover, we heard people should be judged by their quality not by their look! Then, why this kind of situation happens around the globe? And, what is its solution?
So, now, I tend to think (lol...) working women ( of course all women are included) should be careful about many things including fashion! Of course, I am not saying they must wear model like dress, not like that but they must wear something (dress) that suit them, they need to wear some make up too to look good during a long working hour and when they return back home. They need to take care about their health, nutrition and exercise too. But, truth is after returning home, most of the women start doing household works, they help their kids, make snacks and food for their kids and partners, no I am not against it but I would like to say they also need some rest and time for themselves. Yes, there are also some women who are caring for themselves, I saw them doing jogging/walking, I saw them to get some time to drop in a shop or to spend some time on net to see what is going on in fashion world, this type of women are always able to get some time for themselves along with performing duties for their families.
Yes, yes, there are some other reasons too...we all know....when to be enough fashionable and wearing more and more...make up can not do anything but I am trying to say in which context we need to be careful in general!
So, women/working women should be careful about themselves. Because, (though) this is my personal observation, a good look, a nice/decent outfit, a less tiring look....seems attractive to all! Take care! And, please add your points and views!
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Ramadan Mubarak...sis...thanks and make doa for me, please, yes I will pray for you too!
No, this year I did not want to drink water being unmindful but yesterday it was too hot here I went outside stayed for rather long and started counting time...anyway here Iftar is not too long like the West, here sundown is at 6.40/45 how is over there?
Best wishes for you, Ishtar. I remember you told us your story not long ago.
Okay, sis. Advice noted. :)))
Btw, Ramadan Mubarak! How's your fasting, dear? In this month, did you drink a glass of water when fasting so far? lol
I am really sorry Israt to know about this happened to you. Really, I have no answer...why?! But, to me far distance....sounds like a problem. Do you still live far away? Yes, I also think in your way....to be faithful does not only mean Physical faithfulness, it is rather mental too, yes, it hurts a lot if we find out our men is somehow involved with another one/ another way mentally...but if it really hurts it is wise to discuss with them....I wish you a happy and pleasant life, Israt
@ Onee... thanks for the corrections, I will take care of it! And, okay....happy learning....but never be careless about you, in terms of healthy diet, exercise, dress up, little make up, okay, sis and yes, when you have some one in your life give him a lesson ...to remain handsome for you.....believe me I time to time warn my men, last month I sent him to a men's parlor to have facial....but I prefer a men to take care of his hair and facial purpose and I do not want any woman takes care of his hair or doing his facial.....P
Dear bet, correction: .....I'm not experienced, yet. lol
Okay, yes. This could be for married woman and the single ones. I agree with Ishtar that it doesn't mean only physically (mostly something else). I'm learning on that issue. lol
This is a rather difficult dilemma, so I think there isn't only one answer.
I agree with Mishaikh that people tend to forget that the "flame of love" must be taken care of even after getting married or in long relationships. And it doesn't only mean physically! But I do think it's super important to make your partner know that today you're looking specilly pretty/handsome because of him/her.. BUT ALSO for you! It's like that cliché phrase, that you have to love yourself first. You will be a lot more attractive if you know you actually are.
HOWEVER, I do think that a lot of husbands and wives (but I've seen it a lot more in husbands) start second lives just for the fun of it.
Or because as humans we never want to be responsible of something failing, so if the relationship of Mr. Husband isn't working it is better to blame the wife for not being attractive and just cheat on her instead of telling her "You look tired today, why don't you take a free day today, I'll prepare lunch. Have a shower, put on that pretty dress that I like and let's have a day out for the two of us".
Something sad related to this happened to me a couple of years ago. You know, my fianceé lives real far from me, in another country. So he worked hard, bought a ticket and came to see me. I usually dress kind of sexy for him (and because I like it), and we have a great relationship. And then casually and by mistake I happened to see he had pictures of another girl.
And the question is WHY? He loved me enough as to be faithful to me for YEARS, spent a lot of effort and money on that ticket, came to see me, had a pretty girlfriend who's always there for him and he decided to casually look to the other side? The answer to why? "I don't know, I was just a jerk".
There you are.
Thank you, onee....yes, dress and make up is not the only main thing, but important to have a long smooth healthy married life...lol....actually to be careful is the key point here, to be careful about herself and to be married or single is not a matter.
Dear bet,
In my humble opinion, as I'm not experienced in marriage life, taking care of the beauty is not always about make up and dress. It's about cleanliness of body and mind. Besides, communication is one of the causes why one cheated the other.
Though, I would say, 'make up and dress' are also important but not the main thing.
Thank you for sharing this advice for women. ^^
I liked your comment so very much.....zivi....what ypu have told is hundred percent correct....but if everybody can think in this way.....lol
Thanks, sir, for your nice and positive comment.
hi bet. you made pretty good points in your blog. My favourite is that spouses should look to attract their partners even in higher age. Of course. neither make up nor skin stretching can really hide age. And why should one try to hide it or make a secret of it? Smile wrinkles can be attractive, too. As they show a certain life experience as well as optimism. What would a young soft skinned person pretty cute or handsome have in advance to an older experienced and wise one? Or what if the person has a nice shell but the core is rotten and crowded by maggots? I think it all must fit.
Really.....cool ladies so what abpit western men do they feel the insecurity to lose their partners....lol
Anyway, happy ramadan...
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