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A long time ago, my late uncle, who was a doctor and run a clinic in a slum area at reasonable charges, resolved a domestic issues of a newly married couple. One day,  he happened to visit our home. So while having dinner, we persuaded him to tell that story by himself. Whatever he told I wrote it in my own words, so you may extract some pearls if there are for you.

There was a newly married couple, who was leading a happy life. Both husband and wife had a better understanding. the wife took care of his husband and so did he. A peaceful life of that couple was eyesore to her neighbor, who was stubborn and always sought chances to fight with her husband, who exemplified considerate nature of that wife. 

One day, the wife insisted his husband to take her to her mother in that evening, but due to extra tasks assigned by his boss delayed him in reaching home. In the meanwhile, the neighbor had poisoned in her ears and told her that all husband treated their wives like their slaves. So no need to obey him, rather do against his desire and expectation. He would be your slave. Eventually, she succeeded in her plot.

When the husband came at home, he found her sleeping on bed while everything was lying here and there. He woke her up apologizing to her for his delay, but she paid no attention to him. He asked her to fetch a cup of tea the way he always brought it for him as soon as he entered home. On contradictory to his expectation, she took him to the kitchen and said very rudely, "you can make tea for yourself. I am not your slave".  He was shocked to see such change in her behaviour, however he ignored it as her first mistake, but everyday she misbehaved in such manner. He estranged himself from her and the gap between them was gradually widened instead of narrowed.

The distance had been to that extent that they both began hating each other faces. The husband continued ignoring her and spent all the time either in watching TV or reading books. On the other hand, she began feeling sick. She wanted to normalize the situation, but found no solution. One day she was very sick and had to come to the doctor, her family doctor. The doctor (my uncle) tried to figure out the causes of sickness, she began crying and backbiting her husband. My uncle, having seen her dirty dress, oily hair, the way of talking, got the whole story at first glance.

He, apart from prescribing some medicines, gave her amulet telling her that the devil, who created fight between you and your husband, had occupied your home. Hearing it she was shocked and asked what to do. He advised her that she had to do nothing but cleaning your home, cooking in time, and wear neat dress before her husband reached home. He further advised her to receive him with  smiling face, serve him tea and let him say first if he wanted to share her something. He maybe, while coming to home, had an incident which worsened his mood. In case of his bad mood, he advised her to keep that amulet in her mouth and closed her mouth. In sha allah, thing would get better.

She acted upon his advice. It took one or two weeks to revive the relation. Finally, everything was much better than before. She came to the doctor after a month just to express her gratitude to my uncle, who then prayed for that couple that the blessing of Allah might be upon both of them forever. She was an illiterate girl who used to follow other advice and never use her own wisdom which Allah blessed her. There are a few people in this world are like my uncle who advised other to the right direction.

When the neighbor, once again, tried to foster her ego that whatsoever she was doing was not in her interest, she said, "mind your business and don't poison in my ear anymore". She actually knew her inside out. What I learned from this story is that being submissive to the close one in order to get him/her around is not slavery. It is just like investing money in the business so as to expand it and then  it will automatically pay you back as a profit.