Before being registered on MyEC, I had been registered on another site, where the management was unknown to the members.Strange things were happening there.From time to time, there appeared new members who were behaving outrageously - they insulted people,made fun of them, and even threaten to kill them! What had people to do? The administration hadn't reacted to members' appealing for a long time.Then people started discussing what should they do with the offenders and resulted in a loss - they bitter quarrelled with each other!!
And how about bullies? One of them calmed down having read "peacemaking address" to him. The others were banned later.I like it here in MyEC. In general, most members understand that politeness is the ritual of society and don't feel like breaking the rules.Please, read the poem and try to answer the question in the headline on the top.There's a reasonI was always taught, there's a reasonThat people do the things they do,Though you may not always like them.Their heart hides a secret from you.If they're quick to bite your head offOr constantly brag and boast,Remember, the people we like the leastMay need our love the most.Could it be they had been abusedOr even ridiculed all their lives?These are the type of hurtful thingsThat make sure their heart survives.But, the heart that survives is hardenedAnd, on the seas of life, they coast.Remember, the people we like the leastMay need our love the most.By GottaLoveClayCoThere's a reasonI'd like to congratulate all MyEC members on the International Friendship Day!
Hello dear Fizzy,
It's very kind of you to post your comment here! Yes, you're right, it's not so easily to take some people the way they are, especially if they are our close friends and relatives. Take your choice !
Fizzy, hugs to you and Yoh,Inga, Hardi and others who would like... :)
the poem is beautiful.. I read it over and over again "Do the people we like the least may need our love the most?"
MmmM im not sure about that because how we gonna love that people if they hard to get close with... but then again.. i agreed with the poem .. some people have their own secret or pain.. sometimes the way they show their feelings is makes us wonder.. what is her/he problems.. isnt it a wonder...
p/s : group hugs to natasha, yoh & rosenmaiden.. *squeezeee...* hehe o(^-^)o
Yoh, thank you for paying attention to my choice! For some days under my windows cats've been meowing loudly and harrowingly till one drops. After that, they start fighting. Sometimes I separate them, and then they repeat an attempt in another place.
Hello Inga,
Thank you for your interesting and instructive story about children having a deviant behavior. Psychologists should help these children but it looks like they don't.
Hi Yoh,
I agree with you that through making efforts to help "least liked people" to change for the better we "can grow". Though, in borderline cases it would be better to ignore some of them.
I'm sorry for burning out! :)))
Hello, Natasha!
Thank you for rasing such an interesting problem! I have been working at school for many years, so this problem is very actual for me. I am teaching children, born during the "Perestroika" (reforming time). They were growing in bad conditions - their parents worked a lot and didn't have much time for bringing their children up. Some of these children have problems with their health and state of mind. They have hyperactivity, attention and mental deficiency syndrome. Their behaviour is abnormal. We can understand and forgive these children, but it's difficult to love them.
There was a school girl in my class, who during the lessons used filthy language, gesticulated in inappropriate manner and provoked teachers into anger. I know, for sure, this girl pressed for love and attention. The teachers were shocked by her pressure and could not give, what she wanted.
The moral of this story: "If you repay evil with good, what do we repay good with?" Confucius
Hi natasha, you raised a challenging issue! I think the answer is YES. But, if I rephrase your question like this: Can we change the heart of least liked people?; the answer is not going to be clear. Even if I believe that everybody has good nature deep inside the heart, whether or not we can change such people is totally a different question - it all depends on the life state of the least liked people.
As Karenina says, I think our action of "trying" to change the situation is more valuable. No matter what the result could be, we can grow though the struggle. It's strange to say, but this way, even disliked people have a meaning for their existence.
This kind of effort may be painful in the cyber space where anonymous people get together without much law enforcement. Some people suggest that we should just ignore what we don't like. That maybe true too. So, I will stop here before my brain burns out ^_^
the people whom we llike least may have some positive in them which we do not realize.,and yes i feel we should try to reach out to them with empathy,and undestanding,may they will open up too.
After all we live only once.
thanks Natasha
food for thought
nadira
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It's very kind of you to post your comment here! Yes, you're right, it's not so easily to take some people the way they are, especially if they are our close friends and relatives. Take your choice !
Fizzy, hugs to you and Yoh,Inga, Hardi and others who would like... :)
the poem is beautiful.. I read it over and over again "Do the people we like the least may need our love the most?"
MmmM im not sure about that because how we gonna love that people if they hard to get close with... but then again.. i agreed with the poem .. some people have their own secret or pain.. sometimes the way they show their feelings is makes us wonder.. what is her/he problems.. isnt it a wonder...
p/s : group hugs to natasha, yoh & rosenmaiden.. *squeezeee...* hehe o(^-^)o
Thank you for your interesting and instructive story about children having a deviant behavior. Psychologists should help these children but it looks like they don't.
I agree with you that through making efforts to help "least liked people" to change for the better we "can grow". Though, in borderline cases it would be better to ignore some of them.
I'm sorry for burning out! :)))
Thank you for rasing such an interesting problem! I have been working at school for many years, so this problem is very actual for me. I am teaching children, born during the "Perestroika" (reforming time). They were growing in bad conditions - their parents worked a lot and didn't have much time for bringing their children up. Some of these children have problems with their health and state of mind. They have hyperactivity, attention and mental deficiency syndrome. Their behaviour is abnormal. We can understand and forgive these children, but it's difficult to love them.
There was a school girl in my class, who during the lessons used filthy language, gesticulated in inappropriate manner and provoked teachers into anger. I know, for sure, this girl pressed for love and attention. The teachers were shocked by her pressure and could not give, what she wanted.
The moral of this story:
"If you repay evil with good, what do we repay good with?" Confucius
As Karenina says, I think our action of "trying" to change the situation is more valuable. No matter what the result could be, we can grow though the struggle. It's strange to say, but this way, even disliked people have a meaning for their existence.
This kind of effort may be painful in the cyber space where anonymous people get together without much law enforcement. Some people suggest that we should just ignore what we don't like. That maybe true too. So, I will stop here before my brain burns out ^_^
Cheers to our happy friendships in MyEC!
Thanks! Your words are really wise. I see you're fair, honest and not indifferent personality.I got to know you better.
the people whom we llike least may have some positive in them which we do not realize.,and yes i feel we should try to reach out to them with empathy,and undestanding,may they will open up too.
After all we live only once.
thanks Natasha
food for thought
nadira
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