I usually do, but I started to doubt the wisdom of my behavior. The reason is that some of my friends here left and deleted their pages few of them i lost contact with them totally and they didn't even tell me why they left. It hurts so much when you miss them and wonder if you did something wrong? Sometimes they keep in touch via other social websites or e-mails. Still l wonder if it is safer to just think of online friends as temporary acquaintances, Is it even possible to control our feelings this way?
What do you think??
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thnx for the topic , u right and i am according u.
Thanks Hamza for your comment.. I am glad to see you here :)
Exactly Deepa, the problem is that we meet people with different perceptions of online friendship. So when we take it seriously and they don't we get hurt :S
Thanks for the perceptive comment :)
I don't want to get hurt over and over again , so I will try to keep your advice in mind every time I meet new friends. It's just old habits are hard to die, I will do my best though.
Thanks a lot :)
Yeah I know exactly what you mean. So it happens this way: we meet people get attached they leave we get hurt. It is not a mistake we can learn to avoid we have to just live with it like many other disturbances of this life. Still, it hurts every new time and makes you remember the previous losses.. What a drag!
Thanks for your comment dear it kind of consoled me.. And yes I do miss notears terribly.
Dear Rabab,
I think you are wrong. You shouldn't let yourself hurt! You can control it.
You know, there was a period that I was addicted to MyEC and my friends here. Finally, as I could not control myself and my feelings, I got really hurt. I could not see them as unknown online friends.
Yet, I have to add that throughout those bad times of emotionally being hurt, I could find a true friend. That was an exception. She was so kind and truly a friend who couldn't see me in that bad condition.
Anyway, as an experienced user here, I recommend that you stick to the real tangible life out here, and just think of here as a place to learn and communicate, yet a place that is not there forever, with all its members.
The solution to your case could be this: try to make more friends with buddies at university, school, among the family members and relatives, or whatsoever. It is more logical.
Yet, it is not guaranteed that you won't get hurt by those real friends. If you can control your feelings and keep your expectations sensible, you won't be hurt by anybody.
Just keep in mind that no one is at your service. No one is always there for you, even your parents and spouse.
I know that I seem too rough, but it is what I experienced. Though, I can not always control my feelings, too.
To conclude, be kind to people, but do not let anyone interfere with your life. Make friends with the ones who respect you and your beliefs, but never rely on them more than the sensible amount. Love but do not expect.
Words from an experienced heart.. I am glad to see your comment here Zahra. Maybe we are not close friends here but I know you as a great blogger and old member..
I know how it feels to be disappointed, and I started to learn to always expect less from others. Yet I can't keep this in mind always that's result in new wounds. I think this is life.
Thanks for the precious advice.
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