Some think how they can benefit from their relationship and who can gain more. The one who gains more is a winner and the other who gains a little is a loser. Another type of relationship is the one you always have to be careful about what you are saying and what you are doing since the other party may be angry, sad or simply does not like what you are saying or doing. But, such relationships do not last long and usually break down.
In a fulfilling relationship, two parties open up their hearts and give, give and give. Since both of them give, both gain. No one is a loser. Both are a giver and a receiver. The relationship is satisfying because no one judges you. Your friend knows everything about you but, he/she does not judge you. You feel you are secure and have someone on whom you can always trust and open up.
In the end, some are like a pond. They do not have anything to give and some are like an ocean. So, they have a lot to give. I rarely find a friend who knows everything about me and does not judge. So, I always dreamed of such deep relationship. It is said that to be the change you want to see in the world. Therefore, it would be great to initiate such fulfilling relationship.
Be fun and free,
Nafis
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"Another type of relationship is the one you always have to be careful about what you are saying and what you are doing since the other party may be angry, sad or simply does not like what you are saying or doing. But, such relationships do not last long and usually break down."
Thank for sharing it with us.
Dear Manuela, I am so glad you liked this post. I have also heard that sentence many many times from members here which made me think about it and see if this is really true or not, if it is really virtual or not. I read an article in Newsweek, which is a reliable magazine. It is said that in the level of "feelings", everything is real. For example, if you feel you like someone or you have somthing in common with someone, it is really true, it's not virtual. The article gave an example of a couple who fell in love only by chatting and decided to get married. Is it real or virtual?
For me, it sounds real. Maybe because I enjoy thinking that this is real. I don't know. And, when someone says this is virtual or they are afraid to open up, I think it's because of their own insecurities and fears. Of course, we have to be careful when we are dealing with virtual world because you never know who is sitting at the end of the line talking to you. But, even when you can't see, you can say who he/she is. This is amazing but I think I can say somehow. So, it's all up to us what kind of life or relationship we would like to have. If I look for a real fulfilling relationship, I would find it since I have great friends on EC. Give you an example, you! I can never forget your kindness and compassion for me. I haven't such a true friend even in reality. I haven't seen you at all but because of the compassion and love between us, I feel so close to you and I do not think this is virtual. It is so real..
Dear Nafis,
I read your post with great interest and after reading it some questions came to my mind. To have such a fulfilling relationship, both persons have to be ready to trust each other and they don't have to be scared to share everyting they have in their mind and heart. I have the feeling that not many of us are ready for this... For exemple, here on EC, out of very rare exceptions,
friendships stay very superficial. Some people here will tell me it is because it's "only" virtual friendships... it's not a good argument for me...
Words are so easy to write for us, but they don't always reflect the reality. I guess we all have the same dream, we all need the same but when it's time to act, things are different.
Thanks for this very nice post that moved me and which made me think deeper about the kind of relationships i have here.
Wishing you to find that deep relationship you are looking for :))
wonderful advice nafis I agree the more selfless the partners are the better the relationship will be.
As they are bonded with love and understanding,
Hello Nafis,
another inexhaustible topic,with a millions of books written of the relationships of men and women.
I think,my favourite was:
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray-
written in a funny way about how to improve our joint relationships.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Men-are-From-Mars-Women-are-From-Venus&am...
I think in a relationship one can't give enough or too much.Sharing love costs nothing but we can recieve our unpayble and just reward,as a reaction to it....Most important thing is the respect of each other and loyalty,besides love.....and many more...it'sa difficult subject indeed!
Thank you for sharing it with us!
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