What Do You Do to Understand Others?

After being on MyEC for almost one year, I have always seen this statement many times: “We should understand each other.” But, I have seen the usage of aggressive, misunderstanding and insulting words throughout comments or chat rooms. Therefore, I thought what we practically do to attain it? And what creates misunderstanding?According to Dr. Maxwell, the author of the book Relationship 101, the reasons to misunderstanding are fear, self-centeredness, failure to appreciate the differences and failure to appreciate similarities.One good way to prevent misunderstanding is to put ourselves into friends’ shoes. It means if we were them and had the same situation, what would we do?Another way is that not to think we are superior to others and what we do or think is the best. Instead, thinking that what we can learn from the differences. Everyone has something to give or teach us. So, it is good to make most of this opportunity.In addition to what mentioned above, some sentences are useful to be used in conversations. We can use “we” instead of “I”. We can use “Thank you” and “You did a good job” more. In discussions, “I want to understand you better” or “what is your opinion” are very helpful.People eagerly look for peace in the world and ask how they can bring it into the world. Peace is nothing but living in harmony with others and this can come to exist with understanding each other. If we do not practice how to understand each other in a small community, MyEC, how do we expect to bring peace into the world?I am so sure there are a lot of techniques that we can apply to our daily life to understand others. If you have any idea, please share it. I very much appreciate your help and kindness.Have a lovely day,Nafis

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Nafis November 4, 2010 16:29

Dear Vindos, thank you so much for your comment. What you said is so true....

Cheers,
Nafis November 4, 2010 16:28

Dear Ruzan, it's so sweet of you. I am blessed to have a friend like you.

Love and light,
vindos November 3, 2010 16:50

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"

This biblical phrase would be the best way to achieve peace in the world ... a clear and honest rule for success, if applied by all.
Have a nice day.
_vindos_
Ruzan August 3, 2010 11:45

Dear Nafis,
You did a great job and I appreciate that .If we will have more persons like you then there is no need to write topics like this.During all these years I've seen how you are doing your best in order to bring a harmony in our small community,MyEC.I'm sure that you've changed a lot of people with your kindness.Kindness will save our world!
Thanks a lot.
Ruzan
Princess Aliaa July 29, 2010 12:33

hiii all
fisrt , thank you nafis very much for this blog , it's greart and nice topice .. you did a good job
second , in my personal view misunderstanding with people cames to we don't learn how to listen to each other and how to communicate with others and understand the differences in people personalilites . besides, we have to learn how to use body languge in converstations , sometimes we refelcted our feeling by wrong way we want to say something but our body language say some thing else
have a nice day to all
and l hope to understand what l want to say ? my be l have alot of mistakes but l am trying to improve my english skills so sorry if l have alot of mistakes in my comment
Nafis July 8, 2010 16:44

Dear Zahra, thanks a lot for the link you provided and I wish you the best for your lecture.

Good day,
Nafis July 8, 2010 16:43

Dear Suela, what you said is totally true but I don't know why people take everything so personally. And, when they get angry, they just cut the communication by not talking about it. I think this is very terrible and sounds very childish.

Good day,
Nafis July 8, 2010 16:42

Dear Skoon, this is really important, listening to others. Thank you very much for your important point.

Good day,
Zahra July 6, 2010 22:11

I am again here ,on this nice blog ...As I am gonna give a lecture on "misunderstanding" tomorrow (actually your blog was my clue to such a topic ) ,I was googling for articles about this subject when I came across a useful one ...I thought that it might be of any help to other friends ,thus I put its link here ...I hope that it is helpful ...
Eliminating Misunderstanding...

Have a peaceful time
:)
Sharifa Bahri (SkoonAlBahr) June 8, 2010 19:35

I think that the best way to understand each other is that " listen to each other " because if you do, you will understand what the person means. and if don't do so, how will get what he/she means!
thank you for this nice topic

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