If you are smoker, you can see the warning in the box : smoking is not good for your health…but Have you ever try to stop it?
I’m a woman and in my country, almost women don’t smoke. So it is not fair if your husband smokes because at that time, you can breathe the smoke. And as I know, the second-hand smoke is actually worse for your than if you smoke yourself. Someone has a polite so they find a place where can be smoke , but most of the men smoke whenever and wherever when his addiction is coming. They even forget to ask the women : Can I smoke?. They ignore this question.
The man know that how many diseases if he smokes. But they don’t care, they always self-confident about their health. It is the big mistake. Yes now. You are young, you can overcome the ills easily. One day, you will get old. That day, you will regret for yourself. Most of thing you can buy by the money but your health….never... you never buy it to be back. If you say your life is long enough…lol…Do you know how long it reduce if you smoking? One tobacco takes you one minute reduction (actually It is only 5.5 seconds but I like the supposition : one minute....lol...). Do you scare it? And it not only reduce your age. It will give you so much hurt. You can feel the hurt inside yourself. It destroys your lung, your throat, and your teeth….now, don’t say me that you don’t fear them.
My husband addicted to it. He smokes so much. but since We had a baby then he reduced smoking. If he wants smoke (of course, he didn’t ask me that question) he goes to outside and smokes alone. I don’t like it. The smoke still fly in the air and I and my babies could inhale the smoke that was in the air. It is not good for our health. So 3 months ago, I begged him to stop it. The first time, he laughed at me and answered me with his humorous voice : “honey, you and cigarette… I will choose cigarette” Oh my…..but when he saw I got cough (but could not drink much medicines) so he went upstairs and stay for a while for smoking. I felt so sorry for him. Why he must lead himself. Does smoking have a good taste? I don’t think so.
Till now, he tries to stop it. It makes me laugh because I can recognize when his addiction is coming. That time, he can not do any thing, he goes around, put this one, look that one…..or only stand in the window and look the sky. Poor him! Maybe he fights himself, smoke or not, only one time and will stop…finally, I see him to come the freezer and find something for eating. Yes, it is the good way. He can gain his weight and also forget the addiction.
The entire smoker that I knew always smoked again. I don’t know why? My husband also stopped smoking once, but after one year, he smokes again. If this time he succeeds, what should I do? I don’t want he smokes again. Stop....smoke…..stop…...smoke…..the round is repeated.
Any advice for me?
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Thanks for all your comments and your advice.
Love you, my dear friends.
Very good blog! I understand you, my friend. But I think I undersatnd your husband even more..haha. It's not easy. I used to smoke many years ago. And time to time I want to smoke again. Of course I don't think I'm going to start smoking. No, I'd prefer thinking that it's only once and never. Especially in having stress I really want to have a cigarette. And if it happens I step by step start smoking again. These days I am out of this bad habbit. You know what helped me to quit last time? It's was lots of candies and chocolate and doing some sport. It's really can help.
Stop smoking needs determination. It neither hard nor easy, depends on self esteem.
As a wife you can encourage him by reward him with something as he stop smoking for a while...say a week, you buy him his favourite perfume, or something he likes. But dont ever make fun of his addiction or laugh at it. Instead, give support...like comfort him if you seen he is fighting with the addiction, for example you may buy him an ice cream or just simply hug him. That shows you really care, and makes him feel you are valueable than those cigarettes.
You can also stick a post it note on your door or fridge saying how many days he had stop smoking, accompanying with a supportive message. So both of you could notice the effort. It also shows how much you concern about it. Chill...
It's unfortunate that you see someone close to you do something harmful to his health and you are unable to provide assistance. In this case, do not press your husband strongly to stop smoking because it's hard to leave something became addicted to, try to understand him that this is detrimental to his health and Try to get him pay attention to other things like sport , reading ...
I hope that your husband give up smoking as soon.
Wish you good luck :D
I sorry to hear that Mitran :( Actually I have no more ideas. I think you can’t force him to stop smoking he has to want to do it on his own, but you can support him.Show him how harmful it is by pictures,statistics, etc., but don't pressure him.It doesn't help.Good luck to you both.
Smoking = Diversion
1. It is easy, handy and quick diversion. While a cup of tea which cost 5 INR, A cigarette cost 3/5 INR. Now for tea you need to go down and order this. But with Cigrette you can lit this anywhere and it is mobile, portable. Quick entertain, easy break and relaxing to the mind.
2. It is a myth that it increases your concentration, better have a tea/coffee.
3. There should be a revolution in Cigarette, means perfumed cigarette, so that after smoke your cloths don't smell. ~.~ <evil>
4. It's not a fashion or make your stylish - better buy cloths or a watch to look like a stylish.
5. Smoking does not going to solve any problem of your life, but neither does milk. ~.~ <evil>
6. When you miss something that should be near to you always, cigarette is always there to give you company. That's why your husband chose cigarette instead of you. Now if your daughter/son request, he might be able to quit cigarette. Men's pride and ego ~.~ <evil>
7. If everyone stop smoking this will make a bigger impact on country economy. The bulk of jobs generated by the Tobacco Industry in the U.S. are in manufacturing (48,800 employed at 114 tobacco factories in 21 states) and farming (136,000 employed in 23 states).(1) Over the past decade and a half, however, even as cigarette production rose, both manufacturing and farming jobs have been lost. For example, the number of tobacco farms declined by 23% between 1985 and 1992. See this link.
Reality is, if this thing stops, that going to impact on employment which is really a stupid reason to believe. link. That's why government cannot stop this, but we can stop this. While I see society changes and social value changes, motivation and lots of factor changes. :) Again, I would care of Suicide rate on world instead of worrying Cigarette ~.~ <saint>
So, that's my 7 deadly reasons about smoking most of them are evil ~.~ but I feel these are reality of believing.
Hi Mitran!
Well, hope your husband will give up smoking soon and never get back to it ever. Acually, here in Syria both men and women smoke. My parents used to smoke and they were quite heavy smokers, especially dad.. They gave it up just last year. They both stopped it bcoz my dad got quite sick and we had him had a heart operation. The doctor told him that he must give up smoking at once. Consequently, my dad had to stop it from the day he entered the hospital till today and I hope he'll keep thus forever...My mom, taking into consideration my dad's condition, gave up smoking as well.
Hope your husbad will give this ugly habbit before it's too late...
Hi Mitran!
Your troubles like in here too. Many people especially men as smoker. Many excuse why smoker in Indonesia grow like fungi in wet condition. There are Indonesia as big producer of Tobacco, Industry of cigarrete grow with fertile and smoke can warm part of human in cold conditions.
And the bad news, Until now Indonesia has in confusion. Industry and agriculture of tobacco are reduce unemployment. And in some areas like Bandung (where i live) has cold condition so many people men and women smoke to warming their body.
My Father smoker too, he is heavy smokers. One day he could spent 1 pack (12 stem). One day he has got ill and he had to treated in hospital for 1 month, and finally after he got his recover he promise to me will didnt smoke again. And I keep his mind with give him a candy and fruits. When he feel adiction, I hurry up give him candy or fruit and company him to talked together. Alhamdulilah, until now he didnt smoke again....:) I love you father.
And for my advise, may be you can give your husband candies or fruits mitran. Then always companied him when he said about cigarette, you could talk about something what he like.If it is not passed, may be you should go to alternative medicine.
Ok Mitran, Hopefully, You success to treat your husband. You could use love language mitran...hihihihi.......^_^