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This blog is a reply to all those who keep asking why I do not go into relationships. Even at the age of 22, I am single. And when this will end?

Well to put it simple, I was not mentally ready for this stuff. One fundamental difference in my perception regarding to it, that created to my isolation was that girlfriends or commitment brings a responsibility, which is different from the aura that is maintained today.  A general perception of guys is that, they take girls in for granted and as an opportunity, a notion I was never comfortable with, and wont be in even in future. I am not an opportunist but a responsible guy.

People say about crush, impression, attraction and some put it more bluntly as physical desires and it begins with everyone since puberty.  But that should not be taken as a license to fall in a stuff where you are always emotionally vulnerable and are potentially soft targets. Until and unless you are ready for it better to avoid anything that can have grave consequences. I looked at the bigger picture and refrained myself from events and occasion where things gets romantic.

Having said that, there are some fundamental pre-requisites in today’s way of love and relationship. It’s not less than a protocol. It starts from checking out, then dating, they hooking up, either it goes on or they break up, with coming back to the status of single again. So it makes a cycle. Now I think, I do not myself fit into this cycle, reason being it looks awkward to me. I can’t approach they way people do using some standard lines for coffee and dinner. I can’t flirt because it’s hard for me to fake myself, and real feeling do not come on first or second meeting (it’s just crush). To use the cheesy lines, even if I do not feel them? Nah! That is a big deal for me.
Lastly all girls want someone who is confident, having good communication skill, they pick the one who is witty and keep the talks moving on. But I personally think that I should not be judged on my communications skill or sense of humor in my love life. It’s should be about what I feel about her. And what she feels about me. Do I care for her or not? This notion of being compatible, having same standards, choices, priorities and to some extent same vision sounds like a professional relationship. For me it should be a personal stuff where feeling matter more than anything. A level of understanding where our silence speaks better than our words and eyes reflect state of mind.

I know I am going too idealistic and it’s practically impossible to get a girl like this. So I think it’s better to do what I am good at. And not to think of the utopian notion which is practically not realistic. It may look cynical at first sight that I am giving up and not looking for a dream girl. You may call it pessimistic outlook where you have lost hope even before tying anything. But I will call put it other way round saying that not everyone gets a real love of life.  What usually happens is compromise and sacrifice on the name of love. It’s just I am honest and do not agree with the modern definition of love. Only a handful of people really feel the true love and it is destined not something you need to search. It will approach at right time at right place if it is written in your destiny. Do not look for chances or opportunities desperately!