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 I noticed members here like to talk about love so I create a blog about that. This is just coming from my point of view you might agree or disagree. Doesn’t matter, just for fun and don’t be so serious. One may not get the meaning fully because it didn’t happen to that person yet. Briefly I differentiate three phases of love, let’s check it out!

• I’ve loved and lost

There was a saying in my language “if you ready to love something, you shall ready to lose it”. Clear enough I guess, it is our desire to be with someone or something for the long time, more over until the end of the time. But it is not us to decide how long we can stick together. There always a reason for separation such as bad condition, different point of view, death etc. Death is the most logic way of losing someone, but still it’s hurt if we are not ready to face it. When you are with someone you love, don’t think how much you feel happy with him/her, but how much you feel alone without that person. I have passed this phase, yes it is hurt but I took it as a lesson and something for granted.

• I love and am loved

This phase is more refer to love ourselves, inside and outside. By loving ourselves we would take care of ourselves better, carefully guard our mind and body. We won’t easily get hurt because when something hurt happens, we would be able to comfort ourselves because we love and appreciate ourselves. In other side, we would feel happy for knowing we are loved, by ourselves. Never ever feel alone anymore because we have made a friendship with ourselves, someone else inside ourselves. I am not talking about bipolar but just like say “all is well” like Rancho did to himself on movie “Three Idiots”.

Family’s love is also on this phase, this is the easiest way to learn to love ourselves. We do love mother, father, and siblings. Undoubtedly we are loved by them as well. This phase is more crucial than previous one I guess, but I put this as second line for a reason. Sometimes we don’t appreciate what we have until we lose it. For example a teenager girl fall in love with his friend, they were so close and broke up someday. The feeling of hurt because of this lost make the teenager realize that her mother love herself more than her friend who left her with unacceptable reason. Soon, she started to learn love herself.

• I’ll love and will be loved

The most difficult mode, to love all the people and loved by many persons. Such become an actress or actor?  No, just make it simple. Our body and mind are belong to ours but not our life. We are not living alone, like it or not we affect and got affected by others. We may love all the people but we never can fulfill their desires. The easiest way to show our love is by treat other in good way, even if we are treated badly. Hatred is allowed but don’t let it drive us to do crazy thing as hurt others. Keep it to ourselves only as something to be tamed for. Love is giving without asking back, we will love even though we will not be loved back. Let’s affect other more with good things and less affected by unnecessary things.

That’s all from me about love. Hope you like it!