Hatred is one of complicated things I have been dealing with until now. I don’t know what is it to be exact, just an ucomfortable feeling towards some people who despised me. When someone dissapointed me by their act, I started to stay away from that person. Lately I am questioning my self, is that a resentment or just an ignorance.
“Give her excuse” Said my bro after I told him I had quarell with my friend, simply started to ‘hate’.
“Excuse is only for they who I love” I replied.
“Well, you can’t feel love without hatred.”
Another time I got lectured by my teacher relate to this indifferent feeling, here what he said.
“Do you know a branch of psychology named ‘emotional intelligence’? It Is about to recognize emotions when they arise, and manage it cleverly.”
“Emotions are energy, they can bring welfare or pain. So, it is very important to be able to manage them.”
“Indeed, there are two classes of emotions; positive, bring us welfare and negative, bring us discomfort, even pain. Clearly hatred is a negative emotion, while their contrary, love, is a positive one. The question is: how we can manage our negative emotions?”
“Obviously, I can't give you a sort of ‘magic formula’ for transform hatred into love, but one thing I can say, all the negative emotions have their root in fear, fear to be damaged in some way, and are automatic, unconscious reactions, even we can say ‘body produced emotions’.”
“On the other hand, good emotions like love, happiness and joy, are ‘soul produced’ emotions, we can reinforce them taking care of our interior being, cultivating high thoughts and emotions, being aware of what we think and feel every moment.”
I was staring only at him with my mouth opened, not sure I got confused or astonished, until he slapped my back and we laughed together.
“Make a hole in your heart” Said my cousin when I gave him a visit.
“What is that meant?”
“your heart is just like a teapot. Feeling is the water you pour on it, you can’t bear it all.”
“A hole under your teapot would let all feelings through. No matter how much you pour on it, you would never feel content.”
“Where the water from my teapot go?” I asked.
“It flows, being the part of life stream.”
Thank you very much for reading. I didn’t leave any conclusion because that is yours :)
Have a lovely day!!!
Comments
Yes Sophie, it happens sometimes.
Eva :D
Thanks for your correction, i will fix it, lol xD
I couldn't be more agree with you about dig the ditch, but sometimes it's they who pull himself from us. at that time i just let it flow and let the time overcome it.
Thanks for your comment both Sophie and Eva
Thank you very much for your sweet comment Setareh Dear.
that could be the conclusion :D
I am sure you can't hate anyone because you are a kindhearted person ^^
Dear Noona^
such a complicated feeling that feeling just like you said. someone told me if I like, love or admire an unexpected person, that's because I see my self on that person without realize it at first place. About hate someone who looks more perfect, hmm, I have no idea yet about this, could it be because of envy or anything, but i will search for this. once i get the answer, you are the first person i will tell.
Anyway Thanks for reading and leave your valuable comment,
be good to yourself and take care :)
thanks
Saya tidak membenci kamu. Di sisi lain, saya suka kamu banyak. We should love one another and be forgivable.
Even to be indifferent, we need to get used first, Sir. Thanks for stop by ^^
Make yourself indiferent your suffering will be vanished.