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Have you been in a situation where your skills and creativity were underappreciated? Or have you ever been mocked because of your race, religion, and physical qualities? If so, please take a few minutes to read my writing.

Life is unfair. If it isn't, then there's no discrimination or hatred. Bill Gates even mentioned it in one of his speeches. In the real world and on the Internet, you'll meet lots of people who are boastful, ruthless, and self-absorbed. They're everywhere! They love to steal your rainbow. They also spread rumors to upset you and to make themselves superior. Maybe gossiping is their hobby?

Of course, anything negative or hurtful criticism that's been thrown at you would ruin your day, right? It's quite a challenge to overcome them without leaving a scar in your heart. But how would you deal with them? Well, allow me to share with you my perspective about this topic.

Firstly, you should live with it. It doesn't mean you don't have the choice to turn an upsetting situation into a positive one. Try to look at the brighter side! For example, if someone isn't appreciative of your contribution to the group, keep doing the nice job. Other people would eventually notice it when you least expect it. You may get used to it as time passes by.

Secondly, accept the fact you can't please everyone. People have their own preferences, it becomes personal when they are overshadowed by your good deeds and sincerity. Don't let their green-eyed monsters (jealousy) eat you. If he or she is your friend, have an honest talk to resolve the matter. But if it's just a nasty remark from someone you don't know, don't sweat it!

Thirdly, please understand that you can't change their opinion or character unless if you're a politician. :p Perhaps they're in a pickle or in a bad mood and would try to bring you down as well. Treat it as a water off a duck's back (Don't let criticisms affect you)!

Lastly, kill them with your kindness. I don't literally mean to end their lives. You should face criticism with calmness. Showing them kindness means you're being more understanding and open-minded about the situation. Haters really like to hate especially if you let them see how vulnerable you are to their trap. But if you show them how free-spirited you are, they would probably die in their own mockery and lurk in self-pity.

Moreover, surround yourself with positive thinkers or spend a quality time with your family and true friends. Enjoy the moment to find solace. You must not blame or hurt yourself because of offensive remarks and nasty jokes about you. Essentially if you have your faith, friends and family to support and encourage you to move forward, it'd be blissful.

If all your effort seem useless, don't forget to pray for them so that their minds would be free from the toxins of negativity that clouded their judgement.

To sum it up: It isn't easy dealing with difficult people who are full of themselves, jealous, boastful and insecure. Try to understand the situation, but don't let its negativity affects you emotionally. Surround yourself with people who really appreciate and respect you regardless of your flaws. Seize the day and make it meaningful to others. Most importantly, kill them with your kindness. In the end, it's
you that matters, not them! So walk graciously with your lovely smile...

Take note this is my opinion based on my personal experiences. Hopefully this would be useful to you! If you have other ideas or solution about this topic, feel free to share it. Your kind words could uplift someone in misery.

One last question: If haters threw bricks at you, would you catch them to build a castle? Why?