Hello, all my friends. I’m a Mom -“hard Mom” - but I have the way for teaching my Kids. Today, I met a hard situation, so I will be happy if you can share your idea.
My niece is 5 years old and she learns in the nursery school. I know, the custom of every country is different. In some countries, the parents can not hit their Kids, in some countries can do that. As my country, the parents can give their punishment to their Kid till they are married. I mean : When the Kid is married then every punishment from parents stops... So when I see my brother to smack her face, I felt uncomfortable.
Of course, I always punish my Kids when they have some mistakes. As usual, they must kneel down for some minutes and must think of their mistakes. After that, they tell to me what the mistakes are and promise me never to do it again. Let me remember, yes, I hit my son once by the rod. Because he scratched my daughter's face when she refused to give him a toy. I hit his rear. He cried so much and I was hurt. You can understand my feeling, is it right? But with other parents, they can punish their Kids for some bit mistakes as : to eat low, to answer back, not to obey …..and the punishment are : smack their face, hit their rear…that no one can interfere in or have a rule for forbid it.
Teach our Kids by rods is a hard punishment. I remember when I was a child, my father always hit my rear. But I needed to lie face down. I hate that and promised with myself I never to do the same. I know, children are usually active. They always forget/ignore our advice. And the parents gets much worries, trouble, family pressure…..so sometimes they can not control their action but I believe that they don’t mean it. They hit the Kids but they get hurt more than them.
So, when I saw my brother to smack my niece (because she eats low). I only see and accept this thing. I can not do anything. But I feel really sorry for her. If I have a vote, I will vote for the rule that the parents can not give their hard punishment. The same as in America, there, if their parents hit the children that 911 come at once.
Thanks for reading my blog, hope I don’t make you bored….
Comments
Tung,
Look at you...hahaha....I know...I know you. But You should control your action. The Kids is "our flesh and blood". When we hit them, we will get hurt as double.
Thanks for your comment.
In my oppinion:
Your brother is wrong, but as you know the man is a spitfire, I'm as the same as him. sometimes I do so when my children have some mistakes, I know that action is wrong, but it can't...
@Ryszard
What a nice thinking!. I love your comment so much (although I must use my dictionary for understanding all of it...ehehe...) Thank you very much. I love the way your father teach you.
As I said above : My father was hard, he always hit my real when I was a baby. But all his life, He does anything for my family/my Mom. He works and works and works... till now, Sometimes I asked him : "Now, our family is OK. You can take a rest, You don't need to word hark" but he answered me : You (and Your Sister and brother) have a own family, you must take care of them like me before. I don't want to become a "burden" to your.
When I become a Mom that I understand all Parents loves their Kid. Someones show it and someone don't show....And they have so many way to teach them. I sympathize my parent because they live in the home town and that time, they could not study well. I mean : they need to earn money when they were a child, they could not come to school. But I still respect them, they teach me and made me to become a good Mom. Can you understand? ohhh...Sorry for my poor English...
@Irina.
No doubt, I know you a "good Mom/good Grandmother". How many time you remind me about your Kid with "your tenderly". You know, When my Kid have a mistake, they must kneel down (self-consciousness) and think of it. I seldom hit them but they are afraid of my silent. I mean : that time, I will be silent and they fear me.....Thanks God because till now, they still obey me. I don't know when they read adulthood then ....ohhh...I can not imagine....
Thanks for your share, my best friend.
@Lovestar.
I enjoyed your comment and Ya, I already said to him: But maybe...hhhh....He learn it from my father : "to love his Kid and think that don't need to indulge her too much.She will be a "stubborn baby" ".
And through your comment I can recognize that You will be a "good Mom". Thanks for your share.
Hello! Yeah.... it's really new look for me at this problem.I reread this blog several times.
And Here are some conclusions: I had recently read the amazing words by written the great man, as W.Shakespeare," It's a wise father that knows his own child."
It's again the problem of discipline. The parent should be more contact with the children. Such punishments are caused mental illness. Any grown-ups ( Mom, Dad, A teacher...) must keep anger under control . We have to listen to children with understanding and sympathy. The parents must concentrate on a child's strength and not his/ her weakness.
Certainly, a child needs love .... and a lot of it. The parents should be tolerant and show much patience. The parent teaches, explains, shows, tells,...etc.It's old - fashioned methods for me, as Mom, and Grandmother:)
Thanks for your thoughts.