Dale Carnegie: Even in such technical lines as engineering, about 15% of one's financial success is due to one's technical knowledge and about 85% is due to skill in human engineering, to personality and the ability to lead people.
This quote shows that interpersonal skills are extremely important in our road to success. In order to make it easier to understand, I will show you a very simple fact.
Nobody is good at all aspects and have all the resources. Therefore, we need to build up a very good social network, to improve each other’s resources.
Since interpersonal skills are extremely important, today I hope to exchange ideas with you about interpersonal skills. Everybody is welcome to write down their ways to expand their social network.
Here are my ideas about expanding social network.
Two key points of a perfect social network
First, wide
First, with many important and excellent people (including celebrities)
1st Gather
- Try to voice our excellent opinion in public, such as classes, blogs and so on.
- Reading! More and more writers today leave their email addresses and blogs in their books in the hope to make friends and exchange ideas with their readers.
- Expand our interpersonal network among our classmates, colleges, neighbors, and people of same interest.
2nd Build up Relationship
- Be active and learn to make friends with strangers.
- If we want to make friends with excellent people, we have to collect their information beforehand, when we see them, we just have to greet to them in the way we greet to our old friends. We should also show our truthful respect to them.
3rd Maintain
- Send our friends a greeting mail three or four days after we make friends with them.
- Email our friends a festival card, our recent status, and news every festival to maintain our relationship and let our friends know our recent situation.
- Be helpful to our friends when they need our help. We will get their help in return, when we need their help
- Set up a file to manage our network of excellent and important people (remember to add and drop every year.) and the contact of all the people we know.
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Comments
Dear Aang Anwaruddin,
I am glad that we love the same writer.
Lucus
Dear Tawfeeq,
I love Dale Carnegie too.
His books are great.
Lucus
Dear Momo,
"if someone wants to make friend he must look the others like he look at himself and wish for them the best he wish for himself. The quality of our relationship is our mixed qualities."
Your phylosophy is great.
I love it.
Thanks for sharing.
Lucus
I agree with Anele that we will not be able to spend quality time with all of our friends,
if we have too many friends.
To this problem,
Here is how I deal with it.
I usually just pick up some important friends and most intimate friends and spend some quality time with them.
To other friends,
I just keep in touch with them by mailing or Facebook.
However, we are truthful to each others.
We can still give emotional support, positive feedback, useful information, time and assistance to each others.
Sometimes, our relationship may improve if we do not see each other for a long time.
Sometimes, distance can be beautiful.
Lucus
Dear Irina baburina,
Thanks for liking it.
I actually do not mean to give a course or teach other people.
I actually just want to share my thoughts, as I am also just a learner, but not a successful person.
Thanks
Lucus
A great blog. Thanks for sharing.
Interpersonal skills have become a vital factor of success. Unluckily, the importance of it; is not well recognized in the developing countries like mine.
I do agree with anele. We have to know our capabilities it's better not to get involved in too many friendships If we can't be good friends with them.
Great blog keep it up :)
Hello Lucus! I always read your blogs with great interest. You can put down your feelings onto paper clearly and concisely. Your blogs are a method of spiritual healing which works by supporting, balancing and harmonising the international energies of patient's body.
You are incredibly well-read about all kinds of things like psychology, philosophy, medicine.
Lucus, you show us a course of lucky events, but i guess you are agree often it is more easily said than done.
Every person explains all of the things differently.
I like the poet Gwendolyn Brooks:
Some links here;
FORGIVE AND FORGET>
If others neglect you,
Forget do not sign
For, after all, they'll select you,
It times by and by
If their taunts cut and hurt you
They are sure to regret.
And , if in time , they desert you
Forgive and forget.
It's nice thinking about it " To take us as you find us"
Thanks a lot of, my friend!