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Questioner;

Do you think we can trust each other?!

Is it reasonable we spend hours on EC. Chatting to our friends?

Can it be considered an effective way to improve our English?

Responder;

I think yes. We can trust each other 100%!

But trusting in this high degree needs some conditions.

Let me explain about it please.

We are in EC to learn English otherwise we are wrong about being here. So, we who are here for that goal can learn many things from each other. Not only can we learn English but also many things else. It doesn’t depend on who our friends are in the real world.

What is important is their personality here. So, if a person wants to hide his/her real personality I think it won’t be bad for us at all, because virtual world has some rules for itself. EC is a virtual world and we can’t expect from each other to be in our real personality, of course being our real character and telling the truth is always admirable (But I’m speaking about the worst possibility).

We must consider that we can’t change others’ character or want them to be good. What we really need here is accepting EC as a virtual world. If we have the power of distinguishing between good and bad we can always believe everybody’s saying except their sayings were proved wrong. In this way their saying can’t hurt us at all. Because we are trying to learn something from them, if we have the ability of recognizing good and bad we will be able to elicit good things from their sayings.

But I want to speak about the other aspect of this subject.

“Chat”

Not only here, I mean totally in the virtual world.

As you know, we are human and we can’t close our eyes to this fact that our feeling is always active. When we are speaking (Or it’s better that I say chatting) maybe we would be affected by others sayings. And we often forgot that we are seeing one dimension of their personality. So the feeling of like or in higher level love will make easily. Unfortunately this problem is much commoner among our teenagers, because they don’t have correct imagination from this world. They are so simple, their hearts is empty of every evil, so they are ready to accept the first feeling that they will feel, easily. And also this problem is more among our girls, because they are more sensitive. But we can train them the rules of this world for preventing this serious problem.

Of curse EC is different in my idea, because we are speaking in English, so most of people are adults here. (Knowing English and being able to speak and write needs enough old. Adults can prevent this problem easier, but we may also see some of these problems here that I think it needs some attentions too).

I don’t know what you meant about “chatting” exactly. If you mean the discussions I think yes it really helps us with learning English. But just from writing aspect.

And about Chat rooms, I think we can use everything for learning English but in this condition that we try to earn enough information about it, about its rules, its advantages and its disadvantages. Then we can understand using it is good or bad for us.

Questioner;

Maybe I brought up my question badly. I believe that we can trust each other 100%,but my aim to drag this subject into discussion is to clarify the other dimension that u have mentioned.

Exactly that part we face a false feeling like what u have named.

But do you think it's under control & it belongs only to teenagers?!

Haven't u heard about those people who got into a trouble without any previous decision? Of course I got your idea & it's near to my opinion, but I wanna use this situation & express that to get into a trouble ,both teenagers & adults have a similar condition.

It's tacitly understood that sometimes feeling is happening without our authority!

Of course I wouldn't deny our power as a human being but be aware that sometimes it defys understanding! 

Responder;

Never control your feelings. Let them emanate. Our feelings will appear when we see beauties and goodness because they come from our heart. Our feelings never lie. Trusting them can show the best and correct way.

But what is the first feeling?

It is love…

But which love?

The love of humans related to themselves. All of humans love themselves and every thing that they do is due to this feeling. And of course it is very holy, so we must respect it and try to annihilate every thing that will hurt this nice feeling or at least remove them from ourselves.

If the feelings that will appear here are really damaging we must prevent them surely. We are responsible about our action. We can't say that it is incontrollable.

I believe that everything will be under control.

But how?

Just by practice.

It only needs practice. Maybe it is so hard but it isn’t impossible.

If we believe this fact that our life will face with ruin then we are able to do everything for saving it.