I have been overlooking something like this for last few weeks but lately I think I can´t stay quiet anymore. Call me old-fashioned, weird or just freaky but let me explain the situation.
Lately in the chatroom I came across many times the situation that people feel tired or bored of saying HI to all the members. To me this is something very abusive and I can say I find it arrogant.
When we enter the room, no matter what room it is – doctor, company,school etc. guess we all greet other people we are surounded by. This is the basic rule of the etiquette. (Just for these who don´t know about something like this.)
So tell me, what is the problem to enter the chatroom and to say HI to all the people ? Does internet give us anonymous feeling that we can behave like rednecks?
I was told that I expect too much from other people, that I want their attention but let me tell you that this isn´t the reason. It is about morals, principles which according to me every society should follow. I have been also told that since not all answer back, why to greet them. Well, still even though they don´t greet back, it is something like duty to me to greet all and these who won´t answer I just have my own opinion about them.
So dear chatters, since you praise God here on the main chatroom, try to focus on what God would think of you in such situation plus as Behnam today said that in islam there is saying: You should greet even if you enter the empty room. I like this a lot therefore I am atheist.
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Greeting can make a big difference. It can have a very good influence to other people and it can make a person feel that he is welcomed and special.
People who don't give the usual greetings to the newcomers in the chatroom are arrogant and selfish people, indeed. They create a bad image to the other members by entertaining this thought that they don't like others to join them to make the room only available to themselves.
Everyone should remember that the room is for all and not for a particular group only.
The worst is when a member after being greeted is totally ignored and isolated from the conversation in spite of his attempt to contribute something.
Moderators should not only ban those violators but also those who are ill mannered.
Oi there
Luzzi and I come from the same cultural cave, so I am bound to share her idea about greetig people whom we encounter in the room we enter.
And telling the truth, I can't imagine a "non-greeting culture" mentioned by Mohammad, especially taking into account that his culture is very strict in this subject..I mean, the obligation to greet people we encounter on our way.
I can't imagine Ferdousi not greeting encountered people, no mattter how bussy would he have been at that time, for instnce, thinking up the next verse of Shahnameh. LOL.
Mohammad,
thank you for your points. You know, m describing here people who all of a sudden greet for example just one member in the chatroom as if the rest they were the air for them or about these who simply chat are active and since another one join the conversation, they even repoly their lines but simply dont bother themselves to greet. I hardly believe that not to greet other ppl around is in some cultures common. But yes, you are right I am too sensitive about it .. maybe because I was raised like this, hard to say :-)
I agree with you but there is a point. First of all I should tell you that I'm a Muslim and confirm Behnam's speech. Also I confirm that it is a moral manner and a principle which most societies follow that.
As a matter of fact when we think that it is our duty to do greeting, thus we do, but we shouldn't expect that all must do that. Because:
1- perhaps in some cultures it is not important to do that (as you maybe familiar with some gestures of several countries).
2- maybe members are busy in other works or don't see your greeting message on that time. So it is common in chat rooms.
I firstly recommend myself and next you to not be sensitive to others actions (or reactions) which are against of your beliefs. for instance when I enter the room, I say "Hello all", if anyone replies I will get happy, but if not so, I won't get sad.