" take life as it is , not as it ought to be " I think that we can apply this saying in another direction . By using it to say that we should take people as they are with all of their flaws and mistakes . So , assuming perfection in people's behaviors is a sort of madness . Only those who look with a realistic eyes are the ones who will find comfort and relaxation .
Lowering our expectations is our way to safety in this case . Al Masseri an arab Eygptain thinker attribute all the human miseries to their endvours to create an earthly paradise . While , humans. relationship are more complicated and cannot be predicted easily . To reply or mange human behaviors means dealing with a wide range of an open and endless possibilities , some of which are vague ones . So , accept people as they are not as your mindset want them to be .