A working Woman in our society.

Since an industrial revolution in 1970s, there is a rapid increase for equal opportunity. In recent, women are being given more opportunities as compared to men. The women comparatively feel more secured from the aspect of financial need. However, she still feels uncomfortable as far as moral support is concerned. Working among male employees, who give strange gaze at her, hinders her from applying her ability she possesses.

Most of the working women, due to slight negligence in dealing with male workers, have to face some embarrassing situations. They might try to prove themselves very amicable persons or to adapt to new environment, but the reality is that there is no better strategy to cope with such people except being modest, straight forwarded and little harsh. Too much politeness may cause a great misunderstanding among any of male colleagues. As a result of unavoidable/unpleasant circumstances caused by themselves, they have to quit the jobs at the end.

In high rate of inflation, where the salary of an individual is not sufficient, the gentle women hopelessly come out of home to support their husbands financially and release them from some extra burdens, but those women, despite being affluent and have higher status, when join any organization care for nothing and waste so much time on makeup during duties hours and thus, create hurdles for gentle female colleagues. For I suggest to pay more attention to their families and make their home heaven for them

I have witnessed a case which forces me to write it here. So, please drop your comments in support of needy working women and advise upper class working women. I am already grateful to all of you who read, leave comments and press like.

First off, to make clear that women don't have more opportunities than men. STILL we have to 'fight' twice as men to get some job positions, and STILL we earn LESS money than our male co-workers doing the SAME job (a popular example right now is the Hollywood's 'controversy' where very popular actresses are demanding same salary than their male colleagues)

I'm aware that your culture is very different from mine, but I can't excuse discriminatory attitudes by the simple fact that the culture 'is different'. Discrimination is intolerable and must not been hiden behind the label of 'tradition' or 'culture'.

You're problaby living in a society where if a woman is being harassed in her job place people tends to think that's because that woman is being 'too polite' or because she has lot of make up. And the sad thing is that people who think like that can't get to understand how wrong and offensive is that... Because that's not women's problem but the problem of a dreadful education in that society.

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setareh May 24, 2016 18:23

Dear Arif, nice topic! but to be honest I didn't get if you are supporting women in workplaces or you are against women who are active in society. Anyway women from the time memorial have an important role in life; They have worked along side with men even harder, they have given birth to their kids, they have taken care of family and they have worked on farms and etc. But unfortunately they have always been discriminated and underestimated. I do agree with dear Mary, putting all the blame on women is not fair and logical whenever a problem arises. I read an article that oxford university was probably established in 1096 But surprisingly women were not allowed to study there till 1920. Although it's not been a long time that women have got the opportunity of studying but they have made so much progress and i am sure that they can do better. So I am a big supporter of women who contribute in society. Nobody can deprive them from this right.
Estanis May 23, 2016 19:22

Hmmm... A cat stole my words for replying the blog :/
Luci May 22, 2016 8:04

Arif, I have been thinking abt this issue u described here and there are few things on my mind. No wonder women dont feel comfortable since they attend segragated classes in your country, if m not wrong. If I grew up separated from guys, ofc then it would be shocking for me to deal with it, especially with some arrogant behaviour. So I think that the root of this problem is this gender problem. Here we grow up together, we are used to each other and then we don't have such problems. One more thing.. like Mary said, I feel discrimination from such behaviour and to find solution means to change the thinking of the whole society, which might be a question of centuries :(
MARY May 21, 2016 23:32

First off, to make clear that women don't have more opportunities than men. STILL we have to 'fight' twice as men to get some job positions, and STILL we earn LESS money than our male co-workers doing the SAME job (a popular example right now is the Hollywood's 'controversy' where very popular actresses are demanding same salary than their male colleagues)

I'm aware that your culture is very different from mine, but I can't excuse discriminatory attitudes by the simple fact that the culture 'is different'. Discrimination is intolerable and must not been hiden behind the label of 'tradition' or 'culture'.

You're problaby living in a society where if a woman is being harassed in her job place people tends to think that's because that woman is being 'too polite' or because she has lot of make up. And the sad thing is that people who think like that can't get to understand how wrong and offensive is that... Because that's not women's problem but the problem of a dreadful education in that society.
MARY May 21, 2016 22:12

I love this reflection made by Kurt Cobain. I can't agree more with this.

I know your topic is not about rape, but you can also apply this about women being harassed in their job places.

Education and respect is the key.
Mishaikh May 20, 2016 4:56

Arif:

I am totally agree with your above contention.

I have been seeing this sort of attitude in our offices since long.

I have heard in industrial concern where I work more than that.

Once a friend of my get a job for a needy girl in one of our ladies section (assembly). Two or three days later she left the job that I can not work in this atmosphere.
Arif May 20, 2016 4:06

Well Lucinka, you are absolutely right that working environment for women in my country and Europe is quite different. I would explain the reason by referring to Economics's the law of demand and supply. When there is less supply, there is more more demand. I mean when the commodity in the market is less increases its demand and excessive supply causes loss of its worth. Hence no one pays so much attention. If you read first para you might learn that There is no restriction on women employment in my country. Here I discuss that working women must have some principles which may protect them from being judged wrong and harassed. What you describe about yourself. It means you know how to restrict men to their limit.

Thank you for response, but the purpose of posting this blog is not gained yet.
Luci May 19, 2016 14:23

Well, as a working woman with two kids I guess I am the right person to expeess my opinion on what you have posted here, Arif. Firstly, I think it is difference between women working in Europe (I am one of them) and in your country, which is I guess muslim country. I would like to point out that I work at office and I am in the contact with various kind of the people, mostly lawyers, businesmen etc. and I have rarely experienced, what you were describing here in your blog. Nobody bothers me, stares at me or behaves harsh. I have no idea about men in your country but I think we hardly can apply such behaviour on all the men or all the society. I am happy to be "independent" and useful for society but also proud mom of my kids who already attend kindergarten to be sociable. One more plus of this all is that our family income is higher and I can afford for example to travel with my family or purchase kids sth they dream of and of course give them better education...
Arif May 19, 2016 13:11

Neither his husband nor her husband but their husbands ;)

Thank you for the feedback.
salah gammaa May 19, 2016 12:44

to support his husband = to support her husband

her makeup during duties hours = their makeup during duty hours

Meri beebi bola main kam manta, main bola teeka, kam karo. A decent woman can work and help her family. We, men, must do our best to make their working area comfortable and respect them.

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