Marriage is a divine order to which compliance, a man and a woman, after a mutual agreement, are engaged in a marital life, so as to constitute a complete family. The marriage is the only remedy to curb growing fornication, which is not only a social disease, but also a serious punishable sin in view of Islamic laws here and hereafter. So, it should be celebrated with as much simplicity as possible. On the other hands, many unIslamic ceremonies, which cause extravagance, have been crept into it just to exhibit the wealth. Such practice has made a simple rite very complicated.
The ceremonies of marriage in Pakistan have gone to that extent where no an appropriate example across the world is found. There are so many wired ceremonies, one of them, I would like to tell you with the permission of my compatriots is shoes stealing ceremony, which is more common in my home city, Karachi. Imagine, when a young couple turns a new leave with such ceremony, how will the rest life go by? Anyway.
I guess you might be confused or thinking that shoes stealing ceremony means shoes of all participants in the marriage are stolen. Not at all! Don't worry about it. The shoes of only groom are stolen by bridal sisters for handsome amount of money as a ransom when the groom with his family, relatives and friends arrives at bridal house at the time of Nikha. I have no idea about its origin.
We all know the thief never foretells us what he plots to take away from us, but here the groom already knows each and every thing that he is going to be cheated. So, he keeps extra money in his pocket to exchange it for shoes. But all grooms in Pakistan are not as gentle as I mentioned above as an example. Some grooms are over-smart who persuade their friends to hide new shoes from bridal sisters. So, they replace new shoes by old ones to deceive them (bridal sisters) However, the groom, despite applying all his tricks, has to be hoaxed by them at the end on the name of fun.
Personally, I detest such ceremonies which may sometimes bring about conflict between two parties at a very sensitive stage when destiny of two lives is being decided and celebration can be marred by involvement of ego from either side of two parties. By the way, what would you do if you were a groom facing such situation?
Please do share your tricks.
PS: This ceremony is called "shoes hiding ceremony". However, I wrote it "shoes stealing ceremony" to make it more interesting.
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When the boy noticed his slippers were missing, he was the only person who was suffered from mischief of others, but when such mischievous practice is carried out on an occasion where families of two parties involved can cause any harm for the new couple. Though such case is rare to be seen, yet precaution is always better.
Thank you so much for sharing your real experience.
You're absolutely right. I agree to those self created traditions which have complete harmony from the beginning to the end, and are not contradictory to Islamic injunctions.
Does he apply any tricks to release himself from such barrier? Or he remains too shy to do anything?
Now I got to know that the groom folk is not saved in anywhere. :D.
Thank you so much for leaving very informative comment.
This blog reminded me of one incident at school where a pupil hid his classmate's slippers. Some of my pupils have the habit of leaving their slippers behind and just walk on bare feet inside the classroom.
When it was time to go home, this boy noticed that his slippers were missing. My goodness, I wa s not able to eat my lunch because of looking for them since the pupil responsible for hiding them had already left. I was fuming with sheer anger that I scolded the culprit when he came back in the afternoon.
Now, I can understand why you are against that ceremony, hahahaha!
Some traditions were originated just to ensure everyone get involved; from family members to the community. Over here, in some wedding ceremony, a groom have to pay a 'token' or 'toll' before he is allowed to enter the house of a bride for the ceremony. In this occasion, the community will get involve in trying to put the 'toll' rate that the groom has to pay.
Arif:- That is not a ritual, it is a part of fun. It is done to make relations ease. There are more ceremonies that I had like to share, but lets forget it. Your Islam is great so I have no words beyond it. Only Islam makes sense that is the reason top 5-10 Islamic countries are suffering from ISLAMIC Terrorism. You guys do not know the fun behind it. So do not criticize it, it is just a fun to hide shoes. I did it too, nothing bad in it.
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