Friendship (Companionship): A true & real friendship should appear to be really worthy, rare and valuable in event. I imagine it as a gold digger. I think that this gold digger has more chances to find a piece of gold in the mine than to actually find someone who can possibly be a true friend in this whole world, and who can keep, develop and promote this true/real friendship in life. This friendship should be consequently based on the honesty, appreciation, sincerity, love (friendly love, not lover’s love), understanding each other & unconditional relationship, and so on. These friends should be mutually stood firm, steadfast, pleasant, diligent & happy, each other in everything & anything.
Do you have such a friend in your life? Or are you looking for a right & suitable person to be your friend for the long term relationship under the bases of the real friendship in life? Have you ever tried yourself as to be a true friend and to promote friendship seriously?
In order to do so, you both (can be same or opposite sexes: male & male / vice versa, or male & female) need to mutually overcome against the following hindrances; perhaps our natures (male & female), different backgrounds, different nationalities & cultures, different thinking & opinions, different personalities & characters (direct or indirect, positive or negative & so on), and perhaps age gaps, etc.
Please tell us your own stories if you have, or tell us your own & honest opinions with regard to this subject?
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Hi, Adnan!
Thanks for your comments! I am glad that you like my blog & the words.
You said 'When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away....', but for me if I am surrounded by this love, I will be buoyant with expectations in this feeling of excitement rather than the feeling of excitement is fading away, don't you think so?
As you said 'Love shows up in all forms', for me, whether this love is a friendship love or a lover's love, I believe it should be the same love in a certain degree, but the only difference I could think of is one with or without a skinship. And also without these said superficial appearances you can't get involved in having such a relationship of promoting a friendship.
Hi, Mena!
'A friendship is like an umbrella' is a very good illustration. I like it. With & under the one umbrella, it's as friends walk together in the rain, being closer to each other mutually in trust.
For the first time a child opens his eyes to the world all its progress, giving the company. This child of the family is always the first solution to help all tasks and in all phases of his life. From the moment he took his first steps at the appointed time to face the world independently. During his life a person goes through ups and downs, and throughout the process, continue to learn and grow.
When a little child goes in the outer world to face the real life he meets a lot of challenges. To overcome such challenges he meets new people who become his friends, and we all know how important friendship is to all of us.
Hi, Notear!
I missed this, your comment, which was done a while ago. I don't know how I skipped your comment. I normally respond any comment ASAP, so I feel so sorry for this.
However, I like your comments, and I am glad that you agree with me. A friendship promotion isn't happening immediately but taking a lot of time, perhaps a life time, and it's worth to do so. And also in reality sometimes we don't feel like saying anything but being in silent due to some strange circumstances, we just want to be left alone from whatever they are, then a certain friend comes & just stays silently with me which makes me really appreciated with no reason, as this is a real friendship. Sometimes you are walking along the road or park with your friend, not talking, nothing special, but feeling so pleasant and just smiling each other. This kind of atmospheres may produce a good relationship, friendship, without any trying or any efforts for the special friendship to be promoted, because it supposed to be natural in respect.
Anyway, we could talk about it numerously in/with a different way or experience, and we could learn for each other, as there are some principles which we've perhaps never known before.
As it's never too late for the comments & reply, thanks for your comments & giving me a time to think about it again.
Take care!
Your loyal friend,
James
Hi, Notears!
You are very good to express yourself with your own thoughts in writing, as I am really impressed of your expressions. You should keep writing & express yourself with whatever you have in mind, like a stream of consciousness.
Yeah, certainly a genuine friendships is a rare, unforgettable and valuable treasure, and also worthy to keep for ever, if you have.
When you are in need, if he/she is your real friend, they would willingly come & try to help you with a 99% support & help, which will genuinely encourage you & comfort you, but only 1% may probably discourage you in a certain unexpected circumstance, which shouldn't be happened. Unfortunately we are not perfect in forms and we all have a sinful nature, so we don't even trust ourselves in anything even if we don't like it happening to us.
Nevertheless, there are in fact genuine friendships existing even in this imperfect world even it's very rare. So we have a hope and we can be still optimistically trying & seeking for the real friends........... as hoping to see myself & experience it for a pleasant joy & happiness.
Finally, this genuine friendship should be based on a love & loyalty (as you said) too. Without this loyalty you can't show up your friendly love towards your friend, and if you are always in silent but loving quietly rather than confronting it, showing & sharing feelings, then it wouldn't work easily unless he/she knows your introvert characteristics in your personalty. On the other hand, strangely enough, this kind of genuine friendship gets naturally & mostly accomplished between Extrovert and Introvert person rather than between the same characters, even to the married couples too.
Thanks for your thoughtful & meaningful comments!
Thanks for your comment with the truth in it.
You are absolutely right that we have a great advantage with the advanced technology, but can we have a same feeling with a friendly real love? It's because I believe that this said friendship supposed be based on a virtual love too as we should mutually feel this love in understanding & respect; just as a true friendship is a love with a full understanding. Hence, it's questionable as having a long term & going-concern valuation basis in friendship because it hasn't happened to us yet , even if some people might say that they have already experienced in having started with a kind of the said friendship (so called 'virtual on-line, internet or international friends in life'), and so have I. As for me, basically I just wait & see, while I am trying to do my best as much as possible, since I've started with friends whom I feel the best (purely friends, nothing else).
Nevertheless, learning & improving English may take much longer than I expect but possibly we can keep & promote this friendship last long as least as long as we are together in learning & practising English because this is our motivation or tools for each other as getting to know each other more & sharing things with each other & so on.
Valuable words and full of meaning to me... thanks for sharing your view.
You are right, in this time it's too hard to find a true friend , it would see we are closer to others than the past because now we have technology advanced, many tools to find the perfect love, the perfect friend but at the final we are so far each to other.
Like you said the real friendship can not be built in one day the most of times take years the real friends become real friends... and sometimes it's so fragile... if your roots are not enough strong , surely when a bad situation it's presents the friendship it's broken.
A look of anxiety as a colourlessness is to last long and a love is like a wind as not knowing when to be sneaked away, but a friendship is like a star as always to be there for ever.
Something to make you uneasy in an anxiety as to hold hand in hand seems to be a love, but something to be easily reachable and to let you hold hand in hand if you stretch out your hands is there for you as it’s so called ‘a friendship’ - ‘A FRIENDSHIP’
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