Just don't care, what they say :)

Sometimes we come across weird, chaotic thoughts that start occupying our brain. Sometimes we are stressed because of little issues that eventually don't matter so much but we consider them at that one particular moment the most important in the world. We ask ourself the questions such as: "Am I good enough? Do I look fine? Will others like this or that I have worked on?" We tend to doubt, which is natural but I would say we waste time on thinking about how others percieve us...

In fact, we care too much about own appearance. We want to look good, we want to impress others. The question is FOR WHOM are we doing this all? For the strangers on the streets that we pass by and who don't care about us? For the people in school or at work, who hardly remember what we were wearing the previous day? After all at home with our own family we don't care that much about it because we are simply ourself. What made me laugh was one post I have read recently: "Home is the only place we can look ugly because nobody cares there about it... "

We are dying to be loved, to be popular to be a good person. We want to be admired because it simply makes us feel good but isn't it a bit egoistic and selfish? It actually looks like we forgot to value our own abilities. We should do things we like and enjoy instead of doing them on purpose with the vision of being liked and praised. Feedback is of course nice thing but firstly we should be happy about our own effort and performance. The less we care about how others percieve us, the less vulnerable and more confident we will be.

So what's the message I wanted to share by writing this blog? You know, I just wanted to say that it isn't about being arrogant, it is just about appreciating own abilities, which should make us feel comfortable and which should vanish all these questions about how others see us. What matters is.. how much we value ourself and how much we appreciate doing things that makes us happy just for our own inner nice feeling and satisfaction...

So just take things easy and live your life for yourself, not for others...

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  • I think that the "care about what the other think/say" mindset is a real mental plague, moreover brings us to be unconfident. 

  • Yes! But, when we see more beautiful or gorgeous smart lady in front of us.....and if specially that day or moment our dresses or we look shabby or pale, then?! So, we should be careful for ourselves....not only for others! And, this is my message!

  • "the red rose will never be red if the rose was busy for following what the wind has said"
  • Hello ,

    This is great article and I realy enjoyed reading it. I've read about these ideas in one of the best books on amazon " The subtle art of not giving a f**k " by Mark Manson. He thinks that we give a f**k about a lot of unimportant things which makes us forget the things that really matter.

    Thanks.

  • hmmm. I don´t dye hair that has gone lost long ago. And as us ugly butts used to say: true beauty originates from the inside. :-) and those that are more beauty than us just have put on their make up.

    Though, it obvious, the better you feel the more you may make ppl around you feeling comfortable.

    Thanks for your thoughts.

  • Ciao bella mia) I've reminded our talk about uploading own pics on social networks and people's -weirdos' feedbacks and our reaction on them) Do you remember what I told you ?;-)

  • Luci, I don't wear makeup at home, either! But it doesn't make such great women like us look ugly! ROLF! Happy to see you at last!

  • Rose, thanks for this post... I like it a lot! 

  • Md, thanks for your comment and yeahh i agree that it is about our confidence :) just believe in yourself, right? 

  • Tanya.. I don't wear make up at home haha and okay let's not say ugly but just natural hahaa.. Btw as for my picture, yes it is ofc me.. Who else would it be? :o :D

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