It is common to hear the expression 'ladies first'. Women, in particular, daily repeat it as if it is a rule. They actually feel proud of it, unknowing its origin and its real indications. They think it is praise to them, while it is a shame to be said according to its originThe story of this saying took place in Italy. It is about two lovers who loved each other so much. They decided to marry. But some social circumstances and relatives block the way of their marriage. They did not accept this and intentionally decided either to live together as husband and wife, or to die. together Having done best to achieve the marriage, they got disappointed. Dying was the only option. They thought about a number of ways to commit the suicide,throwing themselves into the sea was the appropriate way to them. The man sincerely said he would not bear the situation of seeing her drowning to death in front of his eyes. He convinced his beloved that he would throw himself first and then she would do so latter.In the rush moment, the man did it and drown. The lady was looking at him as if he was 'singing'. The man was dead. It was the lady's turn to follow him to live together underneath, as they decided. But she soon broke her promise, forgetting her sweetheart who was dying in front of her eyes and in heart as well.She 'threw herself back to the village'. Yes! Her promise was to throw herself. And she did, but to the village instead of the sea.She came back home, to her relatives as if nothing has happened. Few days later, she fell in love with another man. She was happy with him as if it was her first love. It did not take a lot of time till she got married to himSince then, people start doubting ladies and start repeating the saying 'ladies first', with the implication that ladies should throw themselves into the sea first, should die first, because they are not trustworthyIt is really interesting when one hears a lady proudly says 'ladies first', thinking that she adds a privilege for being a female. Some people, men and women, take it as a social rule, unknowing its real indications.This is not a personal point of view. It is not, moreover, a personal interpretation of the story. It is what many sources say and interpret the original story. So, women please forgive me for shedding light on this.I do only a favor for women so that to be aware of when to say 'ladies first' and when not to say.
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I say also that Ladies First : Ladies is our (Mother, Sister, Wife, Daughter). Ladies is our born mother. She is more than hardly work for a common man. She's though capacity more than a man.
Ladies is whole world born any circumstances. Ladies is our Mother So we respect my mother so I say Ladies First.
hi Emile
may as the other said its strange..but wat if she felt scared of death?? its not easy to suicide..
i cant believe that she forgot her lover as this easy!!
when woman loves ..she will be so faithful in her love..
remember 'Juliet' ??
Hi Emilie, This story is really strange .This is the first time i know the meaning of "the ladies first" i thought it's more etiquette.I think i'll not use it again.Thanks for this new information. Peace Kamel
Hello Kamel:
It's new for me too. But it's good to know such information.
Have a nice day.
Emilie
Hi Emilie,
This story is really strange .This is the first time i know the meaning of "the ladies first" i thought it's more etiquette.I think i'll not use it again.Thanks for this new information.
Peace
Kamel
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I say also that Ladies First : Ladies is our (Mother, Sister, Wife, Daughter). Ladies is our born mother. She is more than hardly work for a common man. She's though capacity more than a man.
Ladies is whole world born any circumstances. Ladies is our Mother So we respect my mother so I say Ladies First.
may as the other said its strange..but wat if she felt scared of death?? its not easy to suicide..
i cant believe that she forgot her lover as this easy!!
when woman loves ..she will be so faithful in her love..
remember 'Juliet' ??
thank you Emilie for this story .
I felt sad that this story only disgraced the gentle meaning of the statement, "Ladies first."
There is a great difference in human minds if the story shared is destructive or constructive especially if it's just a product of human imagination.
Good day!
-Lynne-
Question: Emilie are you a girl? :-) I just felt curious all of a sudden.
Thanks for the story
of a bygone era. this story is strange, one never knows.
Thanx my dear friend ,
Keep your lovely smile
it was new for me too.thanks a lot for your info.
but the story was very sad,i hope it never happens to any man.
have a nice time (ladies first in this case) ;)
Hello Kamel:
It's new for me too. But it's good to know such information.
Have a nice day.
Emilie
This story is really strange .This is the first time i know the meaning of "the ladies first" i thought it's more etiquette.I think i'll not use it again.Thanks for this new information.
Peace
Kamel