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The Expectations

We all expect something from our lives, some of us are lost in the expectations and become the dreamers, others prefer to stay flegmatic and don't expect almost anything. Then there are people who keep their feet firmly on the ground and try to compromise between emotions and mind. Expectations aren't anyhow limited and it is up to us how much of our precious time we will invest in anticipating.

I would say that the expactations go together with hope some of them with dreams or trust. It is so nice to recall the moments when we expected something eagerly and in the end we got satisfied, we got nice inner feeling after long time of waiting. It is something like reward – it is worth it!!

If we expect positive attitude from others, support them, for sure we won't regret because if we can motivate people, our effort will be highly appreciated. This is something what almost all the teachers know. On the other hand if we are 24/7 too negative and reserved we can't expect from others that they will enjoy our company. From such examples above we can say that the expectations go together with the way we behave, with our attitude towards people.

We expect to get promoted at work, we expect our friends won´t let us down, when we are children we expect our parents to buy for us the toys we dream of them, we automatically expect from people we love that they will love us back, we expect something exciting from the trip or journey, we expect that we will inherit big money one day or when we are on holiday we expect nice weather!  So many expectations but it all depends on our priorities, our dreams and of course not all the results of our expectations we are able to influence.

We also can live in false expectations, we get stuck somewhere and without any help we can't move on. Sometimes we tend to fool ourselves and we expect something unreal - for example love, which might be very painful and self-destroying. Luckily we all aren´t so patient enough to stay in such situation till our death and sooner or later we simply give up, we wake up from this dream, we kill disillusion that occupied our mind.

If somebody expect too much from others, they can get hurt easily, maybe we all have experienced it at least once. Our imagination might be misrepresented and naive or our demand is so high that not so many people are able to fulfill it and it makes us disappointed. We are these who determine in our life some rules. As time passes by we build up on the basis of our positive and negative experience our inner world – world of the expectations. But how to protect such world?  Logically, to avoid  disappointment it is better not to expect anything. But can we do that? Can people control themselves like this? Most people think positively and react instinctively and that's why not so many of us can in particular situation all of a sudden see the red warning light with the note : 

!!! Watch out!! Don't expect anything !!!

Of course, it wouldn't be sometimes so bad to be disciplined like this, to supress emotions and use only mind. In this case we would avoid disappointment of the expectations with bad endings.

Anyway, we learn from the mistakes, it moves us forward so let's be thankful even for all bad moments the expectations gave us because without them we would stay naive and immature. Without all our failures we wouldn´t become experienced and wouldn´t be able to analyze if something is worth it, if we can expect positive ending, in short if we can hope. Getting wiser, experienced and careful is maybe the only way how to protect our world of the expectations.

Warning !!! Hope you didn't expect too much :-D