It was a usual women gathering with many Arabian coffee cup and lots of cookies , cakes , and many waffling around .

     Far from the chaotic big morning banquet . I was talking with a friend of mine . We mentioned a word related to our culture and dialect . The word express bad people intervention in family issues . She asked me how do you define ....... ? I said : I thinks it's when someone ruins your relation with your spouse on purpose . That's what the word exactly mean .
Oh , with sadness on her face . I will tell you something.
" I have left my husband " please , don't tell anyone here .
Me : I won't , but why ?
My friend : I can't handel it anymore . He don't ask my permission , in doing things related to our family .
Me : but this isn't a big reason
My friend : he beats me sometimes ,
This is only the top of an ice berg in demostic violence and it is an international problem .
     How can we understand the nature of men , is it their muscline hormones only or do they need to be more educated to know how to control their furious anger toward women .
     As I discuss this topic again and again with my sister on phone . She keeps on telling me that : A woman shouldn't confront a man in a quarrel . When she does so , she will pay back . A man will start fighting her as if she is another man . So , don't even try it , because women are weaker physically than men .
    Regardless of these usually cases where man can't hold their hands . There are cases where women suffer from their inability to get out the dark circles of male abuse , due to economical , cultural , psychological reasons and sometimes kids
Who lose their security in these families and confront life challenges with pains and anxiety . They are the real victims of grown up fights .
    At my 20s I used to consider any woman who is able to get a man out of her life as a strong one . Nonetheless , it isnt that easy for a woman to start again , even if she is finicially secured .
    Women are more emotional in general their wounds don't heal easily . Unlike men " They don't have wombs " They don't feel things as women do . They have their own practical minds .
    Violence isn't anyone fate , let's all believe in happy endings as women . In our abilities to choose the right partner or leave our bad relations at our back as history

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Comment by Rosemary :) on October 17, 2018 at 15:20

   My dear friend NotAClue  :) 

      Thanks for your wonderful comment here  and yes I admit I generalize  even when I try to run from  it  . You are right there are many abusive women as well 

Comment by NotAClue on October 17, 2018 at 14:26

Dear Rosemary, thanks for the topic. I'm with you when you're pointing out that women should leave their violent partners. What I don't like so much about this blog is that you generalizing about women and men's feelings and/or behaviors. I've read that in so many blogs of you, and I don't like it. Women are not better than men. Many Women are also abusing children and men. Yeah, nobody likes to hear it...

Anyway, to get out of a violent environment/home everyone needs help. It's important to not look away when we witness abuse and violence and it doesn't matter who is the victim.

Greetings


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Comment by nida on September 23, 2018 at 8:23

Since women are physically weaker it is easier for men to vent their anger and frustration on them. On the other hand, they'll think at least twice before fighting a man.

Boys should be taught from a very young age, both at home and at school, that violence is not the solution to any problem and being violent doesn't make them superior. In fact, it's the tolerance and good behavior that show how strong they really are. They should learn to respect women and they need to realize that women are human beings like them and not just objects devoid of emotions and pain. They must be taught that if women are weaker, then it's their responsibility to protect them.....and they haven't got any right to abuse them only because they're not equal to men in terms of physical strength. 

What I think that greatest responsibility lies with mother here as she's the first teacher of every man born in this world. However, I admit that many times it is not possible for a mother to teach her child good values because of the culture and the society in which she lives as it resist all her efforts to make her child a good human.

Comment by mr right on September 22, 2018 at 4:17

you women  has the solution to stop that violence,  the kids are being educated by a woman, boys need to learn how to treat a girl since that early stage of their lives, we all deserve to live without violence we all deserve to be respected and loved , tnx for sharing  your words with us, rose.


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Comment by Onee-chan on September 19, 2018 at 4:02

Hi Roman!

Though your comment is racist, I'd like to tell you that you just need to open your eyes to see abundance of evidence. Take care! ;)


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Comment by Onee-chan on September 19, 2018 at 3:59

Hi Rosemary! Of course the domestic violence should be reported. She has the rights to sue her husband in case she is right.

Thank you for sharing. :)

Comment by AG on September 18, 2018 at 8:48

well... I don't know really what to do with uncivilized men who act like beasts with their women.. This is first... 

From another point of view, I agree with your sister, and personally, it's 100% applicable to me.. when a girl tries to confront me, my mind starts dealing her as a man, and It would push me to the furthest limits, though it's never in my mind that beating a female is within the limits.. the furthest limit in my mind is concluded in your last line " to choose the right partner or to leave our bad relationships behind our backs"

nice writing as usual, ya Rosemary :) 

Comment by bet on September 18, 2018 at 4:48

''I know, that there are a lot of people that like women wearing those full body covering clothes, but this sentence is one of the bright reasons, why I don't like those clothes.''....written by Roman

"There are cases where women suffer from their inability to get out the dark circles of male abuse" ...by Rose

''Where is a proof that all completely covered with clothes women are not suffering from violence right now?'' ..by Roman, right?

I think, Roman did not get Rose's idea properly! In my opinion, wearing long dresses has no role in terms of abusing women, the reason behind it is related mostly with our wrong way upbringing and worse mentality! If it happens due to wearing long clothing then why around the globe women get Physical and mental torture? I think, we should get out from some of our prejudices....here we are talking about domestic violence against women though I also mentioned that domestic violence also happens against men too!  And, it is a great pity, it is happening everywhere, in every society no matter where do they live, east to west, no matter poor or rich  no matter educated or illiterate!

Comment by Estanis on September 17, 2018 at 19:26

As long as this keep on being sort of taboo topic in any society the problem will exist. I think Not only abused wives/women should report but neighbors, family, any person who knows of any case of domestic violence should help. 

There is no reason big enough for justifying a beaten wife.

Comment by Roman on September 17, 2018 at 19:15

Hi, Rosemary!

That woman should've mentioned about violence as about the first and the main reason of leaving him!

" How can we understand the nature of men , is it their muscline hormones only or do they need to be more educated to know how to control their furious anger toward women . "

Yes, they have to know how to control their anger!

There are a lot of women and men, that deserve to be punished, but only in a human way.

I know, that there are a lot of people that like women wearing those full body covering clothes, but this sentence is one of the bright reasons, why I don't like those clothes "There are cases where women suffer from their inability to get out the dark circles of male abuse" Where is a proof that all completely covered with clothes women are not suffering from violence right now?

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