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Do We Use the Internet or Does the Internet Use Us?

Needless to come up with the monologue of the internet invention - when was it made?, who by?, what for? etc. because we all know it very well, just from my perception I'll emphasize some of its negative effects on humankind which are getting outnumbered day by day. Why so? - because the internet is one of the most constructive and at the same time the most destructive inventions of the last century we all are addicted to.

Recently, I've come across some discussions in the chat room and I've read some posts about 'cyber love' and those discussions and posts put smile on my face because I and I'm very sure most of you HAVE BEEN THERE who have gone through the same situations and have at least one story to be told. Let me tell you a story I experienced once. With the internet the world has become a global village where people can interact comfortably with anyone in any corner of the world.

Once I met one of 'villagers' online who seemed to be close to my preferences as a partner but after many years of interaction, trust and sharing some private life events I've got known his real personal traits and capabilities who turned out to be not as 'cool' as he pretended or seemed on the internet but also a miserable, loser guy who was trying to fill his void and enjoy virtual life the way he would have never been able to do in real life. Initially I also messed up with that person and cheated though not intentionally but after many years of friendship I've decided to tell the truth. 

Even though we both had known some of our minuses yet we kept in touch with each other because it can be said that we used to get along well with each other at some level, we could speak about any topics and have fun, meantime the affection had been developed. I thought I was in love so I've decided to tell about my feelings and intentions to build up the relationship as I had been told by him before that he had had some feelings for me too but here we go, he has refused all his feelings when it came to make decision about the future, he got afraid of taking some responsibilities. When I asked why did he cheat on me - his response was: '' its due to lack of brain'' so the thing is that we come across such brainless people on the internet who just make up their miserable life by cheating and playing with others and in this game people get hurt and some even suffer from the imaginary feelings. In my case, all has gone normally, no drama, no reproach or swear just a peaceful farewell)

 What I regret is that I really wasn't feeling that way to talk about love because as he told me about his real feelings - on the spur of the moment I lost the interest in him, moreover I didn't even get hurt much after refusal, it more likely hurt my pride rather than my feelings. After some time I felt nothing but smile on my face and feeling pity on him after seeing him. Means it was the delusion of my ideas being in love rather than experiencing true feelings since true love can never be dealt that easily, even more virtually because love has some requirements that the internet will never be able to provide with.

Back to the point, I was talking about at the beginning - the negative effects on humankind of the internet are that it sometimes leads us to nowhere where imagination, confusion and cheating are the basic means of communication in most of the cases and it distracts us from real feelings and real people around us in searching of something . In my opinion to sort out and deal with the net, one of solutions could be this not to become animals and stay as a human:


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Comment by MA NO on April 19, 2018 at 18:04

Thank you Pepe and Svitlana for your comments. :)

Comment by Svitlana on April 19, 2018 at 17:33

One the one hand, social network is like a drug for people. They can have everything in the net because their imagination lives there. Games, love, friendship. Therefore, some of people don't want to leave the virtual life at all. In fact, we are all human beeings and make a lot of mistakes.
On the other hand, the intertet gives us many good things such as useful information, learning and working. Honestly, I met here a few friends who didn't refuse me. At the present time, we are too close and meet in reality very often.
Thank you, dear EC memeber, for your nice blog. I understand you very well and totally agree with you.

Comment by MA NO on September 3, 2017 at 11:31

White Knight, I am sure any person who has ever accessed to the internet, has done the same or similar mistake , even once, including you :). We all are humans hence fallible , so making mistakes is okay but we got an opportunity to make a choice. Making mistakes more than once is not a mistake but a decision. I got my lesson so I chose not to make them again.) 

Thank you for your comment. 

Comment by White Knight on September 3, 2017 at 3:05

once your habit of getting attached to your smartphone lessens , you can continue your normal routine. 

Comment by White Knight on September 3, 2017 at 2:53

For communication purposes , keep with you a simple phone , for communicating with your family and friends . 

Comment by White Knight on September 3, 2017 at 2:51

Surely the internet is controlling us , we have forgotten our surroundings and one thing that we remember is the smart phone and our notifications , that's all , no family time etc , gradually start to put barriers between yourself and the internet by spending time without the smartphone , this will take some time but you will slowly build a habit of visiting the internet for a less amount of time .  

Comment by Roman on September 1, 2017 at 21:19


Comment by MA NO on September 1, 2017 at 16:19

Ciao Roman, thanks for commenting. As its said "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger", now Im stronger and wiser)

Comment by Roman on August 31, 2017 at 19:24

Hi, EC Member! Thank you for sharing:) You are 99% right! And ofcourse i glad to know that you are okay after that!

Comment by dara gino on August 31, 2017 at 12:53

Welcome EC Member, is it possible to be your friend? Thanks.

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