human addiction to pessimism......................

In fact it was Olga´s blog post that made me write this one. Thinking what I could share there, a book by an austrian psychologist came to mind about which I wanted to report there. It probably had went off topic so that I decided to open a new blog. here it goes:

The name of the psychologist was Paul Watzlawik. And the title is "manual to unhappiness". Paul wrote and collected some short stories of which the following makes me giggle on ocassion:

A guy had bought a new drawing as to hang it to the wall. Trying to hang it up he found out that he had nails indeed but no hammer. Now as he remembered his neighbour had one he decided to ask him for it. No sooner than done he left his flat and went to the neighbour´s door. Wonderring how to ask the neighbour and what to say in case the neighbour refused to give him the hammer only negative answers by the neighbour came to his mind. The longer the guy faced the neighbour´s door the more mad he got. Finally he knocked on the neighbours door. The neighbour opened the door and got scared seeing the guy scolding: "Keep your darn hammer yours. I´ll go to the do-it-yourself-shop and buy me an own hammer".

lol can anyone find himself in that story? If so you got 99 points out of 100. rofl

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Comment by ❀❤•❀Paula✿.•❤øº on May 16, 2018 at 19:50

Well Ziv it is not the first time I didn't get something right and definitely won't be the last.....rofl....

Comment by Svitlana on May 16, 2018 at 18:28

Haha, Zivi. Your story reminds me of my husband. He is a pessimist too. All the time I try to change his mind but I have failed till now. If he starts doing something new he always thinking about a failure. In spite of my support he never expects a good result of his attempts. However he says that pessimists are the only people who are happy when their dreams don't come true. LOL

Comment by Zivi on May 16, 2018 at 16:49

Hi Oporazita, as with friends I´d say it is the same as with the pottery. Caution is the mother of them both. A reasonable scepticism is perfectly useful. Though you dared commenting. Thanks for your point.

Comment by Oporazita on May 16, 2018 at 16:16

Hi Zivi!I

think I'm also a pessimistic person. In my case I have negative thinking to meet with new people even talk to someone new in my real life and in online as well. Like this guy, before talk or introduce someone new I think that they wouldn't like me so I never approach to talk and even if I talked after talking I feel that may be she/he get bored by my stupid talking. So, I get upset....bec I can't make friend easily ....:))

Comment by Zivi on May 16, 2018 at 15:41

Hi Paula,thanks for reading and commenting. And I admit, you are pretty free to shrink from borrowing. I myself am a -so to say- self owning. And all points you mentioned are pretty fine to me.

But sorry, the blog wasn´t about borrowing. It´s been about the way human minds work ocassionally. As the guy in need of a hammer optimistically rushed out of his flat -not having any negative thoughts in mind- fresh and happily thinking of his drawing started doubting when it comes to ask. And finally scolded at his neighbour who not even knew who was knocking on his door and what the visitor´s concern was. I.e. the guy with the drawing spoiled his own day by thinking negatively rather than ask a simple question. His neighbour probably had no problem with lending him the hammer. What were to break on a hammer? And what would you think a neighbour stood before your door out of the blue scolding you for something that wasn´t your problem and you had nothing to do with?

Hope I made the idea behind the story a bit more obvious.

Comment by ❀❤•❀Paula✿.•❤øº on May 16, 2018 at 14:20

Well Ziv......I have known the feeling of dreading to ask someone for something.  thinking I was going to get bopped on the head for it.  I was always taught not to borrow.  Not that I haven't had to do that at times......but yes when it comes to borrowing......I do not look at it in a positive light.  It is better to buy your own.......simply because if what you borrowed gets broken or must replace it for the person you borrowed it from in the first would have been better off buying what you needed.  Since my upbringing installed in me the negative in regards to borrowing.......I did not find myself angry as the guy in the story........but to ask someone for something certainly made me feel less than. So I always try to stand on my own two feet and not ask for much.  I am not sure if this all pertains to your story Ziv.......but you know......sometimes our upbringing instills in us how we think about things.......and sometimes those thoughts are wrong.......but sometimes.......there is good advice there.  Remember parents and such are human also.......and sometimes what has happened to them in their passed on to us in our  Thanks for a nice blog........I liked it!!!!

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