A true story of a rebellious daughter.

A few months ago, in a village lived an old man being left by his first and second wife to another world. Without doors and walls, he stayed at a guardhouse . He was abandoned by his daughter because she felt he had used much wealth of her mother (first wife). He was taken care by some generous villagers who gave gave him food everyday, regularly. Having known that, his daughter felt ashamed of him and wanted to send him to another village to be vagrant. The villagers opposed her decision badly and said, "Let us take care of your father. If you feel ashamed of him, go back to your place". She moved from her village to another town.

Two months later, her father died and she didn't go home for a visit despite hearing the news. After that, she went for Hajj to Mecca. Having come back home, she died on that day without any illness.

Dear friends, is this how we were thought to treat our parents? I believe that no matter how we think our parents are wrong, we SHOULD still RESPECT them. Even just to say 'hush' to parents is not allowed in my religion.

How should we treat our parents if we ever think that they are wrong?

Have you ever regretted for what you've done to your parents? 

I would say that an apology is better before we run out of time.

Thank you so much for being concerned about this discussion.

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Dear Onee-Chan,

Firstly, my parents died a few years ago.

Secondly, when they were alive I helped them very much with all my heart even if they were wrong.

Thirdly, I had never regretted for what I had done for my parents.

I hope children to like and to serve parents when they are alive even if their parents are wrong. It is only my opinion.

Thanks for your great subject and best wishes,

Only the heartless person behaves like this towards his/her parents. And they are out of cast from humanity. Even we are supposed to respect all the other elders and try to help them as far as possible.
To look at the face of the parent is also a sadqa. (blessing). The girl
has died (as you said) and deprived of her chances to repent herself
by praying for her father. This was the last chance which she was
not given, it shows that Allah is also angry with her. (May she be forgiven and may her parent be set in heaven), Ameen.

This topic really made me furious and my blood started to boil! The word disgust is an understatement to describe what I feel towards these people. I will not deny that when I was younger, I experienced to talk back to my mother, (I wouldn't dare to my father, or else my head will spin 360 degrees, kidding!) those were the times that I truly regret, well you know stupidity captured my young mentality. Now, I'm trying my best to make it up to them although that happened a long time.

Respect is our obligation to our parents, regardless of what kind of parents they are. A chick can live even without the help of its hen but a human baby will surely die without the help of any adult human person. To think this way, I do believe, we are indebted to our parents until the day we die.

We should take care of them not because we want to repay but because we love them with all our hearts.

Gosh, (deep sigh)... I wish they are here so I can touch their faces like before.

Dear Bijan,

Thank you so much for sharing your memories about your parents with us. You seemed to have great parents and you're an obedient son.

Serving parents when they are alive is the most important we should do as their children.

As for me, If I think they are wrong, I, at least will talk to them politely with full of affection. In case I am not heard, respect should still be there

Thanks a lot for sharing your view and being the first to reply. Best wishes to you, too.


Bijan said:

Dear Onee-Chan,

Firstly, my parents died a few years ago.

Secondly, when they were alive I helped them very much with all my heart even if they were wrong.

Thirdly, I had never regretted for what I had done for my parents.

I hope children to like and to serve parents when they are alive even if their parents are wrong. It is only my opinion.

Thanks for your great subject and best wishes,

Dear Mishaikh,

Thanks for sharing your view about the story. I'm afraid Allah is still angry since she lost his last chance. But we wish good for her. Ameen. 

"To look at the face of the parents is also blessing". Thanks for this words, Mishaikh. It really remind me of them, and see them more often as they are still alive. 

Well, about respecting the elders. I absolutely support that.

Thanks a lot for your valuable reply.  

Mishaikh said:

Only the heartless person behaves like this towards his/her parents. And they are out of cast from humanity. Even we are supposed to respect all the other elders and try to help them as far as possible.
To look at the face of the parent is also a sadqa. (blessing). The girl has died (as you said) and deprived of her chances to repent herself by praying for her father. This was the last chance which she was not given, it shows that Allah is also angry with her. (May she be forgiven and may her parent be set in heaven), Ameen.

Risty,

To be honest, once I also talked back to my father at my very young age. But, a few minutes later, I fully regretted and immediately asked his forgiveness. However, those moment didn't make me feel good for a week. It was a precious lesson to me.

I wonder how children nowadays (kids or adults) could talk back so often to their parents and live comfortably..... How could....?

I like your this words : human baby will surely die without the help of any adult human person. My friend said "Where did we came out from...?" Sure, we are indebted so great to them. I would say we can't pay for it completely for the rest of our life.

Making them happy is our duty for sure.

Thank you so much for sharing your view. I hope your wish come true, dear. Call them soon. :)

Risty Aven said:

This topic really made me furious and my blood started to boil! The word disgust is an understatement to describe what I feel towards these people. I will not deny that when I was younger, I experienced to talk back to my mother, (I wouldn't dare to my father, or else my head will spin 360 degrees, kidding!) those were the times that I truly regret, well you know stupidity captured my young mentality. Now, I'm trying my best to make it up to them although that happened a long time.

Respect is our obligation to our parents, regardless of what kind of parents they are. A chick can live even without the help of its hen but a human baby will surely die without the help of any adult human person. To think this way, I do believe, we are indebted to our parents until the day we die.

We should take care of them not because we want to repay but because we love them with all our hearts.

Gosh, (deep sigh)... I wish they are here so I can touch their faces like before.

Dear Farroq,

Thanks a lot for taking this story as a good lesson to all of us. Agree with you. And yes, respect is that important to us, children and younger.

Glad to know that you are concerned about this discussion.

Farroq said:

That tru story is a good lesson to us....I'm muslin either, I respect to my parents and other agings...

Regards,    No Comment written... Every things are clear....

Dear Lakhsmi,

I agree with you, "now they are aged it is our responsibility to take care them". We children should know our place and BE RESPONSIBLE.

Nice to see you in this discussion. Thanks a lot for your valuable reply.  

lakshmi said:

good thought we must respect our parents if they did good or wrong with you that's not a matter here. we will be not here if they didn't take care us in past. We depended our parents for our needs now they are aged it is our responsibility to take care them.

Dear Chitra,

I really appreciate your opinion. Sure, they are my well wisher and I respect them a lot. In my heart, I put them after my God and my Prophet, though.

Glad to see you here. Thank you so much sharing your valuable view. 

Chitra said:

In my opinion whatever they did.....they are my parents...my well wisher...I respect them a lot.I treat them as my god.
My Parent is everything to me... I always try to do something for them but I know I can never do equally as they did for me.... Nobody heart can be pure as parent have pure heart toward their kids..

Onee nice Discussion.. ^.^

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