I always hear from some wise philosophers that we should accept people as they are.
"Never try to change someone.... Love their imperfections.... Respect their freedom.... Only real feelings look like that.... " and... so on...
I agree with that but....

Sould we reconcile with all flaws of someone and suffer from them because we love this person or we have to give up and go away? 
Should we point out faults in him or her or just accept it?

I will be grateful for your opinions, guys.
Thank you.

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Dear svitlana,in fact this is exactly what i said..it was mean to me that u said everyrhing..of course you ll correct the person that u dont have to be without concern..u dont have to endure the things that bothers u..my view was,while intervening the situations and to persons we should be in good intent..that s all..sincerely svitlana..i m happy u re at the right angle with me..

Thank you, dear Alper, for your comments and for your friends request.

Best regards to you. 

As far as this post goes, accepting another person flaws or imperfections is really a great thing!

while I read your question I thought of one thing, can you imagine that someone would feel the same way or ask the same question against you?

what if someone just struggles as much as he could just to accept your flaws or your bad behavior?

likewise what if you are struggling from accepting yourself? and seeking other's people acceptance?

if you can answer all these questions and reflect on them, then you will get as much  clear as directions towards what you've been looking for, and remember you are not forced to accept others, similarly, others are not forced to accept you.

Your questions are so curious, dear Rayan.
Let me try to answer them.
As I understood, at first, you try to criticise yourself in any issue. Agreed.To be honest I like self-criticism too. When the situation is complicated I attempt to analyze my mistakes and draw the necessary conclusions. Of course, I am not ideal. For someone I am perfect but maybe for some people I am not good and they can't bear me. You said : " you are not forced to accept others, similarly, others are not forced to accept you." Right. If we dislike a person we can go away easy. I agree with you If it is related to strangers. But.. What to do If it is related to our close people? We love them and don't want to leave, however some of their flaws hurt us all the time. What to do in this case? to ask them to change their behavior or to continue being offended?
Thank you, dear, for your comment.

When being with someone is so hurtful every day, that being alone again is your only wish... 

Don't go... RUN! 

Although, I don't think it has to be someone's fault... it's just not meant to be, or wrong time, or whatever. I'm not an expert. 

You are right, dear NotAGlue.
Sometimes it can be a wrong time or some of circumstances can influence on people bad. Due to that people change to the worse. Not everyone can bear difficult situations and doesn't change.
As you said if we are with someone who hurts us and doesn't understand our resentment we have to run away.
Thank you, dear, for your poin of view.

>>>if we are with someone who hurts us and doesn't understand our resentment we have to run away.

Actually, I didn't say that, and I didn't mean this. 

What one person hurts, isn't a problem for another person. So my feelings are always the result of my own expectations, assessments, and (un)fulfilled needs.


Do you mean we should not care of resentment, dear? Not to expect anything and accept  people as they are? I don't mean expectations. I mean bad habits and flaws of people which hurt us.

Thank you for your greetings! Best wishes to you too. )))

I mean what we consider bad habits or flaws is different for every person...  It depends on our own expectations, assessments, and (un)fulfilled needs. Well, and also on people's culture... 

So when something bothers me in the behavior of other people/or my partner ... I shouldn't label it a flaw or bad habit. Instead I would try to make understandable what I think and what I feel when the other person does it... 

And I can't expect immediately change... but change will come with time, I'm sure about that. 


I got you, dear NotAClue, and I agree with you about that.

By the way someone has the favorite saying: Expect the unexpected!  :P



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