strange traditions

The second time I got married, my wife's aunt brought a tub and went inside with me and my wife to witness the consummation of our marriage. I turned to my wife and whispered in her ear, "Why is she here? what is that big plate for?" My wife answered me that she was going to be with us to wash our feet together and then witness the first sexual intercourse between us. Of course, I disagreed at once and told her to tell her aunt to get out of the room. Then my wife brought a white scarf and put it under her. I didn't care about it and we finished our first night with screams and that red fluid came from her into that white cloth. Then my wife happily and proudly took that piece of cloth to her mother which she showed it to her neighbors and friends and relatives. I was shy when I knew about it. Basically, traditions, habits, and religions differ from one society to the other. In our communities, the chastity or virginity of the bride depends on her hymen. Her husband is the man who opens that membrane. Do you agree to have other people present on your first night of marriage? Does it mean absolute masculinity and feminity for both sides?  What do you think? Is witnessing a consummation of marriage considered a strange tradition? 

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  • Teskkur ederim benim arkadas! What do you say about negligence and backwardness? We live now, but our minds are still functioning according to the previous times. I mean some of us, some of our communities and societies. It's not polite to watch married people while making love. This is their private and secret place. No one has the right to do that. As for those who make this cheap videos, this is called pornography and it's something the society does not approve it. Thanks, Onur for your nice comment!

    Onur COŞKUN said:

    I think its a bad tradition.

    Virginity can be very important thing for you but watching somebodies while they are doing sex..

    Why ? I mean I understood white scarf and other things but why did she watch you guys?

    And your wife didn't answer your question "Why is she here?"

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  • I think its a bad tradition.

    Virginity can be very important thing for you but watching somebody's while they are doing sex..

    Why ? I mean I understood white scarf and other things but why did she watch you guys?

    And your wife didn't answer your question "Why is she here?"

  • Aha! That is what the whole matter is about. It's about being good. The man or woman should be a decent partner before and after marriage. The point is about goodness, my dear friend. I really appreciate your opinion. No one has the right to know about this sacred relationship between people in marriage. it's top secret and private. Thanks, Mr. Bond!

    James Bond said:

    Thank you for your frankness , it is really strange and as you said it is  a tradition, but the virginity of vagina is not everything,what if the bride did sexual intercourse before the marriage from behind , i am fully against this and nobody has the right to know about sexual intercourse between couples 

    strange traditions
    The second time I got married, my wife's aunt brought a tub and went inside with me and my wife to witness the consummation of our marriage. I turned…
  • Thank you for your frankness , it is really strange and as you said it is  a tradition, but the virginity of vagina is not everything,what if the bride did sexual intercourse before the marriage from behind , i am fully against this and nobody has the right to know about sexual intercourse between couples 

  • Hatha hoowa alkalam attamam. If the religion is innocent from it, then we should avoid such impudent acts. I like your comment. You made it very short and to the point Mr. Ahmed. I really like it. Thank you!

    ahmad said:

    that is not belong to religen just belong to traditional habit i do not agree with that habit 

    strange traditions
    The second time I got married, my wife's aunt brought a tub and went inside with me and my wife to witness the consummation of our marriage. I turned…
  • that is not belong to religen just belong to traditional habit i do not agree with that habit 

  • that is not for religen just traditional habbite i do not agree with that habit

  • Shookran bizzaf Bill! Maybe it's peculiar or weird to some societies. In other societies or communities, the habit or the tradition is still going on up to this moment. My experience was about twenty years ago. Thanks Bill for your useful comment! 

    Bill Vortz said:

    Mr.Dara, thank you for sharing your experience regarding this peculiar tradition that belong to the ancient time. I must say that it is not applicable in that case and especially in our modern era. 

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    The second time I got married, my wife's aunt brought a tub and went inside with me and my wife to witness the consummation of our marriage. I turned…
  • Vanakkam Bismil! Losing of virginity does not always mean the lady makes secret relationships or she is wanton or frivolous. we have to give them a chance. We have to be forgivable. Thanks, Bismil!

    bismil said:

    I realize that witness is not necessary. if she lose her virginity before marriage then you will not accept her, if witness-ism is in your culture then what would you do? without witness-ism you can give her a chance.

    strange traditions
    The second time I got married, my wife's aunt brought a tub and went inside with me and my wife to witness the consummation of our marriage. I turned…
  • Mr.Dara, thank you for sharing your experience regarding this peculiar tradition that belong to the ancient time. I must say that it is not applicable in that case and especially in our modern era. 

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