In appreciation of the vital information that your programme gives, I wish to be a participant on the programme hoping to increase my knowledge through you. The first problem I will want you to please advice me on, is how to increase my self confidence or better still; "how do I build self confidence in my self?"No doubt this lapse in my life makes me to feel inferior to my peers and I sincerely hate myself for this. The situation is so bad with me such that even in the classroom, I can neither ask questions from my teachers nor boldly answer questions for fear of humiliation. Presently, I am a student of computer science in the university; unless I receive help quickly, am afraid timidity may set into my system such that getting the right woman for marriage may be difficult for me in future: this I fear may lead to a ruined marital life even before one starts such a life.I will appreciate your quick response to my sincere request. Thanks and God bless.
I'm not a psycologist, but I think you should try to take more risks and ask your questions to your teacher, participate on things and show your opinions... Don't think you are less than your peers and even that they will laugh at you. You should try to be positive. Start slow and soon you will notice you are getting better. God bless you!!!
Oh! Indeed am very grateful for what yov've done for me. What a splendid remark. May Almighty Allah reward you as you've all done for me. I will make use of your words. Thanks!!
Instead of focusing on negative aspect of your quality, it's good to find your positive sides. For example, one may not be good at English but, one may be very kind, compassionate, caring or good at something else like being handy or running very fast, etc. If we all pay attention to ourselves, we can find at least some characteristics that be proud of. So, it's important to concentrate on the positive qualities. Second, games or sports are great to boost self-confidence. Third, When we are not good at something or make a mistake doesn't mean that we are not worthy at all. Our value doesn't relate to what we are doing.
This is a problem I have been working on for years. I can share some things that I have been learning and I really hope they can work for you too.
First, you are CERTAINLY NOT INFERIOR. Just try to accept that every single person in the world has great qualities and skills but weaknesses too. No one is perfect. We are all humans!
Also, do something for yourself. You just gave the most important step: ask for help. Well, I used to be extremely shy, and I can tell ballroom dance classes helped me a lot. People say that theater classes are very useful if you want to gain self confidence. Or maybe you should try some therapy sessions, I did some myself and they helped me bring out my deepest feelings.
Last but not least, ALWAYS believe that YOU CAN. We were all given different gifts, and if you hide yourself from the world, it's a gift you're denying. Take your time, be patient and you'll certainly find a way to overcome your weak point. Live as if you weren't shy. Use your imagination to help you. Imagine yourself raising your hand in the middle of a class and asking a question. Imagine yourself talking to a nice girl. And sometimes take risks to ACT as if you were not shy.
If you let me, I'll add you as a friend so that we can share our ideas.
I see your English is very good..just look on the other side of the situation. Always remember that we learn as we move on with our life. I think you have to learn something too in that situation where you are now. ^_^
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Hi Ogundele,
I'm not a psycologist, but I think you should try to take more risks and ask your questions to your teacher, participate on things and show your opinions... Don't think you are less than your peers and even that they will laugh at you. You should try to be positive. Start slow and soon you will notice you are getting better. God bless you!!!
Joyce.
Instead of focusing on negative aspect of your quality, it's good to find your positive sides. For example, one may not be good at English but, one may be very kind, compassionate, caring or good at something else like being handy or running very fast, etc. If we all pay attention to ourselves, we can find at least some characteristics that be proud of. So, it's important to concentrate on the positive qualities. Second, games or sports are great to boost self-confidence. Third, When we are not good at something or make a mistake doesn't mean that we are not worthy at all. Our value doesn't relate to what we are doing.
Dear Ogundele
This is a problem I have been working on for years. I can share some things that I have been learning and I really hope they can work for you too.
First, you are CERTAINLY NOT INFERIOR. Just try to accept that every single person in the world has great qualities and skills but weaknesses too. No one is perfect. We are all humans!
Also, do something for yourself. You just gave the most important step: ask for help. Well, I used to be extremely shy, and I can tell ballroom dance classes helped me a lot. People say that theater classes are very useful if you want to gain self confidence. Or maybe you should try some therapy sessions, I did some myself and they helped me bring out my deepest feelings.
Last but not least, ALWAYS believe that YOU CAN. We were all given different gifts, and if you hide yourself from the world, it's a gift you're denying. Take your time, be patient and you'll certainly find a way to overcome your weak point. Live as if you weren't shy. Use your imagination to help you. Imagine yourself raising your hand in the middle of a class and asking a question. Imagine yourself talking to a nice girl. And sometimes take risks to ACT as if you were not shy.
If you let me, I'll add you as a friend so that we can share our ideas.
All the best
I see your English is very good..just look on the other side of the situation. Always remember that we learn as we move on with our life. I think you have to learn something too in that situation where you are now. ^_^
Good luck!
-Lynne-