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One day, there was a housewife who had four sons. She could manage the household chores very well. The house always looked neat, clean, and well-arranged. Her husband and sons really appreaciated her.
Unfortunately, there was something bad. This mother really disliked a dirty carpet. She became upset everytime she saw footsteps on the carpet. This unpleasant situation would be happened all day. Though she knew this problem would be happened everyday.
Based on her family’s suggestion, she met a psychologist named Virginia Satir, and told about her problem. After she had listened to the problem, Virginia Satir smiled and said to her, “Close your eyes, please. Imagine what I am going to say.”
The housewife closed her eyes then.
“Imagine that there is a clean carpet in your tidy house which is opened without spot, dirt, or footsteps. What do you feel?”
While closing her eyes, the housewife smiled, her gloomy face turned into bright face. She looked satisfied.
Virgina satir said, “It means there is nobody at home. No husband, no sons, no joking and laughing. You only have a desolate house without your beloved family.”
Suddenly, her face looked so gloomy, her smile disappeared, and then she was sobbing. She was shocked. She became afraid about her husband and sons.
“Now, look at the carpet, you will see footsteps and dirt, it means your husband and sons are staying at home and warming your heart.” The housewife smiled again and felt comfortable.
“Now, open your eyes.” Then, the housewife opened her eyes.
“So, does the dirty carpet still become your problem?” The housewife smiled and shook her head. “I see what you mean,” said the housewife. “If we look something from the good side, the negative thing could be seen positively.”
Since then, the housewife never sighed about the dirty carpet, because everytime she saw footsteps there, she knew that her beloved family stayed at home.
It was true story. Virginia Satir was a famous psychologist who inspired Richard Binder and John Adler to make NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) with Reframing technique, that is how to “reform” our viewpoint so all the negative things could change positively, one way is changing the viewpoint.