Sometimes we come across weird, chaotic thoughts that start occupying our brain. Sometimes we are stressed because of little issues that eventually don't matter so much but we consider them at that one particular moment the most important in the world. We ask ourself the questions such as: "Am I good enough? Do I look fine? Will others like this or that I have worked on?" We tend to doubt, which is natural but I would say we waste time on thinking about how others percieve us...
In fact, we care too much about own appearance. We want to look good, we want to impress others. The question is FOR WHOM are we doing this all? For the strangers on the streets that we pass by and who don't care about us? For the people in school or at work, who hardly remember what we were wearing the previous day? After all at home with our own family we don't care that much about it because we are simply ourself. What made me laugh was one post I have read recently: "Home is the only place we can look ugly because nobody cares there about it... "
We are dying to be loved, to be popular to be a good person. We want to be admired because it simply makes us feel good but isn't it a bit egoistic and selfish? It actually looks like we forgot to value our own abilities. We should do things we like and enjoy instead of doing them on purpose with the vision of being liked and praised. Feedback is of course nice thing but firstly we should be happy about our own effort and performance. The less we care about how others percieve us, the less vulnerable and more confident we will be.
So what's the message I wanted to share by writing this blog? You know, I just wanted to say that it isn't about being arrogant, it is just about appreciating own abilities, which should make us feel comfortable and which should vanish all these questions about how others see us. What matters is.. how much we value ourself and how much we appreciate doing things that makes us happy just for our own inner nice feeling and satisfaction...
So just take things easy and live your life for yourself, not for others...
Comments
Thanks a lot Luci .After finishing reading your nice blog I felt much more confident than before.
How true! We ask too much how we appear to others or how we can impress them, and we compare us with those who seem to be prettier or cooler. They always seem to have what we think we don't have.
Nobody wants to be ignored by the people, but before we care for others opinion, we should like ourselves.
Good blog for self-assessment.
Very impressive blog, dear Luci. The more we live the more we get the experience in life not to care of other opinions. Of course, It doesn't mean we shouldn't care of our health and our body if we want to live a fulfilling life.
Thank you, dear, for sharing.
Hi Lucinka!
I think, it is one of the paradoxes of the modern world.
Even if everyone realize it. It still remains something amazingly difficult to change.
But to be honest, lately I am trying to change my perception of "what they will think"
I like to wear the socks with some kinds of sandals. Especially white socks with black sandals.
And I doubt before. To wear the socks or not to wear? But now I think, I will wear them.
Thank you for trying to encourage people to be more confident and to enjoy the life! :D
Have a beautiful new week ahead! ;-)
" we are dying to be loved " dear Luci u have stroke a chrod . I was thinking when I went to a banquet seeing other women in more fashionable clothing than me . What I have done to myself , I am running from others saying that I can't cope with them for a reason or another but as soon as I met them , I feel how bad I look . I just want to be like other women I want to care about my look and hair . However , I am 24 hour busy mom and I don't have time . It isn't because the need for attention or love , it's because the need for me , a thing I want to be before it's too late , before becoming an old age women
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