Woman must not to be a single. It will be embarrassing for a family when she gets the age of marriage (let say around 30) but stay single. She'll probably consider as a black-sheep of family. Parents will be pleased to let her daughter marry a bad guy rather than being single and pursue her carrier. Nowadays, in 2016 that thing is real happened in my hometown. That's really dumb I think.
There are lots of judgments for the woman. Trust me, that's really subjective judgmental opinions of people about being single in that age, such as: a "picky" woman, arrogant one, and she got 'karma'. The thing is, this superficial thinking are out from conservative ones whose mind are occupied by cultural thing. It's kind of sick with all these people and culture. I totally agree that Culture shapes people. No matter how sophisticated and high educated they are but culture runs to their blood. Do they think is it so pathetic as being a single.
Haven't they thought or seen from a different point of view?. In this beautiful universe, there are men and women, boy and girl, good and bad, life and death, not to mention MARRIED AND SINGLE. Just accept her as a normal one.It is not her choice to be a single. it is simple, IT'S JUST BECAUSE SHE IS CREATED NOT TO BE MARRIED
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It would be so nice a world where people don't judge other people's life and choices... sigh.
I would tell you the same as Lynne. I totally agree with her comment.
That's really sad. I think this is happening everywhere but, if it's part of ones culture it's really difficult to ignore so all what you can to do is to be firm in your beliefs and what you think is really right for you. Set your mind always to something positive. I understand that it is difficult to be positive in a negative environment so set a limit to your association with the negative thinkers because they are only sending negative energy your way. This is also why sometimes our body feels exhausted after some group meetings or gatherings, it is because probably their negative energy has reach us already. LOL...
Good luck!
Saya tidak suka begitu, Shanty Duwila. Perempuan haruz menjadi bagus. Apakah dya 18 atau 30 tahun. keluarganya melihat baik suami untuk nya. That was a bad habit to inherit from previous generations.
BUT, I do not agree about man or woman is created not to be married. It is written that every thing has a duo. So, it's just about THE TIME.
Thank you for sharing.
Why isn't it her choice? her life, her decision. She can do whatever with it, she can live the way she wants.
Many beautiful and smart women are not married yet at the age of being shameful in the family. Why?? It is a choice. It's not as easy as buying a new car.... Do they know that many wrong decision made the family broke? Divorce and cheating are the serious problem then...
Very well described! So explicit! I like it! :)
So true, Shanty!
An unmarried woman is considered as a burden by her family in my community too. Parents want their female children out of their houses by the age of 26 or 27, no matter what.
It is completely a woman's choice whether she wants to get married or not. And no one should look down on a woman just because she is unmarried.
Thanks for your thoughtful post.
Why I feel the COLD of DISAPPOINTMENT from the blog.
It is okay that way too. This is life. It happens all the time.
But make yourself creative and not to be a waste.
This situation is horribly prevailing in my country, too.