Every relationship... rest on three legs: accepting,supporting and challenging.That's really it, isn't it? You want your relationships to be grounded on accepting each other as you are. On supporting each other through the inevitable ups and downs. On challenging each other to become more, to grow, to flourish. Which one of these is the more difficult one for you, and how are you going to practice it in the next 24 hours?
About HOW to practice ACCEPTING ...well,it stems from mind whether we accept sb as they are or not ...Our mind is our engine ...Any way it goes ,it take us that way ....If we think to an ideal person and try to match people with such an scale ,we may find it difficult to accept people as they are ...If we COMPARE our partner with other people ,this is the worst thing ...Firstly ,we should try not to draw idols in our mind ...I mean let our partner be as they are ...Not to push them ...We shouldn't try to change them by force ...Everything has its own logic...has its own way ...For example ,if our partner is not studious enough ,we shouldn't compare them to others ...we shouldn't say "hey ,look at him ...he is ....he is better ...he is more ...." .It doesn't help at all ...We should focus on the virtue per se ...not to compare sb with the one's who have such good points ...Am I right ?
Such a nice challenge ...Well ,to me ,to accept people as they are is the most challenging one of those three legs you mentioned above...Acceptance is prior to support ....If you accept ,you can support more easily ...isn't it like that? I think love causes acceptance ...If you love sb ,you accept them as they are ...But love may be sorta exaggerating too... Lovers mostly ignore the defects in their beloveds ...or better to say ,they are blind in those aspects ...They don't see defects !
I guess ,I am about to get out of the track ! Let's not lose the track of our discussion here ...
Anyway,there is a note here ...When you accept sb as they are ,it doesn't mean that you don't try to help them grow ...Suppose yourself ...and suppose you have the shortcoming of being shy ...well ,to me ,firstly ,you should accept that you have such a defect ...the following step would be trying to remove your shyness ...but with love ...Well ,it is a little bit confusing ,isn't it?
All three together help a relationship stand more straightly ! You've chosen major facts ...
Such a nice blog ...and challenge ...
Thanks for sharing with us ...
Keep smiling
:)
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I guess ,I am about to get out of the track ! Let's not lose the track of our discussion here ...
Anyway,there is a note here ...When you accept sb as they are ,it doesn't mean that you don't try to help them grow ...Suppose yourself ...and suppose you have the shortcoming of being shy ...well ,to me ,firstly ,you should accept that you have such a defect ...the following step would be trying to remove your shyness ...but with love ...Well ,it is a little bit confusing ,isn't it?
All three together help a relationship stand more straightly ! You've chosen major facts ...
Such a nice blog ...and challenge ...
Thanks for sharing with us ...
Keep smiling
:)