Emotional Separation

 What are the causes of emotional separation between the spouses? The Reasons remain locked inside the rooms, and they harm the spouses. because of their privacy and the embarrassment behind revealing them. Apart from that, they may cause serious psychological damage or pain.   

If they divorce, that is not good for their children later. Could it be the failure on the wedding night? Or is it the lack of harmonization between them. The intimate relationship starts with big love and suddenly after the coming of the children, the emotional attraction is not there anymore. Some wives tell their husbands to stop flirting with them or say any love words. Putting in their minds that they are no longer young for love or even making love.

Some spouses treat one another as if they were colleagues at work or some establishment. It is true that they respect each other but there no love at all between them. Unfortunately, husbands seek other means to satisfy their desires. They try at work, from the internet and the different social media. Eventually, separation is inevitable.

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    • Main tum ku sahamat hoon, Louts! Reciprocal and mutual understanding is very important. Also, taking your man or your woman as they are, is one of the most priorities for the good start of the marriage. We are not perfect, therefore, we should accept our husbands and wives. Once we start to show these defects, our relationship will shake and it might collapse. Thanks, Lotus for your nice comment. 

  • Oi there, folks

        No matter how profund and time consuming is our debate on the paradigmas of human nature, its behaviorism and how psychologically embroiled it is, we shall never even come within a parsec of the kernel, for, as we know, there are 50 shades of gray.  

       All we can achieve is the continuous repition of already discovered and analysed facts....the most we can do is to give it our personal twist, which in general terms, is as effective as a cataplasm for a moribund. 

      Toying around with iterpersonal relations between spouses is not a wise move as there are as many possible variations of the result-reason constituents  as the boutiful variety of customs and rites which have a significant role in creating the countless nuances in our human behaviour. 

      Knowing just a handful of different opinions in this issue does not near us to the desired knowledge of the problem....whether be it psychological or purely psychic. :-)    

    • Jeinki Rysperski! Starting from the last paragraph of your analytical comment, I can say, psychology interferes greatly in this matter. You know Rys, my wife can say, "I’m fed up with your company" and I can say the same thing. Just for the sake of getting bored with the same man or the same woman every day. Here, the matter is purely a psychological one. 

      I am with you Rysperski, the different customs and rites of a nation can play a major role regarding that matter.  Digging deep to know the human nature is not that easy, I also go with that, but sometimes other elements can be visualized to know part of the nature of humans. Treason, greed, the lust to have as many different-sex relationships.

      I know that some spouses get a divorce because of money. Each one of them either the male or the female is looking for a rich partner who can help him or her to overcome financial issues. In that case, the previous love between the spouses evaporates and disperses in thin air and problems arise. That can also be categorized as psychological. Thanks, Rysperski for that hot and powerful comment. 

  • Most of the people get married because of love. Love in marriage is an esential one. Because of it many good things are possible. Love is something alive. It can grow or it can't be whithered.like a tree. Unfortunately After getting married for  a few years, love is getting whithered and this is the reason for divorce. I have some opinions how to maintance love in marriage: easy to forgive our spouse, good communication, create a healthy environment in family, cooperate and support each other, having quality time, share everything with your spouse. Male and female are different ... different ... and diferent, So sacriface is needed. 

    • Exactly Tina! Love is important between the spouses. At first, it is not there. Then we can use the previous points which you kindly stated there in your nice comment. I mean I can be married to a woman whom I have never met before. She is a stranger to me, but once that holy bound is done,

      we can start to respect each other. Good communication, creation of a good environment between us that will definitely lead to the birth of love and its growing between us in the long run. Some start their marriage with a previous deep love story. The candle of that love begins to give a dim light. Thanks, Tina for your nice comment. 

  • Lol My funny friend DaRa , Everything that you told us is a story... Look Guy !...There is only one CAUSE between the spouses on seperation !!!  IT Is MONEY  dara Money, If your wallet full with Euros , dollars, sterlings or else convertible bank-notes, all problems can solve easly and  the both sides do not see of their weak sides ...

    • Adriano, sono dacordo con te. Dear Adriano, I agree with you to some extent. Money, they say is the nerves of life. We cannot do with it, that is true and no one denies that. To the wisdom of our Creator, certain things money cannot be the remedy or the maintainer for them. I wrote a blog about a year ago, if you care to look at it, it was about money or power.   

      The members of the club gave me different points of view. As I said before, to some limit, I can go with you in your assumption especially in this material age. Pay me, I become your slave, your spy, your servant, name it, the list will prolong. Your comment needs a lot of lines. Thanks for that. 

    • Hello Signor Dara , You have no problem cos your wallet is full !!.. What about of this Adriano ???....( Correctin : sono D'ACCORDO con te ) ...

    • I disagree with you Adri. There so any rich couple. But they also get divorce.

       

    • Hello, Tina, your disagreement is accepted. It is true. Divorce occurs among the rich too. 

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