Chatting in my point view is a very useful way to develop your skills in how to connect your words and sentences in order to express your point view in a topic or any discussion. I am not new to the chatting world, I can tell any one who has weak typing skills, that the best fun way to improve your self is by chatting. Like any thing else, If chatting is used too much or in a wrong way, this will lead to the danger zone.
Who ever go or being pushed to that zone, will for sure suffer. I will classify the Danger zone into two, A & B.

Danger Zone:

A- Being Hurt:

1- From stranger:

 

When ever a debate or discussion takes place in the main chat, there must be some different views, If the people who are chatting to each others are matured and having a little sense of manners, then it will turn into a safe chat.But If every or some parts are fighting each others, by using angry words, or swearing , this will lead to hurt, even for others whom are not into that topic, this will affect their mood and will most probably will ruin their entire day!

Mostly when chatting about religions, a fight would take place. I am a member who has a religion, If I want others whom are non believers in god to respect me, or to respect what I believe, I must treat them in politeness and in good manners. I should not force them to believe what I believe it is their freedom of choice. My duty is to show and inform about my religion when asked or needed, but if they don't want that then I should never annoy them. I in the other hand will be hurt if someone talks bad about my religion, I expect respect from the other side, so any one can get hurt from the chat room since it's a place where people come from different backgrounds, different cultures, different beliefs and even from different level of manners. The main chat room's members range from very low to very high quality members, so your chances of having a good chat depends on the other side. This chat abuse might hurt you for few minutes or one whole day, not for ever. How to prevent it, well, By not being part of it, or by leaving it when fire seen by miles.


By time, when you become a regular member in the main chat, you will know the members who always start fighting, so avoiding them is better thing to do. At the end, time is money, and your goal is to learn or to have fun, so leaving is better than seeking.



2-From a Friend:

When you give all your love and care to someone you think and believe that he or she is your best friend, then you get hurt because of his or her words and bazaar attitude , now that is something really  going to make you fall in pain. This is the worst thing happened to me here in MyEC which made me decided to leave the main chat once in for all. It happened to me, couple of times here, and I can tell you for sure, you're going to be really shocked and confused from what you might experience from this situation.


Put your self in my shoes, someone you treated as a brother or sister, you stuck with him or her, you gave him or her the best words you’ve got and you made his or her day most of the time but when ever you advice that person, because you see that a wrong path has been taken by him or her, or strange attitude comes from him or her, he or she mistreats you, and lack in respect with you which leaves you in a fog of understanding the meaning of trust. It really hurts, and my brain tells me now to be a friend but by distance.

This feeling of pain may last for long time, and the effect would be higher if that person is very close to your heart. You need a loyal trusted friend who can give you a hand to stand again on the hard floor, also you need Dr. Time as well to close your wounds and you need your inner self to be strong and resistible to bad thoughts.

How to prevent this? well, It is hard to prevent it, its like a virus, you can't see it, and it may cause you a severe damage. The only way to recover, is to move on. And as my dearest friend " Nafis" told me to have the philosophy of " Any way" , It is to do good any way, even if your best friend mistreated you, do good anyway. Don't care about losing a friend, but care of being the good side. Nafis wrote this in a blog, which helped me in my life, I am really thankful to her, she is one of the wisest persons here in MyEC and her friendship worth more than a mine of gold in Chile!!!



B-Being Addicted:

It is really a disease, when you are all day and all night chatting. It is fun in the beginning, but then it will be the same every time. You might develop your English Language by doing this but this development by time won't go any further cause you are doing the same thing over and over, which will make you in the same level. This beautiful website does not only have a Chat room! There are many areas where you can develop your English language with. It will be really fun if you try every part of MyEC, such as: Blogging, groups and living in and between the forum corners.

There are two types of chatters in MyEC chat room, those who are trying to develop their English, and those who are only having fun. It is OK to have fun, I don't have any thing against it, but what I am trying to say, is to look away from this screen! Have a break for awhile, visit your real friends, check on your family, enjoy life out there, go for a walk, go shopping what ever, life is not only chatting with people you barely know! Just wake up for a moment for god sake!!

I can tell that the Addicted chatters are feeling sad because of this habit, yet they can't admit it. Why they always feel bored?  Sometimes they type this word!

I told that advice to some of my friends who are almost 24 hours in the main chat, and they felt offended, I told them, that a person can't see the holes in his cloths, but a friend can be his mirror. No one is right for ever, no one is wrong all the time, so why not listening to the advice that might make you feel sorry for all this time wasted.

Honestly, I was Addicted person before, I missed family meetings, I missed going out with friends, I had back problem cause of setting for long and I wasted my time on people I don't know and I am definitely sure that they don't remember me now. I am not saying quit chatting, but be wise with your time and health. Yes, there are many members we believe that they are like a family to us and we trust and love them, but come on! "Get a life!" be balanced and I believe that they will respect that.


At the end, I wish my words are not misunderstood, this is my point view of chatting, you may accept it, you may not, at least take it as an advice!



Regards with love
Night

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  • Dear Syubi, thank you for your sweet comment. My blog is a bit long one, but don't let your eyes trick you, reading this blog is easier than drinking water!

     

    I am really thankful to you coz you shared your experience with us here, Yes, there are hard times in our life, but lets try not to make it from a website page thing, at least lets try to be sad from something worth it. I am saying that even to my self, we are mankind still learning, life is a big school, and graduation from it seems impossible lol

     

    Any way, about addiction, you better be careful, You have to balance as Nafis said. :)

    Again, I'm very thankful to you! I think your experience is very useful to me as well :)

  • Dear Nafis, I think nicely of you because you are a nice person, and It is an honor to be your friend. I agree with you, balancing is the best thing to do, to at least have a normal life. I appreciate your nice comment, and I am really thankful for  your support to me. :)
  • I am so grateful you. Your blog was really such s gift for me. It was like a breath of fresh air and it's as light coming in through the darkness.I really don't know why, but i find it very difficult to make friends with some people, even if we have common interests. Even if i don't know the reason why, i feel some communications blocks with some people , while there are others with whom i feel i can be completely myself with and can express myself in any way that i feel.
  • I found your article is very useful . Now I have an idea about  the advantiges and the disadvantiges of chatting , I 'll not rush into it and I'll take care not to be addicted to chatting ,nor isolated the real family.Thanks for sharing your experience .
  • Ouch!! *.*

    Before I opened this blog I thought I have read a very lengthy blog somewhere, but looks like I was wrong. So would you give me time to read it? Hope I can survive and I can read it to the end :s  

    BRB *crossing fingers and start reading*

     

    Back!!

    So... I survived! I read the whole blog from the beginning till the end :D :D

    You are right. Well, what can I say. You are like a mirror to me. Everything you have written has happened to me too so I guess you will not need a further explanation. Oh well, let me just try then to say something about it.

     

    1. Getting hurt from stranger 

    Debate... I always run away in a debate or in any argument :P First because I do not know much about the topic they are arguing and I am afraid of saying something stupid. I cannot think fast and I cannot gather all the memories, the knowledge I have to answer those arguments. As you said an argument always runs fast and I cannot follow them. Secondly, even if I want to answer the argument, my limited English hold me not to do that. It takes time, twice or even thrice longer than anyone else just to answer and when I am ready with my answer they have changed the topic :S Limited English and the argument runs fast, that is not a good combination is not it? The third is... I do not want to break my keyboard just for a fight over the internet and ruin my mood. It is better to leave the troll and never feed them. As you said, there are some regular fighters and it is better to avoid them. So I used to ignore them.

     

    2. Getting hurt from a friend

    I put all my heart for friends and I do care for them, but you did even more than I! You considered them as brother and sister. So yes, agreed with you that it hurt a lot than getting hurt from a stranger. You cannot heal right away from it. I had a fight with friend here then I decided to leave EC. Though later I came back and signed up for another account. And voila, here I am. Still chatting. Then another thing happened so I decided to leave the chat room. It was hard at first to resist the temptation, but I made it. I make myself busy reading blogs, discussion or anything else but not visiting the chat room. I still come to chat room but not all day and all week :) I still have another chat room to visit, lol

    I have learned my lesson now as you wrote, to be a friend but by distance. I can trust peoples easily but in different scale and I do not let people whom I do not know for sure whether they will be a good friend of mine or whether they really accept you or consider you as their friend to enter to my life. Maybe it is better to let real stranger to come then having a "friend" in your friend list. :D At least you are not expecting something from them. Well, someone said expectation = disappointment and they are only human. Human do make mistake. Anyway, I am now happy to say that I am no longer hurt by what my friend did to me and I am no longer dependent to them :) Thanks to Dr Time for that :D Well, loyal and trusted friends are hard to find even in real life :)

     

    3. Addicted

    Ha! I know I am addicted to it :P I admit. Well I have written about it on Sumit's discussion and I won't type it again here. When I am not chatting and not having internet connection, I wish to be here. It's one of Nasreen's collection.

     

    Hehe... It is a lot longer answer than I thought it was going to be :D :D Now we are even lol.

     

  • Dear Night, ahhhh! so nice of you for those kind words. I indeed appreciate your kindness. I don't deserve the word, wisest,...no no no no...this is who you are and as a result, you think nicely about me. 

     

    And about the chat, balanced is a best thing in life as you pointed out here. It's good to have a balance life and intrinsically, chat is not bad or good. How we use it makes it bad or good. Every one is free to choose how he/she wants to think about his/her life but no one has the right to push their own ideas to others or insult others only because they think differently. No one is superior!!! And, what makes me so sad is that in such a situation instead of bringing peace to the fiery discussion, members make every thing worse by responding to the troll.

    Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! All the best, 

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