"What do you mean, Doc? I AM A MAN and A HEAD OF FAMILY. It's not suitable for me to cry. It's not suitable for me to shed tears. What would my children say if they knew I am crying? What would my wife say if she knew I am crying?" the man argued.

The psychologist didn't answer, but smiled instead. The man was waiting for her to speak more, but after some minutes, she kept silent. In that room, he then realized that she kept waiting for him to cry.

-two weeks before-

In a recovery team of post-disaster of an earthquake was a psychologist. What she would do there was obvious, there were so many distressed and/or depressed people because of losing family or properties, especially homes.

A man who always came for a counseling, repined that he couldn't sleep at all after the earthquake, neither on the day nor at night. And, he did that for almost two weeks after the earthquake. You can imagine how miserable he was that he couldn't sleep for two weeks.

Every time he came, he was always accompanied by his children and his beloved wife. On the third day of counselling, the psychologist asked the children and wife to go outside and wait in the lobby. Then, she said to the man, "Now please cry, mister. So your heart and mind would feel relieved," said the psychologist.


Some more minutes passed, but only silence were there. They were waiting each other. The psychologist was waiting for the man to cry, while the man was thinking whether it was suitable to cry.

No more than an hour, the man suddenly started sobbing. It was restrained and sounded softly in the beginning, but due to the quietness of the psychologist, his weeping was getting louder. His tears were so much falling through his chin. His weeping then made a roaring noise and was loud, a sign that he was releasing his deepest sadness. Whatsoever.

After crying for a bit long, the psychologist still didn't say a word. She only put forth a box of tissue to the man so that he could wipe his tears. After the weeping was really abated, the man was ordered to go home.

Three days later, the man came back, accompanied by his wife and children. His face had been different to three days before. His face looked so radiant and he directly greeted the psychologist, "I'm so thankful to you, Doc. Now I can sleep soundly just like before the earthquake happened".

A true story, after an earthquake in Yogyakarta, Indonesia 2006. Translated and fully modified by Onee. :)


This blog was inspired by Rosemary who posted a discussion 'When Men Cry". From the BOOK I've read, it is said that crying can release the excess hormone causes stress contained in tears. If someone gets stressed OR has a heavy burden in life AND couldn't restrain the pain inside, it is BETTER to CRY.

Now, what would you say? You may conclude yourself and decide... :)

Thank you so much for reading and being so thoughtful. Happy Friday! ^_^

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Comment by Onee-chan on October 30, 2017 at 1:55

Dear Teacher Tanya, kaya, latifa,,

Thank you so much for reading and liking the story. ^^

Comment by Onee-chan on October 30, 2017 at 1:54

Hi Jenny Nguyen,

Sorry for my belated reply. I thought I already replied your comment. ^^

Yeah, crying is sometimes a panacea. I think the man now understand that crying is not only for women.

Thanks a lot for your comment. :)

Comment by Jenny Nguyen on June 1, 2017 at 4:42

It’s meaning blog. I can easily cry when I feel sad or uncomfortable and I feel better after crying. I think the man in your story must be scared after earthquake happened. I feel poor him during his emotional restraint. Crying will be better for us to relieve uncomfortable things in our life.

Thanks for your sharing!  

Comment by Onee-chan on May 30, 2017 at 6:10

Thank you for the thumbsup dear Evangelina EvangelinaAmani~(Opti)~ Amani~(Opti)~Adaline Bala Adaline BalaMarshaa MarshaaRosemary and Rosemary.

Glad you like it. ^_^

Comment by Onee-chan on May 30, 2017 at 5:56

Dear sweetheart Ada,

Sure, I agree with you. After tears, comes rainbow.... We'll be okay. 

Ability to cry is something that we must be grateful.

I'm glad that you like it. Thanks. ^_^

Comment by Adaline Bala on May 27, 2017 at 21:39

Dear Onee, Lovely blog! I enjoyed reading.

Its good to cry our heart out is int

after every tear, comes the rainbow, we will be ok.

Thanks for sharing

Well Done sweetheart!

Comment by Onee-chan on May 27, 2017 at 14:47

Hi Diah,

We are on the same boat. :) I can easily cry by watching sad or touching movies. :D However, it's not that easy for me to cry for my life. Sometimes, it's hard for me to cry, sometimes not. ^^ But, believe me, I'll be much happier and lighter and feel brighter after crying. :)

You're right it doesn't solve problems, but we might have wonderful ideas after crying. Agree? :) Crying is human nature. :)

Thank you so much for your comment. ^^

Comment by Onee-chan on May 27, 2017 at 14:46

Hi Erza,

Yeah, some people do, they pretend to be strong while their heart are actually so weak, maybe I talk about my self... :) And true, laughs and giggles can also release stress for sure.

I conclude that if someone gets the problem of insomnia like this, I think the best way is trying to cry and pray. We were born crying, anyway. 

Thank you so much for your comment. :)

Comment by Onee-chan on May 27, 2017 at 14:45

Dear Mishaikh,

Thanks to Allah, you have a soft heart and easily cry.

It's not easy for me to cry these days... :( Maybe I need to watch touching or sad movie. :)

Thank you for your comment. :)

Comment by Onee-chan on May 27, 2017 at 14:44

Dear Rosemary,

^_^ Thanks a lot for your appreciation. I'm glad you like it.

Well, choosing university is important thing in life, I can imagine the pain. My brother has ever cried too, but he hid in the bathroom. :D After getting out of there, he looked stronger. Well, people can cry everywhere as long as they can release their burden inside. I hope they don't cry in public places. :D However, football players will do. :)

Thank you once again for your comment and I'm glad if you found it useful to share. ^_^

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