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Should we get emotionally attached to our online friends??

I usually do, but I started to doubt the wisdom of my behavior. The reason is that some of my friends here left and deleted their pages few of them i lost contact with them totally and they didn't even tell me why they left. It hurts so much when you  miss them and wonder if  you did something wrong? Sometimes they keep in touch via other social websites or e-mails. Still l wonder if it is safer to just think of online friends as temporary acquaintances, Is it even possible to control our feelings this way?

What do you think??

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Well dear Rabab, I don't know why I thought about Notears when I read your words lol maybe because she's one of those who left without a word and many many others I do really miss them!

Anyway! about controling our feelings, I'm not sure we can, for me it's something that came out of my hands and I guess you know what I mean :)

Nice blog, keep it up!

Yeah I know exactly what you mean. So it happens this way: we meet people get attached they leave we get hurt. It is not a mistake we can learn to avoid we have to just live with it like many other disturbances of this life.  Still, it hurts every new time and makes you remember the previous losses.. What a drag! 

Thanks for your comment dear it kind of consoled me.. And yes I do miss notears terribly. 

I don't want to get hurt over and over again , so I will try to keep your advice in mind every time I meet new friends. It's just old habits are hard to die, I will do my best though.

Thanks a lot :)

Exactly Deepa, the problem is that we meet people with different perceptions of online friendship. So when we take it seriously and they don't we get hurt :S 

Thanks for the perceptive comment :)

thnx for the topic , u right and i am according u.

Assalmualikum Rabab

Happy to see you after long time 

Nice topic you have chosen.

Nowadays everybody busy with their daily schedule , They want to come online and spare few movement with their online friends but they do not get chance like Thoug ,mitran

When we begin friendship hear slowly slowly our heart  attached with many good friend but they do not know and suddenly they left and we do not know reason.

Therefore here friendship time being or Target oriented as soon as people achieved there target they left or they do not have time to come here and share there experience.

Like me Whenever I attached with good friend I have taken there contact no or skype ID or Email ID 

Now I have many good Friends but not have time.  

you are Right Deepa  but Many time we get real Friend 

Why not? I feel equally attached to my online friends here as I feel in my real life. I didn't believe in online friendship BEFORE I joined MyEC. However, after joining MyEC, I do believe. Fortunately enough, I've come across very genuine friends here. Not a single one of my close friends here disappointed me. Even though, Notears deleted her account, but I still think that I was lucky that once in my life I got a friend like her. And I believe that she left EC because of some genuine reasons. Sometimes, it makes me feel sad the we would never ever be in touch again, but at other times I cherish the moments we spent together. Few others, who didn't delete their accounts, are now less in touch with me. However, I don't consider it different from what we come across in our real lives. Sometimes, our real life friends leave the city or even country and do not remain in touch. Sometimes, our friends live in same city but still don't remain in touch.

However, I strongly disapprove of any kind of the online relationship that is beyond friendship. As long as it's just friendship, I believe in it.

Thanks for the nice topic, Dear Rabab. :)

Well, I am not sure, but what I think, any kind of emotional attachment that is not related to physical or financial interest is not harmful. Sometimes, me too have considered some people as very good friend of mine and thought it would be safe to shear my thought to them, in the beginning it works well but after sudden period few of them turn back and stop contact for might be any reason I do not know, these also hart me but can't break me at all because I know there is a very thick difference between online and real life friends. So, I think we should be mature and make a distance of thought for online friends that should not be same to the real life friends.

Dear Rabab, I admit that losing friends that we are attached with, is so painful as we are a human being and full of senses and emotions. We love each other as we are in a real world not in virtual one.But in my opinion, if we are as close as real friends, we shouldn't leave our true friendships with each other unless we have a serious reason after leaving a message to these friends that we are attached with. They could keep in touch in other communication worlds because being friends is not limited in EC only. And according to our friend Sweet Sandra, who said in her blog that all members who left EC, would return back as it's our second home.

 

IT is natural  Rebab  to get  attached  to  people  get to know  them...weather  be it online   or  in real life  we are  interacting  with them , thus getting  to know  them  better  than  just a virtual  contact.  I too felt the same  as you when I am not in contact  with  my  close  inner circle  of  friends . now  I just  let it go they are not forgotten  but they have  moved  on  due t o work  so  forth .....

Thanks Hamza for your comment.. I am glad to see you here :)

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