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Giving a birth is without doubt one of the hardest and the most beautiful moments of our life.. The thing is that a baby has two parents not just mom - who goes through pregnancy and had to suffer while giving a birth... there is also DAD responsible for "creating" new life...

Do you think dad should be in delivery room to support his wife, partner meanwhile she is going through the hell?

I personally find it very important and apart from these who are scared of blood or seeing their wife in pain.. I would recommand this experience to every man and I am thankful to our hospitals which allow it and let both parents enjoy this very emotional and nice moment together...

P.S. Let me add that it is decent thing not like some of you would imagine dad at the place of doctor...dad place is ofc somewhere else :D

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Most of the fathers I know who have attended to his son/daughter's birth state to be a memorable day and gratifying experience. In my case, well don't know how exactly describing the moment... maybe unusual, odd, peculiar... at least till the moment the nurse commanded me to sit down when saw my pale face.
It's not so delightful watching your wife's face similar to an exorcism and telling you to shut up even with some inappropriate words. So, for me the best part started after it :)

    Hi , a very interesting  discussion  I think it's difficult  for men to be  there actually  , I don't  accept  it maybe  because  of my traditional  norms . Women here claims  that if he the husband  see u in pain it's  bad . I don't know  for real and about the moment of giving  birth they also claim here that a women  shouldn't  tell anyone even here mom

People her say that she will have a difficult  labour :( she ought to be patient  and wait 

For the baby coming    Thank for sharing  dear  Luci 

      More  over , it is not allowed  for any of the mom relatives to enter the delivery  ward in hospitals in my country  even  females.  Everyone  should sit outside  and wait

Her husband  can see her only after giving  birth

Esta,

thank you for your comment like I said it is individual but I think it is nice and especially supportive for womamn when her man is there with her :p m happy you survived it and didn't faint! Watta big boy you are!

Estanis said:
Most of the fathers I know who have attended to his son/daughter's birth state to be a memorable day and gratifying experience. In my case, well don't know how exactly describing the moment... maybe unusual, odd, peculiar... at least till the moment the nurse commanded me to sit down when saw my pale face.
It's not so delightful watching your wife's face similar to an exorcism and telling you to shut up even with some inappropriate words. So, for me the best part started after it :)
Rosemary,

thank you for your opinion, dear..I know it might be not allowed in some cultures etc. Anyway the point is that they both made a baby ...so why only SHE should be lonely suffering in pain? Husband can be very supportive and ehmm even though I thought I would kill hil there as I am kinda not in good mood while going through pain...eventually it helped me that he hold my hand or just I didn't feel so lonely and his face when he saw our both kids was unforgottable.. btw I find weird that man shouldn't see woman in pain as this pain is caused because of giving birth to HIS BABY ;)
Thanks again for stopping by.

Rosemary said:

    Hi , a very interesting  discussion  I think it's difficult  for men to be  there actually  , I don't  accept  it maybe  because  of my traditional  norms . Women here claims  that if he the husband  see u in pain it's  bad . I don't know  for real and about the moment of giving  birth they also claim here that a women  shouldn't  tell anyone even here mom

People her say that she will have a difficult  labour :( she ought to be patient  and wait 

For the baby coming    Thank for sharing  dear  Luci 

Hello Luci,

A very interesting topic here!

I accept that cultural differences may exclude fathers from being at his child's birth. Giving birth is a very intimate event and is messy with lots of blood and raw emotion expressed by the mother. I sense that in some cultures, men have difficulty dealing with this.

On the other hand, I don't understand why a husband should not be with his wife when she is giving birth to a baby that both of them have created.

Surely, if they both want to be together at this time so a husband can support a wife during the birth, who's to say this is unacceptable and wrong. After all, marriage is a union which should share all aspects of living...

Why should hospitals not allow a husband to be with his wife when she is giving birth? Do these bureaucrats that run hospitals think they are Gods? They are simply servants of the women who come to give birth.

If a wife wants her husband to hold her hand as she gives birth to their child, that's it - end of story - who has the right to say no? 

Here in Germany is it common for men to support their women during the process of birth and to be with her in the preparing room and also in the delivery room. He may stay with her from the moment when she comes to the hospital until after the birth.
It's always the common decison of the couple, nobody else will prevent them to do it.
Even other relatives may be present. I still remember the birth of my first grandchild.
My daughter-in law asked me if I would like to be with her and my son in delivery room, too. It was huge trust evidence. I was very grateful but I told her it should be the best and most emotional moment ...  only for her and my son.

I find, it's good for men to see what it means for a woman to give life to a child.
Both are the parents. Even if men are often very pale around their noses... it isn't to compare what women endure. But every pain is forgotten when they hold their baby in their arms.

Hi Jeffrey (Kiwi) :-)

thanx for adding your comment here and I can't agree more with you because the thing is that BOTH created their baby, so both should be there.. I remember in the past my mom was alone giving birth and she told me, she felt just frightened, scared and lonely - and I think such emotions won't help woman to get over this all. I also think it is good for man to experience it and see, what it is about :D 

Kiwi Kev said:

Hello Luci,

A very interesting topic here!

I accept that cultural differences may exclude fathers from being at his child's birth. Giving birth is a very intimate event and is messy with lots of blood and raw emotion expressed by the mother. I sense that in some cultures, men have difficulty dealing with this.

On the other hand, I don't understand why a husband should not be with his wife when she is giving birth to a baby that both of them have created.

Surely, if they both want to be together at this time so a husband can support a wife during the birth, who's to say this is unacceptable and wrong. After all, marriage is a union which should share all aspects of living...

Why should hospitals not allow a husband to be with his wife when she is giving birth? Do these bureaucrats that run hospitals think they are Gods? They are simply servants of the women who come to give birth.

If a wife wants her husband to hold her hand as she gives birth to their child, that's it - end of story - who has the right to say no? 

Rose,

thank you for your comment and yeah here it is the same, man is at the hospital all the time with woman.. I am surprised your daughter in law wanted you to be there too!! Maybe she wanted somebody experienced but to be honest, I would react the same like you did - it is just their personal issue ...Thanx again for participating in my discussion ;-)

Rose said:

Here in Germany is it common for men to support their women during the process of birth and to be with her in the preparing room and also in the delivery room. He may stay with her from the moment when she comes to the hospital until after the birth.
It's always the common decison of the couple, nobody else will prevent them to do it.
Even other relatives may be present. I still remember the birth of my first grandchild.
My daughter-in law asked me if I would like to be with her and my son in delivery room, too. It was huge trust evidence. I was very grateful but I told her it should be the best and most emotional moment ...  only for her and my son.

I find, it's good for men to see what it means for a woman to give life to a child.
Both are the parents. Even if men are often very pale around their noses... it isn't to compare what women endure. But every pain is forgotten when they hold their baby in their arms.

Dear Luci,.
My dad was never there when my mom giving birth. He has been working in another city. In the past it took 10-12hours to get home from there (now it's about 6hours by car). No plane, even train is very rare. So, he never made it. When he got call that said my mom was in hospital, he immediately left the work but always late. Mom said it doesn't matter, though dad always took over all housework while she was not be able to do it because of the pain. I know delivering baby is hurtful but I wish I am as strong as my mother. She never acts as a drama queen, lol xD and my dad, I remember said this few times here, I have the most annoying father in the world. No day ever passing without quarrels if we are together. All my siblings do agree with me, but we also agree in another thing, that we love our parents for they are. So, I have ever asked this to my dad, if he regrets for not attending mom's fight and our arrival? He said "why would I? I will regret it if I cannot feed you well" this is his way to criticize people who abandon their children. Sometimes I think Attending the birth is same with attending the funeral, lol, just kidding!. I think that's all. In my opinion it's rather depend on the abnormality of the couple. This world is not always filled by sweet things, how we pay attention to the important things is what really matters. Thank you^^

Hi luci,
Dads can also enter delivery room here but my husband couldn't achieve it since he was about to faint in front of the room because i couldn't wake up easily after anesthesia.As you see,although the men seem strong ,we are the ones who let them feel so :).

I always in favor of the presence of daddy in the DR. I have concluded two pros: 1st, the father can witness everything in order to gain the experience. 2nd, it gives emotional support when his wife is in one of the good painful moments. =)

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