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I like the kind of men extremely jealous.
Those men have the quite strange attract to fair sex.
But
I will love him if him is the person willing to lose...

 

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I was wondering who'd be the first simple mind who would come to say *insert silly voice here*: "oh but what is 'healthy' is not something subjective?? asljglghas...." So funny that 'someone' is Mr. EiGi :P

Jealousy means 'not to trust'. If you don't trust on the person you are with, or that person doesn't trust you then... what is the point of being together?

I'm the first one saying that there are as many kind of relationships as people. And for many people, the 'toxic relationships' are the only thing that seems to work (I've seen this many times)  'Jealousy' is not considered a 'positive feeling', and like it or not, it makes a relationship to become 'toxic'. Do you like? Is good for you to base your relationship in negative feelings? Okay, good for you. But just because you like it doesn't change the meaning of what it is. So the title is not like saying: 'I like tomatoe' is more like saying 'I like cocaine'. For me is okay if you like, is your life; live it the way you want. But you're really naive if you don't know that sooner or later, is gonna hurt you.

BTW, "Jealousy is a natural and a healthy feeling"?? Yes, super 'healthy'. Tell that to the hundreds of women who die every year for being battered by their jealousy healthy guys.  I'm sure these women 'appreciate jealousy' a lot... sigh

AG said:

lol, what makes it healthy the way you like, and makes it unhealthy for the way that others like!!! 

it's really a strange response.. The sad thing about it is to see that many people of those who claim to be  freedom fighters all the time, do not like to listen to other people's preferences or choices.. 

It gives me a funny feeling, because the title sounds to me like "I like tomato" while the comments are accusing and fighting for they do not like tomato.. perhaps, they felt targeted in this title or something... Funny, isn't it?

Well, let me say my opinion here, and I will be really proud to say something which do not go with the way of how others like to hear. (here I mean Mary of course :D)

I also like women who appreciate jealousy and consider it as a sign of love.. to me, I see that the woman who does not like jealousy is really a stupid or she has a very destroyed version about love. Why? because Jealousy in a natural and a healthy feeling of a human being, and it signs a true concern and true interest feeling. 



MARY said:

Oh look... so many people who doesn't understand love in a healthy way... sigh.

What you seem to like is a toxic relationship.

Well... now with "do you know" part of the program :D

  • Do you know that by saying that "Jealousy is a natural and a healthy feeling" , I mean that jealousy healthy guys should batter their female partners and kill them?

personally, I don't know that :D 

  • Now, do you know that Jealousy is an antonym of trust???

you are making it too hard for me, I was also not aware of that :S 

  • OK, now it's an easy one.. do you know that when Mary doesn't like something, it's not considered a "positive feeling" or in other words, it's considered "toxic" or even "Cocaine"?

oh yeah, I know this one, I guess :D 

Well... kidding aside..

I am always happy to be your unexpected nightmare here :P 

I just wanna add something here... our cultural differences have always been interesting topic for me.. And it seems that according to your culture backgrounds, jealousy can not be understood other than an opposite of trust, while for me trust is something and jealousy is something very different and more probably related to the third part in the relationship... if I trust my partner, it doesn't mean that I will have rosy feelings to see her being with other men.. because in my culture, men and women are less commonly seen in a relationship (friendship relationship) out of marriage relationship...  

Away from the topic of relationship form between men and women because it's very wide and it's not our point of discussion here, I just want you to imagine it that the feeling when you don't like to see other males with your female partner and vise versa, is a normal and unbiased feeling and it does not have a quality of toxic or non-toxic values.. so, like it or not, it's like a tomato, and you are free to choose it or not.. you will not be harmed if you choose it or do not choose it (as you claimed)..

By the way, I can take it more seriously and say that according to me, it's more likely to be harmed if you do not choose it :D so, I can say the same about your choice "choosing other than tomato on your table will harm you :D" but well, as I am trying to be more understanding towards your culture backgrounds, so I am not gonna say it.. but personally I will say: I like tomato and I will still use it on my table, and I will choose the right people who like tomato like me to sit on my table with me :D 



MARY said:

I was wondering who'd be the first simple mind who would come to say *insert silly voice here*: "oh but what is 'healthy' is not something subjective?? asljglghas...." So funny that 'someone' is Mr. EiGi :P

Jealousy means 'not to trust'. If you don't trust on the person you are with, or that person doesn't trust you then... what is the point of being together?

I'm the first one saying that there are as many kind of relationships as people. And for many people, the 'toxic relationships' are the only thing that seems to work (I've seen this many times)  'Jealousy' is not considered a 'positive feeling', and like it or not, it makes a relationship to become 'toxic'. Do you like? Is good for you to base your relationship in negative feelings? Okay, good for you. But just because you like it doesn't change the meaning of what it is. So the title is not like saying: 'I like tomatoe' is more like saying 'I like cocaine'. For me is okay if you like, is your life; live it the way you want. But you're really naive if you don't know that sooner or later, is gonna hurt you.

BTW, "Jealousy is a natural and a healthy feeling"?? Yes, super 'healthy'. Tell that to the hundreds of women who die every year for being battered by their jealousy healthy guys.  I'm sure these women 'appreciate jealousy' a lot... sigh

do you know that when Mary doesn't like something, it's not considered a "positive feeling"

Oh, excuse moiiii, so it must be me and my 'cultural background' that 'jealousy' is something more negative than positive!!!   But wait, just in case, I'm gonna check the 'cultural background' of the Dictionary (you know, that 'thing' that collects lot of words and their more accurate meaning)

Jealous (adjective)

1.
feeling resentment against someone because of that person's rivalry, success, or advantages 

2.
feeling resentment because of another's success, advantage, etc.

3.
characterized by or proceeding from suspicious fears or envious resentment:
a jealous rage; jealous intrigues.

4.
inclined to or troubled by suspicions or fears of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims: a jealous husband.

5.
vigilant in maintaining or guarding something (possessive)

(resources: Dictionary.com, Cambridge Dictionary, Oxford Dictionary)

So... 'resentment', 'fears', 'suspicious'... what a curious thing that all these words don't seem very 'positive' ones... But wait!! maybe i'm still 'blinded' by my 'cultural background'. Let's check what Synonyms shows the Dictionary and compare them with the Antonyms:

Synonyms for jealous (Dictionary.com)

anxious, envious, intolerant, possessive, resentful, skeptical, suspicious, mistrustful...

Antonyms for jealous (Dictionary.com)

calm, content, undoubting, unworried, confident, satisfied, trusting, unresentful...

Oh Snap! How curious is the 'cultural background' of the dictionary... right?

Thanks EiGi, I've learnt a lot...

Now, keep eating your tomatoes, but be careful not to get an indigestion.

If I were you I would not choose that kind of guy. Because if he truly loves a woman, why he will inflict an ugly feeling to their relationship. The foundation of a relationship is trust and love, if he trusts her he will not feel that way. It's like anxiety or depression that you will feel insecure.

But some find it cute if the jealous person expresses in a way that he only wants the full attention of the other. (like what drama series trying to portray)

Media misinterpretation.

Well... I just wonder and wonder :) as AG said his cultural background differs and like it was told here before that men and women - strangers almost have no chance to meet... can anybody tell me then how in such evironment can be one jealous as both genders are "separated"? I just wanted to say that as one has no freedom to meet different gender, talk with them etc. - then people can't know the meaning of the word jealousy...nah?


AG said:

lol, what makes it healthy the way you like, and makes it unhealthy for the way that others like!!! 

it's really a strange response.. The sad thing about it is to see that many people of those who claim to be  freedom fighters all the time, do not like to listen to other people's preferences or choices.. 

It gives me a funny feeling, because the title sounds to me like "I like tomato" while the comments are accusing and fighting for they do not like tomato.. perhaps, they felt targeted in this title or something... Funny, isn't it?

Well, let me say my opinion here, and I will be really proud to say something which do not go with the way of how others like to hear. (here I mean Mary of course :D)

I also like women who appreciate jealousy and consider it as a sign of love.. to me, I see that the woman who does not like jealousy is really a stupid or she has a very destroyed version about love. Why? because Jealousy in a natural and a healthy feeling of a human being, and it signs a true concern and true interest feeling. 



MARY said:

Oh look... so many people who doesn't understand love in a healthy way... sigh.

What you seem to like is a toxic relationship.


Hey Ag,
Now lemme place my point here, like I said before jealousy is considerable if it is in the limit or the person gets jealous sometimes, but on the other hand if a person is always jealous and snatch the freedom of partner then what would u call it?
Now would u say it is natural healthy feeling?
Would u prefer a wife who always for no reason feel insecure n get jealous when u simply communicate with other females reason what so ever the reason is. Except romantic talk....lol finally at some point u find Ur partner to be a real nagging one.
It is not only about jelous men u can try to keep urself in this situation n think about it.
So I would say jealousy is okay once in a blue moon but not frequently. I like tomatoes seldom :D
Thanks ^_^

well...

It is your right to like something or dislike.. 

But.. If you wanna hear member'a opinions about jealousy, i will tell mine:

There is three category of jealous ppl:

- not jealous at all  ( I dont understand this kind of ppl. In this category you will find "open relationships", swingers, and many other deviaton behave..  Indifference, unconcern is not related with love. So, not my type.)

- normal jealous ( They are healthy ppl, passionate, fighters for love, carefull about family, protectors of marriage.. I support this kind of ppl)

- extreamly jealous ( They have some kind of sickness.. They are ready to suspend partner of elementary things in life, in the name of "love".. But, deep under such "love" is  his own unsecure, very low self esteem, low confidence.. and so.. Such kind of ppl are ready control every second of your life..  They are ready to make hell of life coz he suspect you look at some man while you walking on the street.. They are ready to beat wife if someone call her on phone by mistake..  It is not fun and cool at all.. It is sickness which must be cured..)

  I think I agree to this idea or topic about jealousy specially this one belongs to man ,

because jealous man has got the right to keep his partner a way of those what to share him what really possess either something or somone .

Ella, 

I like your comment so much, you summed it up all, I guess :) 



ella said:

well...

It is your right to like something or dislike.. 

But.. If you wanna hear member'a opinions about jealousy, i will tell mine:

There is three category of jealous ppl:

- not jealous at all  ( I dont understand this kind of ppl. In this category you will find "open relationships", swingers, and many other deviaton behave..  Indifference, unconcern is not related with love. So, not my type.)

- normal jealous ( They are healthy ppl, passionate, fighters for love, carefull about family, protectors of marriage.. I support this kind of ppl)

- extreamly jealous ( They have some kind of sickness.. They are ready to suspend partner of elementary things in life, in the name of "love".. But, deep under such "love" is  his own unsecure, very low self esteem, low confidence.. and so.. Such kind of ppl are ready control every second of your life..  They are ready to make hell of life coz he suspect you look at some man while you walking on the street.. They are ready to beat wife if someone call her on phone by mistake..  It is not fun and cool at all.. It is sickness which must be cured..)

Luciiiii,

As the matter, I don't want to ignore you here.. so let me say shortly, booooooooooom :D



Luci said:

Well... I just wonder and wonder :) as AG said his cultural background differs and like it was told here before that men and women - strangers almost have no chance to meet... can anybody tell me then how in such evironment can be one jealous as both genders are "separated"? I just wanted to say that as one has no freedom to meet different gender, talk with them etc. - then people can't know the meaning of the word jealousy...nah?

it's your choice...go get it

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