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Let me recall my memory.  

Yes, she was not a very attractive girl.  Very thin and not very attractive.  I had to encourage and praise her so that she could catch up on her studies and get rid of her gloom.  I made her be convinced that she is beautiful within her own personality.

And I was surprised that she really started to look beautiful and attractive.

How far is it possible or it was just my imagination?

You are welcome to opine.

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May be its your imagination .....she already headed towards a new life and trying to groom herself slowly....very slowly ...may be she discussed it to get an idea....may be...

I do believe possitive comments have impect...on us. Listen...beauty means a combination of many things....and I know if a good looking woman does not care to do her hair or if she wears a dress which does not go with her....she will not look as per her beaity...so when a person looks good he or she wears perfect dresses...of course inner beauty and good behaviour....the way they speak ot smile play a role. In your case msy be that girl got confidence by your words....and along with it most probably she started choosing her dresses or doing her hair in that way which complement her. And, it is also true when we are on the right way means when we have good result, good job we usually feel better then we feel confident and smart....finally we look more beautiful than before. It is my observation...smart people look more beautiful than an unsmart beautiful person. And it is also true we should get proper weight...as over weight makes people.....bad looking likewise less weight....it may be another reason to get a better look of that young lady.....l ol....anyway different type topics

Thanks bet for such an elaborative comment!

bet said:

I do believe possitive comments have impect...on us. Listen...beauty means a combination of many things....and I know if a good looking woman does not care to do her hair or if she wears a dress which does not go with her....she will not look as per her beaity...so when a person looks good he or she wears perfect dresses...of course inner beauty and good behaviour....the way they speak ot smile play a role. In your case msy be that girl got confidence by your words....and along with it most probably she started choosing her dresses or doing her hair in that way which complement her. And, it is also true when we are on the right way means when we have good result, good job we usually feel better then we feel confident and smart....finally we look more beautiful than before. It is my observation...smart people look more beautiful than an unsmart beautiful person. And it is also true we should get proper weight...as over weight makes people.....bad looking likewise less weight....it may be another reason to get a better look of that young lady.....l ol....anyway different type topics

Thanks Usra for such a beautiful comment.

That is so possible, I don't know how to explain clearly but when we feel beautiful, we are beautiful. Not that over confidence...just attractive, well I find all girls attractive. :)

"I think attractiveness comes from the way you think about your self, once you start appreciating your good qualities whether looks or intelligence you become confident and look attractive."

Dear Mishaikh, let me say it is really possible. Thanks for starting so interesting and lifelike discussions. As to me, all girls/women are attractive, but they may have different opinions looking into the mirrors or seeing the reaction of others. It is my understanding that such girls are not confident enough, they have no idea how good and attractive they are. I know, our dear Mary will call me a sexist again, but I will tell her and others it is us, men, who can change such girls' attitude to themselves very easily. And it is not our merit, it is chemistry and it is subconscious in any age. We all want to look attractive for the other sex. We may think we do it for ourselves, but it is not so. We want others to pay attention to us. So, if a girl feels desperate and we show her she is unique, she will change her attitude to herself, she will become self-confident and she will change her image for sure. Of course, she may change because of different reasons, for example making a great career, but men's attention is a must!

Dear Mary, I am ready to hear all your accusations. My head is ready to be separated from my body! I am looking forward to anything you can say as Luci has become a very peaceful individual!

I didn't get it, actually. That woman has to do that for the other sex, innately every woman is attractive and beautiful.

Danny Clark said:

 We all want to look attractive for the other sex. 

Thanks Danny for explanatory comment.

Danny Clark said:

Dear Mishaikh, let me say it is really possible. Thanks for starting so interesting and lifelike discussions. As to me, all girls/women are attractive, but they may have different opinions looking into the mirrors or seeing the reaction of others. It is my understanding that such girls are not confident enough, they have no idea how good and attractive they are. I know, our dear Mary will call me a sexist again, but I will tell her and others it is us, men, who can change such girls' attitude to themselves very easily. And it is not our merit, it is chemistry and it is subconscious in any age. We all want to look attractive for the other sex. We may think we do it for ourselves, but it is not so. We want others to pay attention to us. So, if a girl feels desperate and we show her she is unique, she will change her attitude to herself, she will become self-confident and she will change her image for sure. Of course, she may change because of different reasons, for example making a great career, but men's attention is a must!

Dear Mary, I am ready to hear all your accusations. My head is ready to be separated from my body! I am looking forward to anything you can say as Luci has become a very peaceful individual!

I believe that to encourage second one like Misha described is very essential and can help oposite gender to raise their self-confidence... Like Danny said we all want to look attractive - many aren't aware of it but it might be not because of other sex but because we "compete" with the same gender... so like I once read women put make up on not because of men but because of other women to beat them with "natural" beauty :D When it comes to making others stronger by supporting them..it is sth what can do only those who love..

Very well explained Luci. I do agree.

Luci said:

I believe that to encourage second one like Misha described is very essential and can help oposite gender to raise their self-confidence... Like Danny said we all want to look attractive - many aren't aware of it but it might be not because of other sex but because we "compete" with the same gender... so like I once read women put make up on not because of men but because of other women to beat them with "natural" beauty :D When it comes to making others stronger by supporting them..it is sth what can do only those who love..

Dear Luci, I agree about women, they really compete in looking better. But men try to look good for women only! Hahaha!

Luci said:

I believe that to encourage second one like Misha described is very essential and can help oposite gender to raise their self-confidence... Like Danny said we all want to look attractive - many aren't aware of it but it might be not because of other sex but because we "compete" with the same gender... so like I once read women put make up on not because of men but because of other women to beat them with "natural" beauty :D When it comes to making others stronger by supporting them..it is sth what can do only those who love..

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